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who has recently discovered I am attracted to trans woman and feminine guys. u
I would first like to say: trans women are women. They identify as women. Congratulations, you find women attractive and that is not gay or bi. Even if they have penises. Second of all, feminine guys are just that. They are Men, they aren't trans women. Trans women and feminine guys are two different things.
I thing men are gross (no offense) but the idea of a woman with a penis is quite alluring. I
Your original post says trans women and feminine guys. So are you attracted to feminine guys at all? Or are you confusing trans women as men? Are you attracted to feminine guys because they look like women, dress like women? Or have penises while being feminine? There's a pretty significant line drawn between cross dressers, fem boys, sissies, and trans women. At the end of the day, cross dressers, sissies, fem boys take off their feminine clothes and live their lives as men. Trans women live their lives as women.
If you're attracted to men at all. There can be some exploring with labels. There's bisexual, pansexual, among any other things. There's a word for mostly everything now. But if it's a woman with a penis, that's not gay or bi if you're straight. Nothing gay about your girlfriend fucking you with a strap on or being with a trans woman. I do think there's a distinct difference fucking a dildo or a woman who has a penis. Vs, a man with a penis who is a man.
It's good to look at trans people in a lens that isn't fetishization and dehumanizing. I think your questions are good. I know "a penis isn't inherently gay" is a hot take. I know toxic masculinity is making some people look at trans women like they are men because they have a penis, but they aren't men. If you're attracted to men at all for any reason, maybe you're bi. But if you're attracted to trans women. That's straight.
Also just wanna add this an aside: Gender, gender identity and sexuality are confusing and it's all personalized for everyone. Plenty of people identity as fem boys, sissies, or cross dressers, and also identify as trans. There are lots of people who start off as a fem boy and end up transitioning. I'm not assuming labels for anyone via this post. But there's a difference between men who like feminine aesthetics, such as clothes or makeup, cosplay, or wigs, vs trans women who live as women and idenfity as women.
