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If you had to put the below in order of preference, what would your order be:

Pussy-Penis sex
Oral sex
Anal sex

Feel free to add other acts that aren't mentioned.
1 Anal
2 Oral performing slightly more than receiving
3 Pussy-Penis sex

just my preference don’t thing there is a right or wrong answer. There are more, foreplay, toy play, kink play...
 
How do you feel about your partner kissing you immediately after a blow job? Is there any issue?

I feel a lust and craving to give her more than what she wants. I think that this is a way she finds to express her desire for me. I could also say that sometimes I am the one who asks for it so I can show her that I want to have and live everything while we're being together. And no there is no issue, as some other men previously said it's the same as to when I'm kissing her after I've gone down on her.
 
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Thank you for your always intelligent and thought-out replies!

Yes, but why is that is case?
Is it merely because of marketing? Then it just means we've been conditioned to it.
Why is a penis considered less 'beautiful'? I mean, uniquely, men only have penises and women have boobs and pussies, so you folks only got that one thing to show off. (Everything else both genders have to showcase)


Agreed. The homo fear is real.


Agreed!
I hadn't thought about the self feeding cycle though. You're right; it exacerbates the random dick pic and unwelcome advances situation.
I would not send anyone a dick pic as in introduction, I feel that is really rude. I have no objection to sending to someone I have been chatting to any they want it, I also have no problem posting it in the forums or anything else and people can choose to look and like should they desire but honestly I don’t get sending someone you don’t know one. Get to know them first it will make whatever experience you have that more enjoyable.

Oh and men have chests too and some are very nice to look at, I mean boobs are better from my point of view but we all have nipples lol.
 
Have you tasted your own cum? Why and what did you think? I think it's more common for a female to do, although I really only do it as a turn on for someone else. A couple of my male friends said they did it purely out of curiosity.
How do you feel about your partner kissing you immediately after a blow job? Is there any issue?
Yes, as a younger man in my teens still exploring my sexuality I tried it after masterbating I found it a bit salty then later on in life I did again with a partner after she went down on me and we kissed after, it was much sexier like that. We expect women to kiss us after we go down on them so why should it not go both ways?
 
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Before this thread breaks.....
What is one unique or unusual trait/characteristic that you find attractive about women? Explain.

Humour, the way she chooses to dress up (I love it when a woman wears sport clothes (thighs, sport bras etc etc), intelligence and the way she can joke or accept a joke. If she's able to use sarcasm and choose the right moment to do it it's definitely a bonus plus I love a nice smile and sparkly eyes.
 
Have you moved on from your first love? If yes, how?
If she comes back in your life, will you give up everything to be with her again?

Yes I have. It wasn't easy and it took some time but I did it.
Definitely and absolutely no. When something comes to an end what is the point to get back to it? If it was meant to happen and work out it would never end. For me it's simple, I still care about them, worry and want for them to be happy but past is past.
 
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Do guys really wank when their hand falls asleep so it feels like someone else giving you a tug? lol Does it work? :cool::D And for those of you that are going to try it...pm me and let me know if it works. lol

I've heard about that before, more than once but no I've never tried it. Also if the hand that I use to wank has fallen asleep that would require for me to wrap it around myself and then use my other hand to move it. No?
 
How do you feel about or handle jealousy in a relationship? Both your own jealousy and from your partner?

I don't like that feeling and when/if it comes out of hand can be a deal breaker. That being said when it comes to surface I talk about it with my partner and it stops there. She does the same thing so everything is good and we understand each other.
 
If you were out with your girlfriend/wife and another guy was watching her or made a comment, would you feel jealous and snap or would you take it as a compliment, and why?

Edit: If she's not doing anything to provoke it or respond to it, and you still feel threaten/jealous that should be "on you"....your baggage, would you expect her to bend over backwards (that's a trigger phrase for a sexsite, but ("moving on) :D to prevent the stares in the first place?

Truth and trust are most important, I think anyway. That's a give and take. Jealousy can destroy any relationship.

First thing first. I trust my girlfriend with my life, yeah probably to some it sounds crazy or silly, but is a fact.

