Jackchalloner96
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Is my male virginity worth keeping till I have a relationship
Is it worth keeping my virginity
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Honestly dear, the majority of people here will scream and shout at you to do it because they only have one thing on their minds. What i did and recommend is lose it to someone special or even a friend, not a random stranger. while it can be fun too, you will always reminisce as an adult about your first time and it won't be as special if it was a cheap drunk hookup. Plus if you remain till a relationship you can feel free to express yourself freely and regularly with her 
Jackchalloner96
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How do I go about finding the gf cause no woman seems to find me attractive
Honestly, nobody here can answer your question except you, yourself, buddy. Chances are, the first time you have sex, it will be rather forgettable and awkward due to the lack of experience. It is for everyone, imo. So the best way to approach this is to not over think it. If you are going to go out and find a stranger just for the sake of losing your virginity, then so be it but use protection. I don't know where you live but there may possibly be a woman on these forums or some other dating site that is willing to help who lives nearby. Even at that, I would want to meet the lady for coffee or lunch and actually talk and find out if there is any chemistry. Without chemistry, sex is crappy, imo.
What the lovely young lady in post 2 said is spot on also. A friend or someone you have contact with and know is always better then a total stranger. They would likely be more understanding and willing to allow you to get through your nervousness so the experience will be better. Again, that part comes down to chemistry.
After reading your second post, I would just say this. Don't be so hard on yourself and lose any negativity. There is no such thing as that old "nobody finds me attractive" nonsense. While there will always be superficial people out there who only look at the outside, there are far more that look beyond that. Any negative thoughts or emotions come out of a person. Confidence and positive thoughts come through as well.
Look, I'm not sure of your situation or your looks or anything else about you. From what little you have posted, it would seem there is something physical that you aren't happy with. My advice would be to do something about it if that's the case. Healthy living choices are everywhere in this world. Diet and exercise, while being helpful in keeping you physically healthy and attractive to others, also help to get your mind and emotions healthy. Also, exercise of the mind is always beneficial. Intelligence might very well be the greatest aphrodisiac we humans can possess.
All I can say is to follow your own path and don't worry too much about whether you are a virgin or not. It's really not the most important thing in the world. You are young with a lot ahead of you. Be the best you can be in all your endeavors and let the chips fall where they may. And good luck to you. Hope 2018 is a good year.
What the lovely young lady in post 2 said is spot on also. A friend or someone you have contact with and know is always better then a total stranger. They would likely be more understanding and willing to allow you to get through your nervousness so the experience will be better. Again, that part comes down to chemistry.
After reading your second post, I would just say this. Don't be so hard on yourself and lose any negativity. There is no such thing as that old "nobody finds me attractive" nonsense. While there will always be superficial people out there who only look at the outside, there are far more that look beyond that. Any negative thoughts or emotions come out of a person. Confidence and positive thoughts come through as well.
Look, I'm not sure of your situation or your looks or anything else about you. From what little you have posted, it would seem there is something physical that you aren't happy with. My advice would be to do something about it if that's the case. Healthy living choices are everywhere in this world. Diet and exercise, while being helpful in keeping you physically healthy and attractive to others, also help to get your mind and emotions healthy. Also, exercise of the mind is always beneficial. Intelligence might very well be the greatest aphrodisiac we humans can possess.
All I can say is to follow your own path and don't worry too much about whether you are a virgin or not. It's really not the most important thing in the world. You are young with a lot ahead of you. Be the best you can be in all your endeavors and let the chips fall where they may. And good luck to you. Hope 2018 is a good year.
Jackchalloner96
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unfortunately my 2018 started off with my childhood pet dying then with the physical changes your on about I lost 6 stone but nothing has seemed to change no women give me the light of day despite all the effort that I have put in
Okay, sorry to hear that about your pet but you will have a lot of death to face in your life. You have to deal with it. Not trying to be callous here. It's just a fact of life. I've watched family members die since I was a child and now all of them are gone. I don't dwell on it. I honor their memory but live my own life.
As for the other, I don't have an easy answer. But maybe, you are trying too hard and coming across as needy to them or maybe you are not what they are looking for in a partner. Like I said earlier, I don't know your situation or anything but this place will likely not supply you with the answer you want to hear. Everybody has problems and trials in life. Deal with them positively or negatively, your choice. But don't expect the world to pat you on the back and make you happy. Life doesn't work that way. The only person that can make you truly happy is yourself. And sex will not make you truly happy either. Sex is a great thing but it is merely one small aspect of our human journey. I really don't have anything more to tell you. Take this for what it is.
I can’t agree more with you here. Well writtenHonestly dear, the majority of people here will scream and shout at you to do it because they only have one thing on their minds. What i did and recommend is lose it to someone special or even a friend, not a random stranger. while it can be fun too, you will always reminisce as an adult about your first time and it won't be as special if it was a cheap drunk hookup. Plus if you remain till a relationship you can feel free to express yourself freely and regularly with her
The highlighted words are the reason why. You're negative as fuck.
Confidence is sexy in both sexes. Losing 6 stone means jack shit if you don't start liking yourself.
Learn to love yourself first, accept your faults, accept you'll never achieve the perfect body, find things you enjoy get happy and eventually get yourself some fanny.
