I think sexting is the safe bet, if it gets too freaky you can disconnect and imagination is fun. I have had no luck in the chat room. Most people there are not even members just guests with throwaway accounts posting pics. I don't want to make my face famous on the internet I have enough...
In college my roommate came home stoned and woke me up masturbating, I was embarrassed and she asked me if i liked to watch her, I said no and buried my head under the pillow. To this day I fantasize about her.
I do have an attraction to women and have had fantasies about romantic encounters. If I give myself an O during this I often feel ashamed after so I rarely finish myself or over maybe a few days thinking about it do so. I was always taught marriage was forever and with it is the romance. But...