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Alex_AD said:
Nah I've never done that and don't think it'd be enjoyable. What I did do when I was younger tho was fill a sandwich bag with Vaseline, put it between my box spring and mattress and fucked it loool. It's like being inside a woman uno. Only negative is the act itself. I was really fucking my own bed ffs. :(:D

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14 year old me looking at my bed knowing I was about to take it's virginity ^^^^
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LOL…..well that was an interesting confession. I can't say I've ever heard that one before.o_O That borders on abuse I think, lol.:p
 
I had to come back and read that again just to make sure I read it right.....lol. o_O *rolling around laughing imaging you on your knees in front of your mattress* lol:D Out of curiosity, what compelled you to share that here? *just wondering*:po_O
 
In my case, depends on how much you trust each other, since the root and reason of being of jealousy is insecurity, regardless of the partner. So communication, trust and coherence are key factors

So, as short as it is, that is what has worked for me
 
LilithX said:
How do you feel about or handle jealousy in a relationship? Both your own jealousy and from your partner? ​
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I’d say that jealousy is a relationship killer (my experience is that it leads to trust issues eventually). Personally I’m not a jealous person, I’m pretty laid back in that respect, I think being on a forum is a good way of seeing how jealous you can be i.e. she sent a message to him but not me/she liked his post but not mine/she’s been online posting but hasn’t sent me a message yet - breathe, relax, it’ll scramble your mind if you let it!

With a relationship it’s similar, one girlfriend I had years ago used to get jealous if I spent time with my sister but not her, this eventually led to her not trusting me as she thought I was meeting other women (wrongfully so I should add) and I had to get rid! If it’s not addressed, talked about and nipped in the bud early on if there is an issue then, for me, the relationship is going nowhere.

Men are just as bad as women aswell so I don’t think gender matters, some of my mates get outrageously jealous of their partners! You either get jealous or you don’t - for me it’s one of the biggest turn offs in a partner and I cant handle it!
 
LilithX said:
How do you feel about or handle jealousy in a relationship? Both your own jealousy and from your partner? ​
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I'm only jealous if the thought of my partner giving something to someone else and not me....it could be trust, secrets, sex, whatever. Generally speaking, I'm not jealous, and if I do get jealous an actual conversation about the subject is what clears my head. No blaming, just listening and being honest. If she can't tell me something, that's fine, but I need to understand the thoughts why she can't. I see jealousy as an opportunity to better myself...to become more understanding, trustworthy and compassionate. It's not easy to do, but starting the conversation about your feelings of jealousy with your partner can end in both people feeling feeling validated and more connected with one another.

Of course any conversation can also end up with one or more people defensive and hostile, so chosing words appropriately, and validating only the person initiating the conversation I find to be most helpful...but damn that's difficult at times....
 
If you were out with your girlfriend/wife and another guy was watching her or made a comment, would you feel jealous and snap or would you take it as a compliment, and why?

Edit: If she's not doing anything to provoke it or respond to it, and you still feel threaten/jealous that should be "on you"....your baggage, would you expect her to bend over backwards (that's a trigger phrase for a sexsite, but ("moving on) :D to prevent the stares in the first place?

Truth and trust are most important, I think anyway. That's a give and take. Jealousy can destroy any relationship.
 
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Harley31 said:
If you were out with your girlfriend/wife and another guy was watching her or made a comment, would you feel jealous and snap or would you take it as a compliment, and why?
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It depends on what was said or done, if it’s obvious she’s clearly there with me and someone letches over her I’d be having a word with the guy BUT if she’s away from my side and someone does I would expect her to laugh it off or tell him to piss off, then I’d step in if needed. I think her reaction would dictate it tbh. If she reciprocated or played up to his advances that’s a big no for me (as it would be if the roles were reversed) but I wouldn’t say that was jealousy it’s more about respect. I always try and think about how I’d feel if it were the other way around and act appropriately. I would always take someone trying to crack on with a partner as a compliment to how good she looks (but keep that to myself!)

This would be different if she was out with her friends and the same thing happened, in which case I would expect that she rejected his advances but maybe not as bluntly! We are all old enough and ugly enough to know how a group of men/women behave on a night out but the main thing is that no line is crossed. That, though, is about trust which, without, any relationship is absolutely fucked!
 
theoriginalnumber8 said:
It depends on what was said or done, if it’s obvious she’s clearly there with me and someone letches over her I’d be having a word with the guy BUT if she’s away from my side and someone does I would expect her to laugh it off or tell him to piss off, then I’d step in if needed. I think her reaction would dictate it tbh. If she reciprocated or played up to his advances that’s a big no for me (as it would be if the roles were reversed) but I wouldn’t say that was jealousy it’s more about respect. I always try and think about how I’d feel if it were the other way around and act appropriately. I would always take someone trying to crack on with a partner as a compliment to how good she looks (but keep that to myself!)

This would be different if she was out with her friends and the same thing happened, in which case I would expect that she rejected his advances but maybe not as bluntly! We are all old enough and ugly enough to know how a group of men/women behave on a night out but the main thing is that no line is crossed. That, though, is about trust which, without, any relationship is absolutely fucked!
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I agree 100% What's the difference between "reacting with jealousy" and "being a jealous guy"...if there is one? The relationship is great in all other aspects but you get jealous and snap when other men stare at her, even though she's obviously not interested and she's with you.
 
What is your most useless, silly talent or thing you know how to do?​
 
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