butterfly_trans_fem
The basics: I'm trans female, 46, living in the US. I'm attracted to women, particularly Dominant women.
Before you read anything else:
I love:
I will:
I won't:
Before you read anything else:
- I am not a "chick with a dick." I identify lesbian female through and through, and expect to be treated like a girl. If you don't know the difference between transgender people vs cross-dressers (sometimes called transvestites), please educate yourself or ask.
- I will share pictures of my face. I don't do body shots or webcam unless I'm in a relationship with someone. No exceptions.
I love:
- women (both cisgendered and trans female)! And no, that doesn't mean I hate men.
- being treated strictly (if I trust you)! It actually calms me.
- role-playing! More on that below.
- getting spanked!
I will:
- friend people who want to be friends, can carry on a conversation, show some ability to empathize with others, and are honest with me.
- role-play! I love role-playing, particularly in institutional settings like schools, universities, or offices. I also like some role-plays in fantasy settings. I get the most out of role-playing submissive characters. A sample list of topics I enjoy: corporal punishment, domestic discipline, domestic service, scolding, being objectified for a woman's pleasure, bondage, strap ons, anal play.
- chat about almost anything. I enjoy hearing about other people's interests, and I get that we all sometimes just want to talk to someone.
- get spanked if I trust you (and you're into it). I love spankings! And I hate them. And I love them. If you're a spanko, you get it.
- submit to a Woman if 1) She's interested, 2) there is some chemistry between us, 3) She accepts me for who I am, and 4) She is willing to prove she's a Woman. And no, I don't mean pussy pics. I mean some sort of connection where we both can verify that we are who we say were are.
- take orders from Women I trust.
- show pictures of my face if I trust you.
- talk openly about what being trans means to me. There are a lot of misconceptions out there and I understand that some people just want basic information so as to distinguish fact from fiction. I'm happy to answer what questions I can. I fully support the idea that gender is an identity, not merely the parts between our legs, and I'm affirming of all gender identities, including nonbinary and agendered people.
- accept a wide variety of views, provided they aren't based on hatred and/or a complete lack of evidence.
- help to create space for people who feel excluded or misunderstood, provided they are willing to listen to other points of view.
- be as honest and authentic as I can.
I won't:
- talk to you if you can't carry on a conversation. Hint: if your first words to me are "asl" or "send pics," I probably won't talk to you.
- continue talking to you if you lie to me. If you're a man pretending to be a woman, I'll block you. It's not that I dislike men, but I definitely dislike liars.
- continue talking to you if you don't allow some back-and-forth exchange in a conversation. If you only want to talk about yourself, I'm not interested. If you only want to talk about me, I'm not interested.
- get into an argument about whether I'm a "real" woman or not. I will be the first to admit that there are many things cisgendered women understand that I don't. If you don't think I'm a real woman, I respect your opinion. I just ask that you respect my decision to be true to myself.
- do sexy stuff with you if you're a man (cisgendered or trans male). I'm just not interested. And no, it's not about you. Plenty of people on this site like men; you shouldn't have trouble finding one.
- show pictures of my body.
- go on a webcam except in a relationship where I'm officially submitting to Someone.
- show interest in: futanari, cuckolding, piss play, scat play, fire play, cutting.
