Exercise and Fitness Are dad bods ACTUALLY hot?
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I think mine is. But experiences do vary.
Gaining weight like I did ruined my confidence for a long time. I used to be highly athletic. I'm trying my best to get back into shape but this shits hard
Yes, plus-sized bodies are attractive. Lose weight for yourself, not for anyone else. Don't lose weight because you're trying to attract women. Change yourself for you.
That's exactly why I'm doing it. My confidence is returning little by little.
Speaking as a person with a vagina who is plus-sized, we will never meet society's standards. What is or isn't attractive is a matter of opinion. There are plenty of women who like "dad bods" just as there are plenty of women who want skinny guys. Find someone who likes you and is attracted to you. Change yourself for yourself. If you're happy the way you are, you don't need anyone else to validate that for you.
And honestly, this is the best reason to do this for yourself. So you can feel good, get confidence and become healthier. If not, just to be able to like yourself is the goal. If you like yourself, you will attract people who like you.
And honestly, this is the best reason to do this for yourself. So you can feel good, get confidence and become healthier. If not, just to be able to like yourself is the goal. If you like yourself, you will attract people who like you.
I guess I just need to find that spot where I'm happy and comfortable. I know I'm not there yet. I'm down 35lbs in about a month but i think I still need to drop a pant size or two. The body dismorphia is the hardest part.
Stanthropical
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Maybe this will help:
I appreciate that but I used to power lift and body build both. All that stuff is, is "bro science" I dropped from about 22% bf down to 13% in about 3 weeks. I know how to do it. It just sucks.
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He's very far from "bro science." I'd give it a watch. The video is about fat loss, not lifting and it's more of a general guide rather than an instruction set—the message is in his talking points and not the title or thumbnail. There's no need to get to a body fat percentage of under 10%, because then you'll have other issues to contend with.
Going from 22% to 13% body fat in three weeks would require 2500+ calorie deficit every day, watch is not believable. You'd have to be on some steroids and some zero-calorie protein diet, otherwise you're just losing muscle and depleting glycogen. I don't even know how you'd lose so much fat without some for of low-to-mid level cardio, which is unlikely with such a calorie deficit.
In the light of all this, your post is definitely confusing.
"Dad bod" is someone who has body fat from low to high 20%. More like high 20%, the way everything is depicted and sugar-coated nowadays.
Food for thought: when you're losing weight and not resistance-training, up to 20% or even more of that weight loss will be muscle.
You're partially answering your own questions as well. Lose fat, get to 10%-15% body fat and you'll regain all of your confidence.
No, "dad nods" are not hot, unless someone is into men who have a body fat of 25%+. It's not healthy either, which actually is what your priority needs to be.
Along with excess fat, unwanted metabolic/hormonal problems come, which will fuck you up in more ways than one.
You might already know what to do, just need to get to doing it.
Going from 22% to 13% body fat in three weeks would require 2500+ calorie deficit every day, watch is not believable. You'd have to be on some steroids and some zero-calorie protein diet, otherwise you're just losing muscle and depleting glycogen. I don't even know how you'd lose so much fat without some for of low-to-mid level cardio, which is unlikely with such a calorie deficit.
In the light of all this, your post is definitely confusing.
"Dad bod" is someone who has body fat from low to high 20%. More like high 20%, the way everything is depicted and sugar-coated nowadays.
Food for thought: when you're losing weight and not resistance-training, up to 20% or even more of that weight loss will be muscle.
You're partially answering your own questions as well. Lose fat, get to 10%-15% body fat and you'll regain all of your confidence.
No, "dad nods" are not hot, unless someone is into men who have a body fat of 25%+. It's not healthy either, which actually is what your priority needs to be.
Along with excess fat, unwanted metabolic/hormonal problems come, which will fuck you up in more ways than one.
You might already know what to do, just need to get to doing it.
Best fuckin way to explain that situation!!! Just black and white! Fuckin love it! Idc what others say! Just black and white and yin and yang! Love it!! Thank you for that inspiration and honesty!!! I love that!!!
Okay but that deficit is actually super easy to maintain. I developed my own "diet" and I use that term very loosely. It revolves around nutritional science more than anything. I built it off of Lyle Mcdonolds Psmf theory. Utilizing things like TEF and strategic fasting windows, you can give your body everything it needs while maintaining and incredibly high deficit. There's so so so so so much more that goes into it and I would absolutely love the chance to sit down with someone and talk about it. The reality of my TMRP is this: can everyone do it? Absolutely not. Is it easy? Absolutely not. Is it fun? Fuck no. Can you still work and function like normal on a TMRP? Yes. I work in Disaster Remediation. My job is incredibly physical and my hours are insane, and I've had little to no drawback on my output.
