Feeling neglected and unwanted. Boo me right? WGAF? Anyways, I'm always initiating intimacy, I flirt more than she does. She doesn't do Anything to show me intimacy. Doesn't even cuddle. Is this how my marriage is going g to be for the rest of my life? WTF happened? "Too tired, not feeling it, not a good time"... Wasn't like this before... maybe I'm just venting. But would you feel the same if you only had sex with your spouse 3 times in the past 2.5 years? Need a woman's wisdom.
I think that you're completely fair for being hurt over this. I've actually been on the neglecting side of the situation and coming out of it I saw how shitty I was being. Have you confronted her about this? When I did it to my partner I wasn't all there and was kinda just moving on auto pilot and just be very emotionally neglectful snd that's caused lasting damage to this day. So, my first piece of advice or suggestion would be to sit down and tell her she's neglecting you emotionally and why you're feeling so neglected. Because if she really loves you she'll listen and take it and fix the problem. The shitty part for me is I was told, a few times I think, and i was just still in my own world just zoned out on shit I shouldn't have been doing. But you didn't mention addiction or anything. So maybe she just doesn't know or realize she's doing that. If it's already been discusse, especially more than once.. i would end it because that's not really love if she doesn't care enough to try to make you feel more loved and cared for. I'm not proud of what I did or how I handled the situation but I know now what it's like on both sides. If she really loves you she won't do what I did and be resistant and defensive.. she'll change her behaviors. I thought i loved my partner and i did and still do but I wasn't loving them the way THEY needed. I was stubborn and dumb and reactive in our discussions.. and continued to behave the same way hurting them more and more. So yeah. That's my opinion and experience. Hope it helps..
