Love Or Sex
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Sabrina270
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Love.....without a doubt.. the more you love someone, the better the sex is anyways!!
you can have love without sex, if you have sex without love then it is not a relationship
JacksonR2468
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If I can't have both, I'll choose love.
I would love for you to differentiate in your own words between 'loving' and 'being in love'. Very interesting point you made there. I've got my own definition as well, but curious to compare notes
Loving someone is enough for me. I don't need to be 'in love' with them. The attraction that love gives is all I need.
Lakeside. xx
I would love for you to differentiate in your own words between 'loving' and 'being in love'. Very interesting point you made there. I've got my own definition as well, but curious to compare notes
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If I can't have both, I'll choose love.
I would love for you to differentiate in your own words between 'loving' and 'being in love'. Very interesting point you made there. I've got my own definition as well, but curious to compare notes
Loving someone to me means you care deeply for them. You care that their lives are going well. You care enough that you will always be there if they need help. You care enough to be there if they need a shoulder to cry on or if they need someone to share good news with. They are far more than just a friend.
Being 'in-love' to me would mean that your every waking thought is on that person. Nothing is beyond you and their every wish is your desire. The thought of the person excites you whenever you think about them. You ache when they are not around and feel like a part of you is missing. You long for their touch and their attention. Imagining life without them would just be too painful to bare.
Lakeside xx
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Lupine
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I've always felt that when I'm in love I know it like @Lakeside so eloquently puts it you miss that person around. Even if your both sat in the same room doing different things they are still there for you to just chat to, touch, hold.. I also really know because I start saying they are my other half. Not in the corny or stupid ways guys use that term to almost sound like they have to put up with that person. No, they are my other half because without them I'm not complete..
It also needs to be said that you cannot read should not love someone until you love yourself
If I can't have both, I'll choose love.
I would love for you to differentiate in your own words between 'loving' and 'being in love'. Very interesting point you made there. I've got my own definition as well, but curious to compare notes
HI JACKSON,
THERE IS A THIRD CHOICE YOU KNOW... HOW ABOUT DINNER, AND A MOVIE, AND YOU'RE BUYING, RIGHT?...(GIGGLES AND SMILES AT YOU)...
I THINK THAT'S FAIR CONSIDERING YOU'D WANT... UM "DESSERT", LATER... WINK!, WINK!...
HAHAHAHAHAHA!!!...TC TTYL,
~StarFire~
DANG, I'M BEING SO NAUGHTY TODAY!...HAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHA!!!...
(GIGGLES)...
JacksonR2468
Well-Known Member
HI JACKSON,
THERE IS A THIRD CHOICE YOU KNOW... HOW ABOUT DINNER, AND A MOVIE, AND YOU'RE BUYING, RIGHT?...(GIGGLES AND SMILES AT YOU)...
I THINK THAT'S FAIR CONSIDERING YOU'D WANT... UM "DESSERT", LATER... WINK!, WINK!...
TC TTYL,
~StarFire~
DANG, I'M BEING SO NAUGHTY TODAY!...HAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHA!!!...
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(GIGGLES)...
Women flirting with me and all the suggestiveness -> in my experience they are all just enjoying toying me around to amuse themselves laughing at me, before ending up leaving me stood up or dumping me, and having another climactic last laugh.
Been there way too many times and not falling for that again :/
HELLO JACKSON,
JACKSON!!!...
WHAT IS WRONG WITH YOU?!!!...
DANG, I'M A SCORPIO I CAN NEVER LIE TO ANYONE, YOU'LL GET TO LEARN THIS THE MORE YOU GET TO KNOW ME... I NEVER SAY ANYTHING I DON'T MEAN, EVER... BUT!!!... I AM A "WICKED" FLIRT... WE ALL HAVE OUR TALENTS, AND MINE IS PUTTING A SMILE ON YOUR FACE, AND MAKING YOU LAUGH, IN A GOOD WAY... LMAO JACKSON, I'M NOT LAUGHING AT YOU, I WILL LAUGH WITH YOU, IF YOU KEEP ME AROUND?... I MAY NOT BE THE EASIEST PERSON TO GET TO KNOW, AND AS YOU'VE EXPERIENCED I AM CERTAINLY NOT PERFECT... I MAKE MISTAKES, CAUSE I'M HUMAN... BUT, I WOULD NEVER INTENTIONALLY HURT YOU, OR, ANYONE ELSE... YES, I OPEN MY BIG FAT MOUTH, AND SAY STUPID THINGS BEFORE CLEARLY THINKING OUT HOW MY WORDS WILL BE RECEIVED...