To answer your questions now... At first I'd take it as a compliment and the reason is simple. I know how beautiful she is and that she can't pass unnoticed so it would be pointless for me to try and stop or prevent that. Also being complimented not only by me but from others I know it could boost her confidence so every discreet comment or eye contact is acceptable.
The only way I could feel jealous or threatened is not by actions but because of my mind. If I start thinking that she can love, lust or desire someone else, that somebody could make her happier or make her feel more safe with them than me, yes then I'd definitely snap. That can never happen tho cause I know it's not true. It's the games that my mind play so I pay no attention to that. And even and if I couldn't handle those thoughts, I'd express my feelings to her, we'd talk for a while and everything would be good. Period.

If she hasn't done anything to provoke it or respond to it OR even if she has provoked it and respond (that can happen too)...I can accept and live with it without being jealous ONLY IF I know about it. She has no reason at all to bend over backwards. I don't expect that and definitely I'd never asked her that.
That doesn't mean tho that if the other person that flirst with her (because she wanted it and made it happen or because she tried to avoid it unsuccessfully) crosses the lines and boundaries she has set that I won't be there to make it crystal clear to them (to the other person) that is time for them to move on (always by finding a nice way to do it) , not because of my jealousy or because I'd feel threatened but because she wouldn't enjoy that flirt anymore.
 
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When people post revealing/ naked/ genitalia pics here, both men and women will post likes on women's pictures; while men will receive very few likes on such pictures.

Why do you think that is?
And do you feel slighted?

I like photos when I find any aspect of them interesting....most of them aren't a turn on for me, a static image does little other than potentially spark my imagination. I've been asked multiple times if I'm bisexual...the answer is always the same. I find both sexes can be appealing, but only one arousing. But I have zero fucks to give about liking guy vs woman photos. The only ones I don't appreciate are the dick in your face ones....I generally skip over those.

When my photos don't get liked, I don't feel slighted....I may make sure that the people I know who appreciate them have seen them, but 0 likes is just fine by me. I find myself to be an attractive furry mammal, and I'm ok with people thinking the same, or having a different opinion. Any way I can improve my photos I appreciate and try and incorporate, giving the people what they want has always been my goal.
 
When people post revealing/ naked/ genitalia pics here, both men and women will post likes on women's pictures; while men will receive very few likes on such pictures.

Why do you think that is?
And do you feel slighted?

There are many, many reasons for this.

1. Less ladies on the forum then men. So that will always skew the numbers.

2. Ladies don't often comment if they don't know the person. This is often because they don't want someone to get the wrong idea. Men are as bad as making an assumption that something said means more than it does.

Life it's an equal system. It is what it is. Guys can feel as uncomfortable about posting pics as what ladies do and that is something I don't think people often consider this. Men have as many issues from low body image, body shape etc. And sadly we don't have the fact that the rest of men will say you go dude, as ladies will. We're too busy trying to hold it together. And I think that's why a lot of guys stop posting pics. They get no support of appreciation so they probably think why am I doing this. I'm being silly, I'm sure there are a lot of ladies in the same boat.
 
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Yes, but why is that is case?
Is it merely because of marketing? Then it just means we've been conditioned to it.
Why is a penis considered less 'beautiful'?
I thought about tbat actually. I'm not sure of it conditionning or natural/genetic.

When you look at the rest of nature, male species tend to be more beautiful: more colorful, bigger, brighter... (Justblook at peacocks - no pun intended- or lions.... Or any other bird especially). As they have to impress the female to be able to procreate. It seems to be a gentic thing, allthough my argument would actually rather disprove the thesis "women are more beautiful then men".

Another thought: in the antique, statues and the first paintings represented more often men. It is only much later that feminine beauty started to be recognized as such. Which tends to underline the conditionning theory.


I'm not giving an answer, I 'm aware of that. Just some thoughts, as mentionned above.
 
I agree 100% What's the difference between "reacting with jealousy" and "being a jealous guy"...if there is one? The relationship is great in all other aspects but you get jealous and snap when other men stare at her, even though she's obviously not interested and she's with you.
I don’t think there is a difference. If the guy reacts with jealousy, I think that says that he is a jealous person. Now, if the guy snaps, then that is on the guy and he has a issue he has to work out. You, as his partner, can try to help him with his jealously issue or can simply say... Listen, I am not interested in him and you need to lose that jealously “thing” or it is going to cause a problem in our relationship. I don’t deserve to be treated that way.
 
