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Personal experience? I am sorry you had to go through that... I can relate to it. Many do judge a book by it's cover or a preconceived notion but for some it can be an act of coping mechanism. Until we get the information from all individuals involved, it remains a mystery.
Well if you ever dropped a line, paragraph or a monologue in my inbox I would never ignore you. Unless I am offline and remain that way since your letter to me.
Personal experience? I am sorry you had to go through that... I can relate to it. Many do judge a book by it's cover or a preconceived notion but for some it can be an act of coping mechanism. Until we get the information from all individuals involved, it remains a mystery.
Well if you ever dropped a line, paragraph or a monologue in my inbox I would never ignore you. Unless I am offline and remain that way since your letter to me.
Thanks. I'm not looking for pity or anything, just felt like writing how I was feeling. Anyways, back to the regularly scheduled programming!
I didn't say that with the intention of pity. I shared my feelings of friendship I feel towards you. I respect your boundaries. Have a wonderful evening.
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This is what I did in the end. Which is how it ended and why she left.
My dear
It's definitely a process. One I am actively working on with therapy. Group may be over for now, but I still have an evaluation coming up and I'll ask for the advanced course for later this year. There is still so many old patterns to break. But I realise the downward spiral far earlier now. Which means that I can sometimes stop it before it gets too bad.
It also helps that I'm with someone who genuinly cares and communicates. Who doesn't judge me and tries to see my point of view. He can't fix my mind, but he often soothes it and loves me despite my many triggers he needs to navigate. He helps more than knows. (I love you
@Andy_32)Ultimately, though, I am the one who has to find light in my mental darkness when it happens. The moment I referred to recently was a work situation where I totally got stuck in my own head about a mistake made.
I've very often apologised for things that were not my fault. I'm getting better. I've been in relationships where I was constantly apologising for my feelings and it's exhausting. That said, that was as much my responsibility. I fall back into learned behaviours and coping skills, which are unhealthy. In stead, I should've communicated more clearly and asked for what I needed (and deserved). Self respect, self love, a sense of worth and realising your (my) feelings matter, is a constant struggle still. And body image is a whole different kettle of fish.
My dear
It's definitely a process. One I am actively working on with therapy. Group may be over for now, but I still have an evaluation coming up and I'll ask for the advanced course for later this year. There is still so many old patterns to break. But I realise the downward spiral far earlier now. Which means that I can sometimes stop it before it gets too bad.
It also helps that I'm with someone who genuinly cares and communicates. Who doesn't judge me and tries to see my point of view. He can't fix my mind, but he often soothes it and loves me despite my many triggers he needs to navigate. He helps more than knows. (I love you
Ultimately, though, I am the one who has to find light in my mental darkness when it happens. The moment I referred to recently was a work situation where I totally got stuck in my own head about a mistake made.
I've very often apologised for things that were not my fault. I'm getting better. I've been in relationships where I was constantly apologising for my feelings and it's exhausting. That said, that was as much my responsibility. I fall back into learned behaviours and coping skills, which are unhealthy. In stead, I should've communicated more clearly and asked for what I needed (and deserved). Self respect, self love, a sense of worth and realising your (my) feelings matter, is a constant struggle still. And body image is a whole different kettle of fish.
Hugs Pri. You are on a journey and working towards your goals. Thank you for sharing that. I don't think that's particularly what the thread was meant for. But they are thoughts. Maybe I'm just a bit ... much
I kind of liked your thoughts, after reading them just now. Don't think it was insensitive at all!
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There is absolutely no reason apologize.
This thread if for posting your thoughts. If you have happy thoughts, I'll gladly read them here.
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Life is cruel... unfair and straight out soul crushing. Everything can seem perfectly fine and then over night everything changes, and not for the better.
Some know, some don't.. hell, I still haven't fully processed it, but my dad passed away Friday from cardiac arrest brought on by a heart attack. The last memories I have of him are 2 missed calls from the previous week before watching him die.
Those 2 missed calls are still sitting on my phone haunting me because now I can never return them, it's too late.
Never got to say goodbye, never got to have one final conversation...it just adds to the pain.
Everything just hurts.
Next time you want to complain about your loved ones, especially a parent, think again because they could be gone without warning.
Some know, some don't.. hell, I still haven't fully processed it, but my dad passed away Friday from cardiac arrest brought on by a heart attack. The last memories I have of him are 2 missed calls from the previous week before watching him die.
Those 2 missed calls are still sitting on my phone haunting me because now I can never return them, it's too late.
Never got to say goodbye, never got to have one final conversation...it just adds to the pain.
Everything just hurts.
Next time you want to complain about your loved ones, especially a parent, think again because they could be gone without warning.
I’m so sorry. I don’t know what more any of us can say, other than that we’re thinking of you. Just be glad of the time you had with him and treasure those memories
Didn’t see what you said but as others have said, absolutely no need for an apology
update. I scrolled back. And it made me laugh !
You’re absolutely not. It’s important to be able to speak openly xMaybe I'm just a bit ... much
It can be any thoughts! Post away, I will gladly read!
Somebody started an education institute in my village in 1918. Now, after more than a century later, the institute is alive, with over 1200 students, most of them being underprivileged in many ways.
I always think about what thought he might've had that made him start the school because he wrote these lines, "One day, this place will be old and the old people will remember their childhood here" and "Sometime in future this place will house generations of students and yet stay new".
Here my thoughts are at maximum of 5 years in advance.
No idea if this belongs in this thread.
I always think about what thought he might've had that made him start the school because he wrote these lines, "One day, this place will be old and the old people will remember their childhood here" and "Sometime in future this place will house generations of students and yet stay new".
Here my thoughts are at maximum of 5 years in advance.
No idea if this belongs in this thread.
I was hoping to make someone laugh <3
My beautiful mother passed away on March 24th, 2024 at 10:35pm in her bed at home. She did not suffer at all and she went peacefully. Thank you to all who have been so supportive. It truly means a lot to me and my family. Continue to keep us in your prayers and thoughts.
My beautiful mother passed away on March 24th, 2024 at 10:35pm in her bed at home. She did not suffer at all and she went peacefully. Thank you to all who have been so supportive. It truly means a lot to me and my family. Continue to keep us in your prayers and thoughts.
I'm so sorry, I don't know ya per se but losing a parent I do know, stay strong remember the good times
I ❤ spring, the robins, orioles, blue birds have returned to make me smile
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