JUST KNOW THAT I WON'T EVER SAY ANYTHING TO HURT YOUR FEELINGS, EVER AGAIN...(MY DEAR JACKSON)... I'VE BURNED A LOT OF BRIDGES LATELY, AND I DON'T WANT TO DO IT AGAIN, THAT'S WHY I'M SO HAPPY YOU'RE BACK HERE, POSTING, AND LETTING ME KNOW, YOU FORGIVE MY HUMAN FLAWS... TY AGAIN FOR YOU'RE WONDERFUL IMAGES, AND FOR JUST BEING YOU, AND RETURNING HERE...
JACKSON, I WOULDN'T EVER BE LIKE THE WOMAN YOU DESCRIBE, THAT'S CRUEL... I'M AN HONEST PERSON WITH A BIG FAT MOUTH THAT GET'S ME INTO TROUBLE OFTEN... BUT, WHEN I LIKE SOMEONE I'M AS GOOD A FRIEND AS THEY'VE EVER HAD IN THEIR WHOLE LIFE...
SO, PLEASE DON'T PUT YOURSELF DOWN... THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU, I'VE READ YOUR WORDS ELSE WHERE, AND YOU ARE A KIND, THOUGHTFUL, GIVING, YOUNG MAN... IF I EVER SAY SOMETHING OUT OF LINE, YOU JUST LET ME KNOW... SOMETIMES I'M LIKE A BULL IN A CHINA SHOP(YOUR FEELINGS), AND I SAY THINGS BEFORE I REALLY THINK ABOUT HOW MY WORDS WILL BE RECEIVED... SO, I'M GLAD YOU'RE BACK, AND I LOOK FORWARD TO READING MORE OF YOUR THOUGHTS, AND POSTS HERE...
TC TTYL,
~StarFire~
(GIGGLES, & SMILES AT YOU)... MY FRIEND!...
fortysomething
Active Member
Love or sex is an unfair way to frame this. In the context of a physical relationship it’s a sliding scale based on the situation. There are times where love takes primacy because there the moments where sex is contrived at best, unwanted at worst. At other times, sex has the lion’s share. Sometimes you don’t want to make love, sometimes you crave the rawness of pure lustful sex.
JacksonR2468
Well-Known Member
HELLO JACKSON,
JACKSON!!!...
JACKSON, I'M NOT LAUGHING AT YOU, I WILL LAUGH WITH YOU, IF YOU KEEP ME AROUND?... I MAY NOT BE THE EASIEST PERSON TO GET TO KNOW, AND AS YOU'VE EXPERIENCED I AM CERTAINLY NOT PERFECT... I MAKE MISTAKES, CAUSE I'M HUMAN... BUT, I WOULD NEVER INTENTIONALLY HURT YOU, OR, ANYONE ELSE... YES, I OPEN MY BIG FAT MOUTH, AND SAY STUPID THINGS BEFORE CLEARLY THINKING OUT HOW MY WORDS WILL BE RECEIVED...
I'VE BURNED A LOT OF BRIDGES LATELY, AND I DON'T WANT TO DO IT AGAIN, THAT'S WHY I'M SO HAPPY YOU'RE BACK HERE, POSTING, AND LETTING ME KNOW, YOU FORGIVE MY HUMAN FLAWS... TY AGAIN FOR YOU'RE WONDERFUL IMAGES, AND FOR JUST BEING YOU, AND RETURNING HERE...
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JACKSON, I WOULDN'T EVER BE LIKE THE WOMAN YOU DESCRIBE, THAT'S CRUEL... I'M AN HONEST PERSON WITH A BIG FAT MOUTH THAT GET'S ME INTO TROUBLE OFTEN... BUT, WHEN I LIKE SOMEONE I'M AS GOOD A FRIEND AS THEY'VE EVER HAD IN THEIR WHOLE LIFE...
