Depression

LatinaLezz

LatinaLezz

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I struggle with depression and idk how to get out of it.i m always looking for something but idk what anymore.i just want to b happy.
 
Hi there,

I'm not sure if this is a serious post or not. I've been here enough to realize that some people just make up posts for reasons beyond my comprehension. That said, I'll grace this with a serious reply, not my usual tongue-in-cheek replies, and if it makes a difference in your or someone else's world, then good.

Depression is a clinical illness. It isn't a transient feeling of sadness, lack of motivation, or desire to live life. It is a constantly recurring event that has such depth as to affect one's normal life routine. There is still a stigma attached to mental illnesses, and an ignorance surrounding it. Platitudes do jackshit for this. "Just get up and do it", "get over it", "think positive" only work in the moment, if they do. This is an actual neurochemical imbalance.

So your first step would be to find :
- a therapist, and
- a psychiatrist
Ideally you want to have both helping you. If you had to choose one - for financial or logistical reasons - I'd say, go with the psychiatrist. Therapy can only go so far, and frankly you can work through quite a bit with the right set of friends, and with enough motivation - motivation which is easier to funnel when your brain starts to stabilize into "normal range".

Therapists and psychiatrist tend to be expensive. If that is a hindrance, find a solution to it.
Here are some ideas of how to go about finding a pro bono therapist: https://www.huffpost.com/entry/how-to-get-therapy-for-less-than-10_b_9157656
For a psychiatrist, once it's diagnosed and you set course on a treatment plan, and have something that works for you - it can take a few months - after that it is maintenance, the appointments are spread out and the costs of the appointment can therefore be laid out over months.

Therapy comes in many forms - neurolinguistic programming (NLP), cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), dialectical behavioural therapy (DBT), and many other forms. You'll find something that works for you.

The first step is getting yourself to make those calls, to find someone who you want to go see, and get yourself out on the days of the appointments.
For that, you have to be:
(1) committed to yourself, and tell yourself you won't give up - if just on that day of the appointment, do things moment by moment
(2) You're not in this alone. Don't isolate yourself. It is an automatic tendency to do that. That is what the disease does. You end up with no one to talk to, no one to turn to. You feel like no one will understand and you'll be judged. It's a lonely world to be in and there is just no end to the bottom. Have a few close friends who you can confide in about what you deal with, and tell them what you have planned, so they remind you that you have to do this, and who'll check up on you.
(3) Be good to yourself. Drag yourself out of bed to take a walk, to do a workout, to do some yoga or meditate. Remember to eat foods healthy for your body.

Last, and I cannot stress this enough, if you are having suicidal thoughts:
Call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline : 1-800-273-8255
Or use the crisis hotline to text, if you don't want to talk to someone : https://www.crisistextline.org

I believe you can get through this. Don't think you can do this out of sheer will. Determination can only take you so far, no matter how far it is. Clinical depression is not an illness you can outrun. Meds help. Therapy helps.

Be well
xx
 
Thalassa said:
Hi there,

I'm not sure if this is a serious post or not. I've been here enough to realize that some people just make up posts for reasons beyond my comprehension. That said, I'll grace this with a serious reply, not my usual tongue-in-cheek replies, and if it makes a difference in your or someone else's world, then good.

Depression is a clinical illness. It isn't a transient feeling of sadness, lack of motivation, or desire to live life. It is a constantly recurring event that has such depth as to affect one's normal life routine. There is still a stigma attached to mental illnesses, and an ignorance surrounding it. Platitudes do jackshit for this. "Just get up and do it", "get over it", "think positive" only work in the moment, if they do. This is an actual neurochemical imbalance.

So your first step would be to find :
- a therapist, and
- a psychiatrist
Ideally you want to have both helping you. If you had to choose one - for financial or logistical reasons - I'd say, go with the psychiatrist. Therapy can only go so far, and frankly you can work through quite a bit with the right set of friends, and with enough motivation - motivation which is easier to funnel when your brain starts to stabilize into "normal range".

Therapists and psychiatrist tend to be expensive. If that is a hindrance, find a solution to it.
Here are some ideas of how to go about finding a pro bono therapist: https://www.huffpost.com/entry/how-to-get-therapy-for-less-than-10_b_9157656
For a psychiatrist, once it's diagnosed and you set course on a treatment plan, and have something that works for you - it can take a few months - after that it is maintenance, the appointments are spread out and the costs of the appointment can therefore be laid out over months.

Therapy comes in many forms - neurolinguistic programming (NLP), cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), dialectical behavioural therapy (DBT), and many other forms. You'll find something that works for you.

The first step is getting yourself to make those calls, to find someone who you want to go see, and get yourself out on the days of the appointments.
For that, you have to be:
(1) committed to yourself, and tell yourself you won't give up - if just on that day of the appointment, do things moment by moment
(2) You're not in this alone. Don't isolate yourself. It is an automatic tendency to do that. That is what the disease does. You end up with no one to talk to, no one to turn to. You feel like no one will understand and you'll be judged. It's a lonely world to be in and there is just no end to the bottom. Have a few close friends who you can confide in about what you deal with, and tell them what you have planned, so they remind you that you have to do this, and who'll check up on you.
(3) Be good to yourself. Drag yourself out of bed to take a walk, to do a workout, to do some yoga or meditate. Remember to eat foods healthy for your body.

