I dressed up my dick in a Top hat and monocle for someone...although at this point I don't consider it embarrassing...I'm not embarrassed easily.
Just tell us!
We are simple creatures, and if you have something specific in mind, tell us. Otherwise, we are not good at reading minds
We are simple creatures, and if you have something specific in mind, tell us. Otherwise, we are not good at reading minds
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Slopps
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There is no way. He will have to go though (multiple) trial and error, like all men always do
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Harley31
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That depends what you want him to do but for the most part...you have to tell him exactly what you want. Men aren't good with hints. If it's sex and you don't want to draw him a diagram moans work really well. He'll catch on quick by the way you respond lol
For me it's simple....show me...The way to say it is "I liked to be touched like this" moving my hand with your hand, and me following your lead, Honest communication is the key to great sex.
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UnsaintedCali
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I need a PowerPoint presentation and a laser pointer...
Really though, I've risen from my crypt to say, just let us know. If it's sexual, preface it with a conversation about it before you get into it, that way he already has an idea of what you prefer. Adjustments in the moment are going to happen no matter what, but with convos beforehand, those adjustments should be minimal.
*Edit*: also make it a convo about what you both like and prefer. That way it's less about just ONE of you and it's a convo about each other. That's not strictly a "man's need" but just us as humans who want to make each other feel good and happy.
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I would say just try to have a casual discussion about it and don't corner him. Avoid apportioning blame. That's not the goal and will make both sides frustrated. Just talk about what will make it better for you, rather than concentrating on the fact that it isn't ideal now. As well as asking them for suggestions to when it comes to pleasing them. Genuinely asking and discussing it shows that it's a level playing field. Rather than coming across as the haughty partner that believes men are easily satisfied boors.
If it's a fruitful conversation, you can continue to make headway and then eventually get down to brass tacks.
Some men might be more willing right off the bat depending on personality, but I'm recommending a more conservative course to be considerate of all personalities.
Tell him. Also, if he's smart he'll ask. If he does, don't lie, good or bad. It's a pretty simple task, the worst thing you can do is tell him you're into something or imply you are when you aren't. The other thing is, if you care about him, reassure him. Just don't talk down to him. He's a lover not a puppy.
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Solitary_Scarecrow
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Beauty itself can be intimidating, that and a sexual harassment charge. Sure I might want to, but I'm not going to prison when I misread signals. X
lolMight be best to just ask, since it confirms your consent.
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KinkyNutella
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Hello..
My question is not related to sex. It is/could be quite a sensitive topic. But I thought I will ask you guys for some advice. Because I am lost and I dont have anyone to share this problem.
I met someone online who is divorved and have two kids. I have never even thought I would fall for him but I absolutely like him now and willing to give this connection a chance.
I got to know that his ex partner is still controlling him using kids and take most of his money. He is now moving away from that area and starting a new job. He loves his children a lot and he told he finds it difficult to leave them and go far but this time he needs to fight for himself. He was bit silent for a while and after I asked him.. he explained to me his situation and told me he is going through a bit tough time with this and he understands if I wanna end this but would really appreciate if I could give him time and chance to get back to me clearing his situation.
Do you all have any similar situations or know someone who went through this? Can ex wives really control you using kids? Have you all ever won and make peace in the end? Could you find a new partner and start fresh?
During this moment I know he needs lot of time and space , therefore I would really be grateful have some insight from others experiences. Thanks in advance!
My question is not related to sex. It is/could be quite a sensitive topic. But I thought I will ask you guys for some advice. Because I am lost and I dont have anyone to share this problem.
I met someone online who is divorved and have two kids. I have never even thought I would fall for him but I absolutely like him now and willing to give this connection a chance.
I got to know that his ex partner is still controlling him using kids and take most of his money. He is now moving away from that area and starting a new job. He loves his children a lot and he told he finds it difficult to leave them and go far but this time he needs to fight for himself. He was bit silent for a while and after I asked him.. he explained to me his situation and told me he is going through a bit tough time with this and he understands if I wanna end this but would really appreciate if I could give him time and chance to get back to me clearing his situation.
Do you all have any similar situations or know someone who went through this? Can ex wives really control you using kids? Have you all ever won and make peace in the end? Could you find a new partner and start fresh?
During this moment I know he needs lot of time and space , therefore I would really be grateful have some insight from others experiences. Thanks in advance!
Damn .
Yes an ex can give you a hard time trough your kids , is happening to me . She keep trying to turn them against me . She can t get anything against me so she use my actual partner . I s hard and delicate af. But control is to much to say .
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KinkyNutella
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Gosh Iam sorry its happening to you , hope you can win against her. I think kids might be suffering bbecause of her behavior. I never thought men go through these negative things. I am glad you rep. Thank you once again. I just hopw you , him and everyone who going through this win and find peace!
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CoquetteX
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Men, what stereotypes about men do you feel are hugely unjustified?
I can only refer to myself, so this is by no means a generalisation which may apply to other men. Stereotypes which are grossly erroneous when it comes to me:
1) to crave sex from only the lady's physical traits.
As for me - I need to know the lady well enough first, and see humility, intelligence, kindness, before I am physically 'pulled in' to craving for physical intimacy
2) threatened by the spouse's better financial standing
Doesn't bother me, as long as she is loving, intelligent and kind
3) always preferring the lady to be the 'lesser' person
If a lady is powerful, with strong leadership traits and occupying a better position than social and financial standing, I find that a turn on actually
4) finds it a turn on when the girl/lady calls me 'Daddy'
A definite turn off for me
Well...that is a few off my head...
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CoquetteX
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Thank you for sharing. It was helpful
And I deeply appreciate that you don't see all of us as the same
Guide my hands. That’s so sexy.
This is a great question. Many good answers above, but I'll add a little more. I agree having a conversation is best. Perhaps starting it with "Hey, here are things you do great and I love, but here are a few things I want done and this is how." If he wants to please you he will take your advice. Maybe it won't work perfectly the first or second or third time, but hopefully with practice and patience it will.