Do we need love? Really?

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JacksonR2468

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I believe that we all need friends - no question.

But I'm talking about the 'lover' kind of love.

1) Do we need it, or only a luxury?

2) How do you define the differences between 'loving' and 'being in love with'

Thanks!
 
JacksonR2468 said:
I believe that we all need friends - no question.

But I'm talking about the 'lover' kind of love.

1) Do we need it, or only a luxury?

2) How do you define the differences between 'loving' and 'being in love with'

Thanks!
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1. That depends on the person and the time of their life. I could probably happily live life without the need of a relationship but that's now. In 20 years time I've no doubt my answer would be different.

2. Loving someone is caring for them deeply and having a strong emotional attachment to them. Being in Love with someone is when they make you melt and you just smile. All the warm fuzzy shit like you get whilst watching the Lion King but in a person. Obviously just my opinion and typically worded like a neanderthal but English was never my strong point.
 
Male_uk said:
1. That depends on the person and the time of their life. I could probably happily live life without the need of a relationship but that's now. In 20 years time I've no doubt my answer would be different.

2. Loving someone is caring for them deeply and having a strong emotional attachment to them. Being in Love with someone is when they make you melt and you just smile. All the warm fuzzy shit like you get whilst watching the Lion King but in a person. Obviously just my opinion and typically worded like a neanderthal but English was never my strong point.
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Your English is perfect my friend - language is for communication, and you are damn lucid in getting your point across. Thanks!
 
JacksonR2468 said:
I believe that we all need friends - no question.

But I'm talking about the 'lover' kind of love.

1) Do we need it, or only a luxury?

2) How do you define the differences between 'loving' and 'being in love with'

Thanks!
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In a biological sense we are born to procreate so it follows we look for a mate, that's not really a luxury, that's like the reduced aisle in Asda.

The luxury comes in a long commitment to someone. Someone you love, someone you share everything with, someone to be emotional with.

"In love" is the period that follows the initial "can't keep your hands off each other" lustful phase. I don't think you will always be in love with a partner, it settles into love. But I do think at certain times you will be in love, some days you look at them and feel the overwhelming love, other days you could happily knife them lol.

Just my opinion ;)
 
Spangle said:
other days you could happily knife them lol.
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Nothing says long term relationship more than waking up in the glorious morning sunshine and seeing your beautiful partner just lay there all peaceful and the first thought that goes through your mind is...

"You're a fucking cunt, why am I here again?"

Then you burn your scrambled egg and it soon dawns on you that she ain't that bad. Plus you can't live on beans on burnt toast for ever so you get back in your box.
 
Male_uk said:
Nothing says long term relationship more than waking up in the glorious morning sunshine and seeing your beautiful partner just lay there all peaceful and the first thought that goes through your mind is...

"You're a fucking cunt, why am I here again?"

Then you burn your scrambled egg and it soon dawns on you that she ain't that bad. Plus you can't live on beans on burnt toast for ever so you get back in your box.
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Truth right there :D
 
Spangle said:
In a biological sense we are born to procreate so it follows we look for a mate, that's not really a luxury, that's like the reduced aisle in Asda.

The luxury comes in a long commitment to someone. Someone you love, someone you share everything with, someone to be emotional with.

"In love" is the period that follows the initial "can't keep your hands off each other" lustful phase. I don't think you will always be in love with a partner, it settles into love. But I do think at certain times you will be in love, some days you look at them and feel the overwhelming love, other days you could happily knife them lol.

Just my opinion ;)
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*hastily locks the knife draw in the kitchen* ️xx. :rolleyes:
 
Male_uk said:
1. That depends on the person and the time of their life. I could probably happily live life without the need of a relationship but that's now. In 20 years time I've no doubt my answer would be different.

2. Loving someone is caring for them deeply and having a strong emotional attachment to them. Being in Love with someone is when they make you melt and you just smile. All the warm fuzzy shit like you get whilst watching the Lion King but in a person. Obviously just my opinion and typically worded like a neanderthal but English was never my strong point.
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Perfect explanation!! Love it!
 
When you love someone...you care for them, their feelings, have empathy, understanding and the likes....

When your "in love" with someone, it rocks your soul. You think of them constantly. Can't wait to be near them. Love spending time with them. And you know that if you were the only two left on the planet, you wouldn't give a damn. And when they are in pain, you can barely breathe. And you do everything you can to make them smile, because their needs have become more important than your own. I could go on and on lol. Yes, I believe everyone needs love in one form or another....
 
(play the song while reading this thread for added lovey dovey effect!)

Thanks everyone for your valuable input!

Tell me if I'm wrong, but for most of everyone and anyone in the happiest long term relationships, I am guessing that the 'being in love' stage may just be during the 'honeymoon period', and if everything goes perfectly, the couple will be 'loving' each other for the rest of their lives.

For some, the complex logistics may force a compromise. External factors may not allow you to end up with the sweetheart of your dreams (and that is if that person does exist - a debatable point), but with a spouse whom you see more as a friend, but these relationships can last a lifetime and fulfill many aspects expected in a relationship - it may not be bliss, but stable, happy and functional.

For some, they may end up with their ultimate sweetheart, but unfortunately both just cannot exist with stability in a marriage or 'marriage like' arrangement.

The complex interaction of multifactorial factors makes it difficult to successfully predict the outcome of any relationship.

Personally, I believe that spousal type of love is only a luxury and not needed. So if love is elusive for you, don't feel down - you don't need it.
 
JacksonR2468 said:
(play the song while reading this thread for added lovey dovey effect!)

Thanks everyone for your valuable input!

Tell me if I'm wrong, but for most of everyone and anyone in the happiest long term relationships, I am guessing that the 'being in love' stage may just be during the 'honeymoon period', and if everything goes perfectly, the couple will be 'loving' each other for the rest of their lives.

For some, the complex logistics may force a compromise. External factors may not allow you to end up with the sweetheart of your dreams (and that is if that person does exist - a debatable point), but with a spouse whom you see more as a friend, but these relationships can last a lifetime and fulfill many aspects expected in a relationship - it may not be bliss, but stable, happy and functional.

For some, they may end up with their ultimate sweetheart, but unfortunately both just cannot exist with stability in a marriage or 'marriage like' arrangement.

The complex interaction of multifactorial factors makes it difficult to successfully predict the outcome of any relationship.

Personally, I believe that spousal type of love is only a luxury and not needed. So if love is elusive for you, don't feel down - you don't need it.
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Call me a dreamer but I believe there is someone out there for everyone and while you may not 'need' love you may still 'want' love. People won't always find you though, sometimes you have to be a little risky and go find them :)
 
Spangle said:
Call me a dreamer but I believe there is someone out there for everyone and while you may not 'need' love you may still 'want' love. People won't always find you though, sometimes you have to be a little risky and go find them :)
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Someone once wisely told me for every egg there is an egg cup....he was drunk but it sounded very profound at the time...Spankums is my egg cup or egg im a bit confused ️xx. :):oops:
 
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