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Fish can become proficient at climbing trees with enough desperation, but they will inevitably become food for those designed to live on the surface.
 
Harley31 said:
I'm not Religious but I've never been offended when someone says they'll pray for me. Its the thought that counts.
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I'm not really religious myself but I'm a Christian and spiritual so I do pray but you'd be surprised some people do get offended by it. I always thought it was a caring thing people do.
 
Oops I meant to quote Onyx lol
OnyxStorm said:
I'm not really religious myself but I'm a Christian and spiritual so I do pray but you'd be surprised some people do get offended by it. I always thought it was a caring thing people do.
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When someone is offended, it's not always that you did something wrong, it sometimes can be something inside of them that they are uncomfortable with in some way. I've heard a similar thing in 12 step groups, that when we are offended with someone else's behavior, it can really be something in us that we don't like or are uncomfortable with. Not always true, but I think there's a lot more truth to it than people realize. I don't talk about my faith on the forum, but I will say that it's not my job to change people, it's my job to love them. Love comes in many forms and the most unlovable are usually the ones that need it the most. They don't always let you know when it's something they needed and can act out in hurtful ways.
 
LillyK99 said:
Oops I meant to quote Onyx lol

When someone is offended, it's not always that you did something wrong, it sometimes can be something inside of them that they are uncomfortable with in some way. I've heard a similar thing in 12 step groups, that when we are offended with someone else's behavior, it can really be something in us that we don't like or are uncomfortable with. Not always true, but I think there's a lot more truth to it than people realize. I don't talk about my faith on the forum, but I will say that it's not my job to change people, it's my job to love them. Love comes in many forms and the most unlovable are usually the ones that need it the most. They don't always let you know when it's something they needed and can act out in hurtful ways.
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Haha no worries girl but yeah I can understand what you're saying though. I'll speak on my faith etc just because that's how I am and comfortable but yeah definitely don't want anyone feeling uncomfortable so mostly I'll tell people I'll keep them in my thoughts instead of prayers but at times I'll say prayers. Either way I'll always think of people and mean my prayers etc has a caring thing. ❤ just spreading the love.
 
OnyxStorm said:
Haha no worries girl but yeah I can understand what you're saying though. I'll speak on my faith etc just because that's how I am and comfortable but yeah definitely don't want anyone feeling uncomfortable so mostly I'll tell people I'll keep them in my thoughts instead of prayers but at times I'll say prayers. Either way I'll always think of people and mean my prayers etc has a caring thing. ❤ just spreading the love.
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Yeah I don't talk about my faith cause we're on a sex site lmao everyone in private knows what I do on Friday nights though *smirks*
 
When I experienced something amazing I never want to let go, I never want to quit it, give it up
. I wish I could learn just went to stop. I just can't seem to figure out when to just move on and let go. Even after its 100% apparent that my feelings are no longer reciprocated.
 
I will be your biggest fan, your ride or die, your biggest supporter, will defend you, tell you when you are fucking up all the while helping you, be your best friend, ultimate lover, show you true respect, loyalty, take care of you, be your everything and love you like no one ever thought possible. All I need in return is to have you sincerely show me I am special, loved, worth working out the kinks and you won't leave.
For some reason, I am just so fucking unlovable and no matter all the amazing things I am told about myself I'm never good enough to make anyone want to stay.
 
Nah, I'm the problem. It's a pattern, always ends the same. Work hard to get me and can't wait to leave me.
 
AB1978 said:
@LillyK99, very sweet but I am the problem. I really believe that I am wanted, needed, special enough that I can be completely open to express myself and so I do, which eventually results in me fucking it up
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Yeah, I get it. I share too much of my heart and have been hurt because I put myself out there too quickly. I don't get why everyone can't be open and honest. But I'm learning there's a natural order to things and to be patient when building a relationship to let trust gradually build. Otherwise I open myself up to being hurt. Message me if you want, although I'm going to bed soon!

Xoxo
 
From someone who knows that feeling very well, I know it to be a fact that everyone here is equally deserving of love. I have found much truth in the philosophy of loving oneself before others can love you. When one loves themselves and allows themselves to be genuine, they will gravitate towards cool people who genuinely enjoy being around them. Think of the best possible person you know—real, fictional, imaginary, famous, what have you—regardless of society's take on them, for insight as to who you truly are. I find that the desperation for love coupled with altering one's personality in attempt to be the "perfect person" for their object of affection only leads to a murky, shady middle ground full of assholes who will trick and abuse any receptive, self-suppressing heart who crosses their path. My inbox is always open, as well.
 
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You are right. As my husband married me because of his health problem and I had good insurance. I wanted him to love me as much as I did him so I lost who I was to become what he wanted and it isn't enough, I realized after a lot of years in misery that I never will be enough. When I meet someone who sweeps me off my feet and makes me feel like I am all that matters, I cling, but the real me shines through. And I feel amazing!! Occasionally things happen that knock me back, so I opt to talk about it instead of let it gnaw. Obviously this time I handled myself wrong and cost myself something beautiful. But it doesn't matter he doesn't want me back and never will, I am just speaking out so hopefully I don't drown in my thoughts.

You ladies are very appreciated! Your kind words and wisdom are very comforting. Thank you both for taking the time... xoxoxo
 
Last one I promise. Being upset and hurt hopeful and Wishful are emotions I've juggled for the past few days. Now I am down to just being completely distraught that he can so easily let me walk away. I will get over him, but I hope he NEVER gets over letting me go!! I have my downs but my ups make them forgettable! It's sad you couldn't see that. Xxx
 
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