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My unsolicited (as usual) wisdom (yeah, right :rolleyes:) of the month -- and fyi, totally totally unrelated to the above posts.

People can change but most don't and won't change. If someone is treating you badly, it's a pattern. It won’t go away no matter how hard you care and love them, no matter how much attention and time and effort you give them, no matter how much of your heart and soul you give.

Some people are curs, with black hearts that they try to pass as white and good. They know how to prey on the right kind of woman. If they gaslight you, verbally abuse you, threaten to break up, actually break up, make you feel it's your fault by whining how terrible,worthless, cunty they are, then make up with over the top compliments and nonstop "I love you's", those men don't know what love is but they know what manipulation is.

Cut losses. Move on now. No second, third, fourth...umpteeth chances. You matter and you deserve better.
 
Most people don't know how to accurately and respectfully share their feelings/thoughts nor are they comfortable doing it. So it's easy to misinterpret what someone else is thinking or motivated by. I try to remember this but I'm also not willing to invest in a conversation if someone is being an asshole. Are they going through something or hurting? Probably. But that's not my problem to fix and I'm not willing to forfeit my emotional well-being for someone else who won't do the work to get better. These guys better watch out! You have to make it to level 5 to go to coffee/lunch with me and the odds are not looking good :p
 
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