Last, and I cannot stress this enough, if you are having suicidal thoughts:
Call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline : 1-800-273-8255
Or use the crisis hotline to text, if you don't want to talk to someone : https://www.crisistextline.org

I believe you can get through this. Don't think you can do this out of sheer will. Determination can only take you so far, no matter how far it is. Clinical depression is not an illness you can outrun. Meds help. Therapy helps.

Be well
xx
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Well said Thalassa❤

You got it. If you have a chronic form and or re occurring episodes you will benefit by seeking help from a mental health provider. It may never go away, but it can be managed with help and time. Most importantly with help you can have a life with happiness in it. Be well and much peace to you ❤
 
Don’t be afraid of medications. I don’t necessarily believe in pills for everything but when your mind is fighting you, having a medication that helps even out the imbalance in your brain can be exactly what you need to be able to do the things @Thalassa said. You don’t have to be on them forever. But don’t quit them unless you’re in therapy, in my opinion. Otherwise the illness may come back and take your legs out from underneath you again and you’ll be back at painful, debilitating square one.
 
LatinaLezz said:
I struggle with depression and idk how to get out of it.i m always looking for something but idk what anymore.i just want to b happy.
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Hit the gym or play video games. Study have shown that having a regular workout routine can help fight depression. Video games are also seen as having the same effect. So either one would really be helpful to you.
 
In the same boat too i'm afraid, i think what's important though is to never give up on yourself and do what you can to lift your spirits.
 
I find the concept of "clinically depressed" hilarious and ridiculous. Depression is not a medical matter, even though there actual prescriptions for it. People have created medicine for every inconvenience.
 
YadaYada said:
I find the concept of "clinically depressed" hilarious and ridiculous. Depression is not a medical matter, even though there actual prescriptions for it. People have created medicine for every inconvenience.
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That's ignorant Yada. Depression is a medical condition, it isn't situational sadness. It's a chemical imbalance in the brain. Depression isn't just an inconvenience it's an invisible illness that many people suffer from. Just because you do not see it or understand it, doesn't mean it doesn't exist or it's an "inconvenience" people die from depression every year. It's a very serious illness that affects many people.
 
It is situational as there are many external factors that affects one's mood. How one views depression depends on that person's beliefs. Someone can view depression as a good thing or as a bad thing. Also, I am not a fan of medicine and trying to create medicine for everything is lunacy. Emotions are not physical things, only concepts.
 
YadaYada said:
It is situational as there are many external factors that affects one's mood. How one views depression depends on that person's beliefs. Someone can view depression as a good thing or as a bad thing. Also, I am not a fan of medicine and trying to create medicine for everything is lunacy. Emotions are not physical things, only concepts.
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Situational sadness ≠ depression

Not the same thing.

This mindset actively harms people who suffer from depression. You are saying depression doesn't exist and is situational sadness when not only is this a horribly inaccurate statement but it's grossly ignorant. Depression actually is a medical condition that many people suffer from. You seem to confuse situational sadness with depression. You're free to take or not take medicine, but some people need medicine to treat depression. Depression is a chemical imbalance and gets treated with daily medicine, therapy and doctors, among other treatments. Depression is not an emotion it's a medical condition.

Everyone has situational sadness, which is normal. But depression is a mental illness, not an emotion. You're confusing two different things and making offensive statements. You're also trivializing a serious medical condition by stating people are being dramatic by trying to say it's an emotion.
 
Depression is not something that you just go cheer yourself up and you're good. It doesn't work that way.

The author of the piece linked to below compares depression to "drowning with no way to escape and being pulled far down beneath the water." I thought about submarine stories I have read where the boat is sinking, the captain gives the order "blow negative, full rise on the planes," the water is forced from the tanks and replaced by air, and yet the boat continues to sink. Yeah, that's depression.

The author also noted that you work hard to climb out only to find something at the top that sends you spiraling back down into depression. You have righted your ship, only to be hit by another torpedo.

"If you want to help or encourage those with depression, do or say the following: I love you. I am here for you. How can I help you? I want to understand. You are not a burden, bad, etc. You are not replaceable."

https://themighty.com/2016/11/depre...kGXA-uA4mQjwDe9tXr0IJdaZVze_ZtOyMsx8KezNTmWAE
 
A new day comes and with it the possibilities of who knows what

Life for sure, love and brightness shining banishing the darkness of before

The horizon before us, the present we live, but the future beckoning us forward

Darkness carried in our minds, bad choices, friends lost and the fear of uncertainty

The sun shining brightly down on our lives

so do we chose to live in the light or live within the darkness

A choice to live every day as if it were our last

or letting our bodies slowly die by sinking into the pits of despair.

Live for the future or be lost in the past

We all carry darkness in our minds

those moments forever with us

but it is whether we chose to keep it in our head or let it take control of our hearts
 
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