Learned that lesson the hard way. Turns out, if they are into you, and you put in the effort even without money, they'll be down. If not, you probably dodged a bullet.
HODY plan perfectly everything you want to say to someone, and it just comes out all wrong?
I don't plan much, I just say stuff...much like my jokes it's the shotgun effect, if I launch enough pellets, something hits the target, and a bunch don't.