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Phantasym said:
Amused observation #1
We are like a herd of cats in this games/banter part of the forum ... converging on the each thread as if it is the light from a laser pointer dancing about the floor, or a shiny bauble bouncing on a string ... chasing after it until it becomes tired and boring, and the next fascinating thread pops to the top of the list.
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I'm offended. You just called of us a bunch of pussies. I couldn't get past that and didn't read the rest. Tsk tsk tsk.
 
When you are angry, upset, or frustrated, you have a profound change in your state of mind. You tend to think more negatively and say (along with do) things you may normally never do. If you find yourself angry, upset, or frustrated take a step back from the situation, take some deep breaths, take a little walk, and try to calm down before reacting.

Maybe this is best for an 'advice type' thread, but this has been on my mind recently.
 
PoliteandNaughty said:
When you are angry, upset, or frustrated, you have a profound change in your state of mind. You tend to think more negatively and say (along with do) things you may normally never do. If you find yourself angry, upset, or frustrated take a step back from the situation, take some deep breaths, take a little walk, and try to calm down before reacting.

Maybe this is best for an 'advice type' thread, but this has been on my mind recently.
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This is one of those things where self-understanding is so important. Because being angry or frustrated tends to push you towards crossing a line to where you do or say something negative. You have to learn to recognize when you are approaching that line so you can back off from it before you slip past it.
 
Phantasym said:
This is one of those things where self-understanding is so important. Because being angry or frustrated tends to push you towards crossing a line to where you do or say something negative. You have to learn to recognize when you are approaching that line so you can back off from it before you slip past it.
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I agree. I myself have fallen victim of this and know the pain it can bring. I'm trying to not be that person anymore.
 
Amused Observation #2
People are like complex origami artwork. Every experience, memory, thought, is like a fold in the paper, slowly over their life building something complex, unique, and beautiful. Yet so much of the beauty is hidden in the layers of folds. And getting to know another person is like they are unfolding a part of themselves so you can see some of those inner folds.
 
Phantasym said:
Amused Observation #2
so you can see some of those inner folds.
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I can't help myself...

Phantasym said:
Amused Observation #2
Every experience, memory, thought, is like a fold in the paper, slowly over their life building something complex, unique, and beautiful. Yet so much of the beauty is hidden in the layers of folds.
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I've subscribe to the idiom of people being onions and how peeling them reveals each layer of who they are. But...onions make you cry and have a strong acrid odor, so it's quite fitting to all those times we have cried in life and when we've gotten pungent comments directed at us.

Your origami analogy is so much more beautiful and kinder. I'll adopt it for the happy and lovely times (and to sensual times when you want to see or share dem inner folds). Conclusion: people are origami onions.
 
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PoliteandNaughty said:
When you are angry, upset, or frustrated, you have a profound change in your state of mind. You tend to think more negatively and say (along with do) things you may normally never do. If you find yourself angry, upset, or frustrated take a step back from the situation, take some deep breaths, take a little walk, and try to calm down before reacting.

Maybe this is best for an 'advice type' thread, but this has been on my mind recently.
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The trouble is when it's a sudden emotional hijacking and the negative reaction is instantaneous and leaves both parties hurt / ashamed / regretful. What then? I think meditation helps. Practicing being a step away from our ego and its reactionary tendency, gives us that exra second to re-equilibriate and be able to choose the next action and words.

It's like a Formula 1 racer, whose mind slows down which each increase in mph. They can see, feel and decide in milliseconds when untrained people would see things as happening to them not as things simply happening.
 
Thalassa said:
The trouble is when it's a sudden emotional hijacking and the negative reaction is instantaneous and leaves both parties hurt / ashamed / regretful. What then? I think meditation helps. Practicing being a step away from our ego and its reactionary tendency, gives us that exra second to re-equilibriate and be able to choose the next action and words.

It's like a Formula 1 racer, whose mind slows down which each increase in mph. They can see, feel and decide in milliseconds when untrained people would see things as happening to them not as things simply happening.
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I agree, it's not easy to do when you get emotionally hijacked. I think mediation could definitely help. Also think exercise and/or another way to get the anger/frustration out can help as well.
 
Thalassa said:
I can't help myself...



I've subscribe to the idiom of people being onions and how peeling them reveals each layer of who they are. But...onions make you cry and have a strong acrid odor, so it's quite fitting to all those times we have cried in life and when we'be gotten pungent comments directed at us.

Your origami analogy is so much more beautiful and kinder. I'll adopt it for the happy and lovely times (and to sensual times when you want to see or share dem inner folds). Conclusion: people are origami onions.
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Yeah, I've heard the onion analogy before ... except not the bit about them making you cry and having a strong odor.

Maybe an origami salad would work ... since not every part of a person has that acrid odor ... and we are more like a jumbled mix of all different ingredients. All, of course, topped with a nice creamy dressing.
 
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