The power to ignore is underrated.
Hatred destroys, even if it is only the hater. You can't respond to hate with more hate because hate still wins. The only effective counter to hate is love. We must counter hate from all sides with love.
People being destroyed by their own hate blame the person they hate for their misery. This, then, deepens their hate and their misery.
The only thing required to be self righteous is to believe you have the morally superior position.
Hate is still hate.
Love separates behavior from the individual, allowing us to be critical of behavior, and of arguments and ideas, while still loving the individual. This further allows us to be peacemakers while standing up against evil. I spend a lot of time studying military history and so I often think in terms of tactics and strategy. Responding to hate and anger with more hate and anger is just bad tactics, it doesn't work.
My religious faith taught me to separate behavior from individuals. Logic teaches me to separate arguments from arguers. Love and logic are compatible.
My religious faith that me that charity is the pure love of Christ. Charity suffers long, is kind, rejoices in truth, bears all things, hopes all things, and endures all things. Charity does not envy, is not puffed up, does not seek her own, is not easily provoked, does not think evil, and does not rejoice in iniquity. Without charity, we are nothing. Charity is the greatest of all and never fails.