A thread to help us deal with this emotion. Post your experience, thoughts, or personal feelings. Hopefully it will result in a discussion that will benefit someone. I will start ...
I hate when my concern for someone turns into jealousy. When he is away or I don't hear from him, it's always starts as a concern for his well being. If it goes on longer, then shit goes through my head. I know it's part insecurity, lack of communication, etc but how do you cope?
I think you need to remind yourself that it's you, and not he, who's creating that anxiety and not let your mind run wild with silly scenarios. A little jealousy can be flattering. Full blown psycho jealously is extremely off putting. I'm not suggesting that's where you are, but only speaking from personal experience. Women tend to like confidence in their men. Confident men tend to feel the same about women. At least I do.
Im guilty of over thinking. My thing is no confidence im positive im not good enough and it worse when it that time of the month lol x
I remind myself if that every time. And yes you are 100% correct, confidence is attractive. And also a little jealousy is flattering. Wish he would show a little sometimes. Would make a woman feel better bout herself.
Witchy from what I've seen you and Devon are solid as a rock. Don't over think it. Just go with the flow.
Girl, you two are so good together and @Dcdevon is a good man. August will be heaven for both of you.
I agree. Come August you'll be so happy you'll look back at this and think "what the Hell was i worried about "
Cmon Nikki. I do get jealous but never threatened baby. Look youre a beautiful woman. I see men and woman look, even see men approach you, where is the harm in that? Now if they are being disrepectful to you or our relationship, thats another thing. The blades come out, you know that for a fact. Bottom line is I love you. But that doesnt mean I own you. To me the sexiest thing about my partner is to see what she does with her freedom. To choose me. To choose being away from me. To choose to be happy. Thats all I ever want from you. Now as far as all the thoughts that go through your mind? Im a fucking angel, dressed in white, with a golden halo. Sooo Watcha Talkin Bout Willis. *pout* Smile babe. I love you like no one else will ever love you.
Well you certainly are good enough. I feel pretty lucky actually. So get those thoughts out your head mwah!!
LOL mine is aluminum foil colored with a gold Sharpee. Gotta get me a real one from HRU though. Thats the authentic stuff.
Jealousy is usually Insecurity wearing a green mask. Can't say I'm immune to it's deception, but it's who I usually look for when that feeling strikes. For me it helps to know that it may be more ME creating a scenario, than a scenario actually taking place.
In all honesty .. this thread is more serious that I make it sound. Jealousy can cause such a disaster in relationships. I know its easier said than done, but to respect self and then one another is really the only solution. Its a daily battle to do this because jealousy and anger are such easy emotions to feel. But if you practice everyday to respect who you are and then respect who your partner is, the result understanding. Understand First, Question Never, Love Always