Hmmm but some guys just react to protect what’s theirs . If a guy is going after another guy cuz he flirts with you . Be sure boundaries are there that others don’t cross . I tend to just say something private to my guy cuz he should let it be known that we are together. If no one knows it mostly the case on this site it cuz the guy or chick wants to continue flirting in most cases . Sometimes no one says anything cuz it does bring in drama . Not everyone is happy about it
 
I agree 100% What's the difference between "reacting with jealousy" and "being a jealous guy"...if there is one? The relationship is great in all other aspects but you get jealous and snap when other men stare at her, even though she's obviously not interested and she's with you.

"Reacting with jealousy"... An example... Her and I are out, someone flirts with her and I get angry, fight with the guy, make a scene, that makes her feel uncomfortable, sad and after all is done I'm sad and mad at muyself for hurting her.

"Being a jealous guy"... There are times that she flirts with someone, or someone tries to flirt with her, I can't control my jealousy but can control my actions. That being accomplished I have the chance to talk with her about that, explain how and why I feel like that and she calms that feeling down.

It's in human nature to have that feeling, when we feel that something that we love maybe will be gone, leave or start have feelings for another person we get scared and that feeling grows uncontrollably . What changes is how we react and deal while that is happening.

Personally for me it's pretty easy to understand when my girl gets jealous and before she even says a word I find ways to give her understand that she is the one for me and remind her that she has my fully attention. Words are not needed just actions.
Also the same stands for her.
 
Hmmm but some guys just react to protect what’s theirs . If a guy is going after another guy cuz he flirts with you . Be sure boundaries are there that others don’t cross . I tend to just say something private to my guy cuz he should let it be known that we are together. If no one knows it mostly the case on this site it cuz the guy or chick wants to continue flirting in most cases . Sometimes no one says anything cuz it does bring in drama . Not everyone is happy about it
I got focused on the bold part...I don't ever think another person is mine, I don't own them, they aren't my property to do with what I please....they are their own person, with their own thoughts and opinions, able to do what they want. I'll be there if they need me, but I definitely don't consider them mine.
 
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I got focused on the bold part...I don't ever think i ever think another person is mine, I don't own them, they aren't my property to do with what I please....they are their own person, with their own thoughts and opinions, able to do what they want. I'll be there if they need me, but I definitely don't consider them mine.

And that's the best and most unique part in a relationship. To be so in love but never control what they do or say (in our case flirt or not). To trust them so much that you (generally speaking, all of us) make our partner feel so free and able to do whatever they want and at the end to know deep down that they have chosen us for an unknown reason.

What I'm trying to say is that I agree 1.000.000% with your post.
 
I can do that too...

P.s. there are so many questions I wanna answer so I'll try...

Umm...touch me?

I can get jealous and it bugs the fuck out of me. So when I feel like I do I just keep my mouth shut. So no, I don't snap with jealousy. If he wants to stare he can, because she's with me anyway.

The numb hand thing is stupid and pointless...

My dick has gotten numb because I'm a fat ass and sitting on the edge of a chair or couch or concrete ledge will do it.

I have not taken a razor to my balls...scissors yes...no one is seeing my stuff at this point anyway so I'll just make sure it isn't the Amazon for now.

I don't think there is such thing as too much sharing with a SO. Everything should be shared if you want needs and wants to be met. Trust me.

I wouldn't mind being a woman for a day. I think a lot could be learned from that experience, both in new perspectives and shared emotion. Like, being able to see things from a new lense while also realizing that we also share a lot of the same things too. And yeah, what @Slopps said about multiple orgasms...waiting 15 minutes isn't very efficient :p.

Pic likes. I know my pics won't get as many likes as others based solely on my body shape. The fit dudes get that, and that's fine. Also, pic likes can sometimes get into a guy's head to mean more than it is...ladies have told me that guys will PM them even if they have never had a conversation, but just liked a couple pics. However, I think it also has to do with men being more okay with women liking women pics than men liking men pics. Does that make sense?

Order: oral, foreplay (with or without toys), pussy, anal.

All of the women in my life have inspired me to be/do better. Especially when it comes to how I see/view myself...as evidenced above with the pic likes thing. I just have a hard time thinking really highly of myself. I wouldn't say I'm not a confident person, but I have my insecurites
 
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