Edit: spelling. I was getting ready for work and typing at the same time.
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Dear Dad Bod Remediation TMRP miracle elite method disaster,
Such extreme and dangerous caloric deficit is easy to maintain? But so much more than hat goes into it? But it's not easy and absolutely not everyone can do it? I don't know what "Disaster Remediation" is, but you say it's "incredibly physical" with odd hours. And you can function normally in such conditions? Dude, what... ? None of that adds up.
Unless you're lost in the middle of sea on a float with just drinking water and managed to catch a few fish or went on an extreme ketogenic diet with 48hr fasting windows every third day... Even then, the caloric deficit is not large enough to drop so much fat.
If you're in ketosis, your liver won't care what you do or don't do for a living, or what your work hours are—under intense physical activity, it'll snatch muscle mass, convert it to glucose and dump it into the bloodstream for energy, which equates to muscle loss. When the body catabolizes itself during and after incredibly physical activity, that will unavoidably result in muscle autophagy and not fat loss. You're exaggerating, misinterpreting or miscalculating something(s).
Nutritional science you speak of is the basic needs to sustain life: protein, fat, minerals and electrolytes. Some vitamins, minerals and electrolytes are not stored nor metabolized by the body, so I can't even imagine being active on nearly no food at all for 20+ days, unless your daily caloric need was some 4,000+ calories and you were running on some 1,500 during those three weeks, but then the body would dial down the metabolic rate fairly quickly and start hanging onto every bit of fat it can.
I don't know what "Lyle Mcdonolds Psmf theory" is, but time-restricted feeding and only high protein / moderate to low fat diet is the only way I know how to drop fat without sacrificing too much muscle.
You labeled my video suggestion as "bro science," but then you reframed the narrative while hiding behind some elusive elite science, contradicting yourself. You know how to get lean really quickly, which will likely boost your confidence by your own admission, but you have confidence issues? I don't even understand what's happening here. You're three weeks away from boosting your confidence, no? Just in time for summer.
But you know what, I'm not here to offer vibes and feel-good pats on the back and "You go, girl! You do you! Blah blah blah..." which won't even offer anything relevant to what you sought by your post. I am here to learn how to drop 10% of body fat in 21 days. I'm all-ears. Teach me, because thus is something I want to learn. And, frankly everyone should.
P.S. With over 70% of adults overweight and over half of that group being obese, I can't imagine anyone who is your level of elite method having confidence issues in this regard. You're literally a month away from athlete appearance. That in itself will give you an advantage over 80% of male (and human population, overall) population. Probably over 95% if you take into account your underlying fitness level you claim to have.
Such extreme and dangerous caloric deficit is easy to maintain? But so much more than hat goes into it? But it's not easy and absolutely not everyone can do it? I don't know what "Disaster Remediation" is, but you say it's "incredibly physical" with odd hours. And you can function normally in such conditions? Dude, what... ? None of that adds up.
Unless you're lost in the middle of sea on a float with just drinking water and managed to catch a few fish or went on an extreme ketogenic diet with 48hr fasting windows every third day... Even then, the caloric deficit is not large enough to drop so much fat.
If you're in ketosis, your liver won't care what you do or don't do for a living, or what your work hours are—under intense physical activity, it'll snatch muscle mass, convert it to glucose and dump it into the bloodstream for energy, which equates to muscle loss. When the body catabolizes itself during and after incredibly physical activity, that will unavoidably result in muscle autophagy and not fat loss. You're exaggerating, misinterpreting or miscalculating something(s).
Nutritional science you speak of is the basic needs to sustain life: protein, fat, minerals and electrolytes. Some vitamins, minerals and electrolytes are not stored nor metabolized by the body, so I can't even imagine being active on nearly no food at all for 20+ days, unless your daily caloric need was some 4,000+ calories and you were running on some 1,500 during those three weeks, but then the body would dial down the metabolic rate fairly quickly and start hanging onto every bit of fat it can.
I don't know what "Lyle Mcdonolds Psmf theory" is, but time-restricted feeding and only high protein / moderate to low fat diet is the only way I know how to drop fat without sacrificing too much muscle.
You labeled my video suggestion as "bro science," but then you reframed the narrative while hiding behind some elusive elite science, contradicting yourself. You know how to get lean really quickly, which will likely boost your confidence by your own admission, but you have confidence issues? I don't even understand what's happening here. You're three weeks away from boosting your confidence, no? Just in time for summer.
