Please correct me if I'm wrong, but what you seem to be looking for here in this forum post is commentary from those of us who, in our real lives, practice, participate and in some cases, teach or train those, who of their own free will, choose to enter into relationships and life experiences such as those you do and do not mention above?!?!?
If I am correct, this post should get the attention of a few of us who are growing tired of the bastardization of the lifestyle, choice, and self-expression such relationships create when addressed PROPERLY. (That actually applies equally to 'any' mature relationship be it aka, straight or otherwise).
While I do live my private life in this way and, I share what I believe to be helpful information to those who "ask". Discretion and privacy are unfortunately very real elements of life and should be respected.
I don't hold a Ph.D., M.D., or any license to give advice, only first-hand knowledge from 30 years of continued experiences and counting. These are very diverse practices ranging from the bare-bones basic's (that seem to ALWAYS go ignored between those with less than "real knowledge") but HIGHLY Acknowledged and Practiced by Real Dom / Domme. Step One: Communication. Open, Honest, Brutally Straight Forward EQUALLY Given Attention and Respect Communication. *Way too many movie watchers and book readers thinking "Caveman, Club, Woman-WACK! Fuck, Hahaha... Me Dom, You Sub"! If that's what one thinks, I'll call You here or to your face like it really is, Your a Fucking Idiot.
Two: Another misconception. NOT ALL is done to or with a Sub; to the complex of Disciplinarian, WILLFUL Torture, Suspension (Ropes and Piercing which I myself do), Simple to Sexual Tasks, Domestic Qualities, Fetishes. Anything really. There are those "real relationships" that the LOVE and CARING of those participating have an equal balance of said, "power" or dominance. There are those who are Dom / Domme who train their Subs to treat them in ways that suit their needs, IE: Ceaser's, or Cleopatra's, Glamours and even Courtasen Masters within their own homes. There is NO right or wrong in it. Just as there is no right or wrong in the partners we choose as individuals. Personally, I am heterosexual and proudly 100% lesbian. But I support all choices of others equally and I many, many close true friends and even family members who live by many different choices. But I love them NO LESS.
Anyway, I feel like I'm teaching at a community college and my Master's Degree is conflicting with my Musicians Need to Solo!!! So, I'm pulling the plug on this Amp myself. (I know, Thank God / The Gods and Goddesses right!)
IF I'm welcomed back, or asked, I'd love to see where this goes. The chat rooms are going downhill so fast with "real people and real conversations" that the Olympic Committee is tagging FCN Serves for future Downhill Ski Event Options for the Winter Games....this little Forum MAY just save the day! NICE JOB and Great Thought.
SirRocks