SO, PLEASE DON'T PUT YOURSELF DOWN... THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU, I'VE READ YOUR WORDS ELSE WHERE, AND YOU ARE A KIND, THOUGHTFUL, GIVING, YOUNG MAN... IF I EVER SAY SOMETHING OUT OF LINE, YOU JUST LET ME KNOW... SOMETIMES I'M LIKE A BULL IN A CHINA SHOP(YOUR FEELINGS), AND I SAY THINGS BEFORE I REALLY THINK ABOUT HOW MY WORDS WILL BE RECEIVED... SO, I'M GLAD YOU'RE BACK, AND I LOOK FORWARD TO READING MORE OF YOUR THOUGHTS, AND POSTS HERE...
TC TTYL,
~StarFire~
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(GIGGLES, & SMILES AT YOU)... MY FRIEND!...
Thanks Starfire - but please don't feel obliged to console me, because I'm doing great.
Women probably like to use me as 'flirt practice', for them to hone their flirting skills until it is good enough for them to dump me and go for the man that they really want. I don't think these women are bad at all - its just that that is the way women see me I suppose - can't blame them.
I'm not at all sad or miserable, life can be better of course, but regardless I'm still having a great life. It is nice to be loved, but if it is so difficult to love me then just to hell with it - I don't care lol
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HELLO JACKSON,
I DON'T NEED TO "HONE", ANYTHING!... I WAS MERELY BEING FLIRTATIOUS, BECAUSE I FIND IT FUN TO DO, AND USUALLY THE PERSON ON THE OTHER END, IS FLATTERED THAT I EVEN BOTHERED TO CONSIDER DOING SO, FOR THEM...
NO OFFENSE JACKSON, BUT I HAVE 2 OTHER CHAT MEN, I AM FRIENDLY WITH HERE, AND MANY MORE WHOM I JUST SPEAK TO IN PM, AND CATCH UP ON WHAT'S BEEN GOING ON IN THEIR LIVES... I TOLD YOU, YOU ARE JUST A FRIEND TO ME...
YOU DON'T GO TO CHAT, SO, YOU WOULDN'T KNOW, EXCEPT MAYBE IN A POST OF MINE WHICH I MADE A FEW, I AM NOT SEEKING TO BE WITH ANY MAN EVER AGAIN!!!... I DON'T MEAN TO BECOME GAY EITHER... I'VE HAD IT UP TO HERE,(I'M 5'7" BTW), POINTS FINGER AT MY FOREHEAD... I AM NOT SEARCHING FOR ANY MAN TO BECOME INVOLVED WITH, AT ALL... I'LL SHOW YOU WHAT I MEAN...
NOW MANY HAVE SEEN THIS MEME I MADE, AND FIND IT AMUSING, WHICH IT WAS TO NOT ONLY SEND A MESSAGE, BUT MAKE PEOPLE SMILE, OR, LAUGH AT IT... I'M 54 GOING ON 55 JACKSON, I HAVE HAD A LONG AND INTERESTING LIFE SO FAR, AND I HAVE NO INTEREST NOW, OR, IN THE NEAR FUTURE TO EVER WANT TO BE INVOLVED WITH A MAN AGAIN!!!...
I JUST HAD 2 RECENT BREAK UP'S, AND OF COURSE CHAT LIKES TO TEASE ME ABOUT THEM... I DON'T GIVE A DAMN... ALL I KNOW IS THAT ONLINE RELATIONSHIPS DON'T WORK, AND UNLESS YOU HAVE THE MONEY TO GO SPEND REAL TIME WITH ANY ONLINE ROMANTIC PARTNER, IN REAL LIFE YOUR ONLINE ROMANCE DOESN'T EXIST... ALL IT IS, ARE WORDS ON A SCREEN THAT FADE AWAY IN A MATTER OF SECONDS...
I GOT BURNED BAD IN MY 2 RECENT SO CALLED RELATIONSHIPS... THEY BOTH SUFFERED THE SAME FLAW... DISTANCE... IF YOU CAN'T BE THERE WITH THEM IN PERSON, FORGET IT!... IT AIN'T GONNA WORK...
ME I HAVE NOTHING TO HOLD ME BACK NOW, OR, LIMIT ME AS TO WHERE I CAN GO NOW FOR MY ADVENTURES, IN LIFE... NO PETS, NO BF'S, NOTHING!!!... I'M A HAPPILY SINGLE WOMAN AGAIN, AND I PLAN TO KEEP IT THAT WAY...