But you know what, I'm not here to offer vibes and feel-good pats on the back and "You go, girl! You do you! Blah blah blah..." which won't even offer anything relevant to what you sought by your post. I am here to learn how to drop 10% of body fat in 21 days. I'm all-ears. Teach me, because thus is something I want to learn. And, frankly everyone should.
P.S. With over 70% of adults overweight and over half of that group being obese, I can't imagine anyone who is your level of elite method having confidence issues in this regard. You're literally a month away from athlete appearance. That in itself will give you an advantage over 80% of male (and human population, overall) population. Probably over 95% if you take into account your underlying fitness level you claim to have.
Okay so let me clear the air here. I was in no way being disrespectful. Nor was I hiding behind any curtain. If you genuinely want to know about a tmrp or a PSMF (which honestly is pretty much exactly what you said it was) I would 100% love to talk about it. I'm just so used to people saying "I don't know what any of that means" or meeting me with the level of skepticism that it felt like you were bringing as well. Naturally that makes me water down the subject to bare minimum. As for the confidence. Man.. when I was actually athletic I was about 190lbs MAYBE 8% body fat. But I got injured and over the course of a year ballooned up to 250ish lbs. I have a smaller frame. That weight was pushing severe obesity. That kind of stuff really messes with you. The body dismorphia is absolutely killer on my self image and no matter how much I've lost since then (I'm down to 153.7 as of this morning) I still see that gross fat body. I do know I'm muscular. But I'm covered in stretch marks. I have subcutaneous fat, not visceral. That means everything I've got on me hangs off my body and it makes me sick every time I look in the mirror. So yes. My confidence is fucked and until I can get myself down to 5% and then bulk back up to between 6-9% I will have severe confidence issues. Like I said, if you want to know about it than absolutely! Send me a message! It's not the dietary change that's hard. It's the self discipline you have to have that will make someone fold. The deficit is easy. It's everything else about a tmrp that's fucking brutal.
Guys naturally gain weight around their middle first, and hang on to it longest, so guess what? It's very natural, very common, and intrinsically appealing to us. Just like most girls gain weight around the thighs and butt area and most guys naturally find that attractive.
I like a bit of a belly. I think it's cute.
I like a bit of a belly. I think it's cute.
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You're doing it wrong.
At 5% body fat, your hormones will be disrupted, probably causing low testosterone and high stress hormone circulation. YOu either wont' be able to build muscle with that state of body or it would be discouragingly difficult.
The time to build muscle is NOW, so you can fill in the space where fat/muscle used to be, which will fill in some of the loose skin. Daily collagen with vitamin C+E and other supplements well-documented to help will aid in that regard. This is part of the reason why extreme fat loss needs to be combined with resistance training and proper hormone promoting supplements and foods (fat).
You said you were a powerlifter at 190lbs/8% body fat AND you're performing "incredibly physical" work? Doesn't add up. Powerlifters are very rarely lean. Never seen a lean powerlifter and for obvious reasons. It takes years to reach such an elite-level physique, so that doesn't really add up from what I know.
Gained 60lbs on top of 190lbs with 8% body fat? Then lost nearly 100lbs and so much muscle? If your lean body mass was ~175lbs at 190lbs+8% body fat, but you're now 153lbs... I can't even math that. Not from what I understand. Where did all the muscle go? The volume of fat you're claiming to have lost so quickly and having lost so much muscle at the same time... Either I'm ignorant, you're miscalcualted your stats or something else is h appening.
At this weight and allegedly low body fat, you got excess skin, not fat. It's time to start supplementing and lift. There's a reason why bulking is bulking. Among other reasons, it's to facilitate hormones and reduce other hormones, which will aid in muscle building. YOu're at that age where you need to act now, not do weird diets.
You either need to sit down with a certified dietician and a professional trainer or something else I"m not qualified to recommend. I do know what I CAN recommend, however: https://chatgpt.com/g/g-ipOIcM229-fitness-workout-diet-phd-coach
Stanthropical
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Fat is distributed so because male or female physiology demands so. It's common in the last several decades only because people are overeating and not moving enough. There's nothing natural about excess fat in humans and it causes hormone disruption, metabolic dysfunction, promotes cancers, infertility and other reproductive system disorders, etc. It's chaos. Slow collection of misery and early death.
Stano.. honestly..
Im talking subcutaneous fat ffs
Lez not get ridiculous
A Lil pudge iz cuuute and soft to bounce on when riding him
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Bouncing on the gut is a bit odd, but okay...
Stano ..
There's soooooOOoooO many positions where a lil pudge bounce back iz appreciated
There's soooooOOoooO many positions where a lil pudge bounce back iz appreciated