This not just about death but some are grieving a breakup or a divorce a child leaving home. These things take time. Love the person thru it . Leaving them doesn’t help
This seems like the type of men I have ended up with experienced abuse with both of my exes one worse than the other been told they sound like narcissistic never really focused on that term or ptsd which is what I deal with some call it battered wife syndrome. Even some men here seem to be this way . Think that what scares me is men like this and not realizing it till I fall too hard or I said I do . I possibly have picked up on their behavior as well as a family member I was abused from as a child. It like there is something about me or in me that attracts these type of guys . One thing I know they are good at pretending to be everything you ever wanted . There have been guys that walked away recently from me that blamed me for everything . Fighting with them is quite exhausting.