JUST SO YOU KNOW, I HATE WOMAN!!! PERIOD!!!... MY FRIENDS ARE ALL MEN... I FIND THEM MUCH MORE ENJOYABLE THEN SITTING AROUND WITH A BUNCH OF BUSY BODY HENS, DOING NOTHING BUT DISCUSSING THE LATEST CLOTHING LINE, MAKE UP, NAIL POLISH, AND CRAP LIKE THAT... IN TERMS OF WOMAN FRIENDS I'VE ONLY HAD THEM, BACK IN GRADE SCHOOL, TIL I LEARNED BETTER...
SO JACKSON, DON'T WORRY, I MAY FLIRT BUT IT'S ALL IN FUN, NOTHING MORE... THAT'S JUST THE WAY I AM...IT'S MY WAY OF EXPRESSING MY SENSE OF HUMOR, NOTHING MORE... IT'S ALSO, MY WAY OF BREAKING THE ICE WITH SOMEONE NEW, TO GET TO KNOW AS A FRIEND, AND THEY DO SAY, LAUGHTER IS THE BEST MEDICINE... SO, I CHOOSE TO HANG OUT WITH GUYS, INSTEAD...
HONESTLY, THEY'RE NO BETTER THEN WOMAN, WHEN IT COMES TO GOSSIP.... THEY'LL BE TALKING JUST AS MUCH ABOUT THEIR OTHER FRIENDS WHO AREN'T IN THE ROOM, AND THINK NOTHING OF IT...
I HONESTLY, DON'T GIVE A DAMN ABOUT MOST PEOPLE, THE ONLY PEOPLE I HAVE ANY INTEREST IN ARE THE ONES I HANG AROUND WITH, OR, CHAT WITH HERE ON THIS SITE... WHILE I WAS REPLYING TO YOUR POSTS, I WAS IN A CONVERSTAION WITH ONE OF NEW MALE CHAT FRIENDS... HE'S OVER SEAS, I'LL NEVER MEET HIM, AND IT DOESN'T MATTER, CAUSE ALL I WANT IS TO JUST HAVE SOME FAIRLY DECENT MALE CHAT FRIENDS TO LAUGH, SHARE STORIES, TRY OUT JOKES ON, AND SIMPLE TALK TO YOU...
YOU'RE JUST A NEW FRIEND JACKSON, NOTHING MORE... SO, RELAX, THIS COUGAR ISN'T AFTER YOU... THIS COUGAR IS JUST HAVING A BIT OF FUN, WITH YOU!... JACKSON YOU WON'T EVER HAVE TO WORRY ABOUT ME BREAKING YOUR HEART, I'M MERELY JOKING AROUND WITH A FRIEND(YOU)... YOU'LL GET TO KNOW ME BETTER IN TIME, FOR SURE, AND SEE I HAVE A "WICKED", SENSE OF HUMOR, AND I'M ALWAYS THE JOKER, LIFE IS TO DAMN SHORT TO TAKE IT SERIOUSLY, AND BOY I'VE HAD A TON OF SERIOUS LIFE LESSONS... I'M AT AN AGE NOW, WHERE MY NEEDS ARE TO BE MET, SOME MAY SAY I'M BEING SELFISH?... WELL, GUESS WHAT THEY'RE RIGHT, I AM DONE WITH RELATIONSHIPS, PERIOD!!!... ALL I WANT IS A FEW GOOD FRIENDS TO CHAT WITH, AND LAUGH WITH, AND NOTHING MORE... ON THAT NOTE, I'LL SAY GOOD NIGHT TO YOU JACKSON, IT'S LATE, I HAVE SOME COMPUTER THINGS TO DO...
TC, TTYL,
~StarFire~
P.S. IT IS SAD THAT YOU ARE SO CYNICAL ABOUT RELATIONSHIPS... THEN AGAIN I SUPPOSE I AM TOO, NOW AFTER 2 RECENT FAILURES IN THE ROMANCE DEPARTMENT...LOL OH WELL, CAN'T HAVE EVERYTHING, WHERE WOULD YOU PUT IT???...LOL TC JACKSON, LIFE GOES ON...LOL OH HERE'S ONE MORE HOMEMADE MEME YOU MAY LIKE...LOL K GTG... TTFN!
SEE JACKSON, THIS ALL YOU HAVE TO DO WITH WHATEVER BOTHERS YOU..
TTFN!... (GIGGLES)... 
