I am not too sure if this is for this area of threads. But I really wanted to talk out of the trolls and/or bullying that had been up chats recently. Now. Yes I do not give them any kind of attention stage, but it seems that they usually attack only me. And sometimes although staying quiet, and blocking. Words can hurt of course. Can I ask what a one can do?
Blocking and ignoring are your best two options. Usually trolls just want attention and will stop when they find out they are not getting any attention.
First line of defense is what SexyAsianBitch is suggesting. Tell them that you're not interested in interactions with them. If they continue circumvent your attempts to block and ignore them, start collecting evidence (screenshot evidence is best). Once you believe there's enough evidence (say, instances of prolonged, very specific targeted harassment over a few weeks or a month), contact a moderator with evidence. A moderator will either take appropriate action or forward the issue to an administrator. We usually have a discussion with the asshole and it *typically* ends. If shitty activity continues, we can start taking more drastic measures, like account suspensions, temporary bans, prolonged bans, etc. Some people change for the better and some need to be permanently removed, because they're clearly not interested in being part of the community. But in most cases, we believe, people can adjust their behavior--who knows what they have going in their lives and perhaps they need help themselves.
That's why posting the dm in main always worked. Let the rest of chat have a look at the shit being posted. It's against the rules here though.
Re-posting private content in public is RUDE AF. Some people might not have a social filter and may message ignorant junk in private, not realizing what they're doing. There's a better approach. Just like your ignorant, socially inept garbage in public threads, effects of which you still don't quite comprehend.
@Stanthropical I really appreciate the clarity with which you laid that out. One question: is it really necessary to wait a couple of weeks. Surely it should be sufficient for someone to clearly state: "I want you to stop sending me private/direct messages". Surely a failure to respect a clearly stated boundary should be enough to warrant moderator intervention. Or am I missing something here?
I was referring to this, specifically. I interpreted that to mean that "sufficient evidence" required unwanted messages to have to occur over a period of weeks. There's no need to condescendingly tell me to reread what you posted. I'm more than capable of comprehending the written word. What I was asking for was clarification on whether it was really necessary to gather weeks of evidence, thereby requiring users to put up with unwanted messages, rather than intervening as soon as clearly stated boundaries have been broached.
If FCN banned all people misbehaving slightly after they've had a bad day/week/month/whatever and didn't know where to channel their rage, and chat happened to be that channel, there'd be nobody here. People are humans, not robots. If I were condescending, it would've been something along the lines of "Did you even read what I posted?" You've first indicated that my reply was clear, then proceeded to suggest that there's something wrong with it, even though I think I've addressed all angles. Perhaps you should re-read it. I"m being very transparent about how we mod.
Accusing someone of Harassment and pretending to have them blocked in order to create drama should be a ban-able thing. In fact, I have seen someone get banned over it. The victim of the manipulation should not be banned. It’s wrong and sends the wrong message to chatters. Also takes away from the real nut bars who stalk and harass people and tells them that it’s okay. The bully’s prevail.. My suggestion, Stanthropical, is to ensure that your mods are looking at facts and not drama when they attempt to keep the site safe from bullies and harassment. I am truly disheartened this week by the lack of consistency here and I am usually I huge supporter of every mod.
This protocol most certainly has not been followed this week; perhaps your mod needs training. See my comments below
It tickles me to think of you getting up early on your day off and being a grumpy warrior with your coffee and robe. Glad to see the process working. X
