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Since I have last visited the forum, I now have three cats, and I love them dearly. I have a female medium-hair ginger, a female tuxedo, and a male tan-grey tabby.
 
SweetLesGirl said:
During the last twenty months a lot of things have happened in my life detail about most is of no importance here in FCN and therefore I am not going to share it.

I will share the following. Due to COVID I was forced to isolate at home for months. The mental health implication of that was enormous. The challenge of staying stable and staying focused was no child's play. Of course, this does not make it any easier when news of friends and family dying from covid keeps pouring in. And we are all isolated. During the third wave of COVID, in nine days, I lost exactly seventeen people who meant something to me that was close to me for whom I cared and also worked with. Family members, friends and colleagues. Never before in my entire life have I been to so many funerals in person or online as in the past few months.

It made me realize about how many trifles one fights and argues in real life but also online. The amount of energy we waste on things that are unimportant.

Life is far too short to waste time on the things that do us no good. Many wonder why I distance myself from drama and senseless childish online fighting the above storie is the reason. If something does not suit me, I simply walk away and channel the frustration and anger in more positive directions and focus my attention on what brings me peace, joy and happiness.

I tell myself I do not have to fight with others I do not have to waste my energy on negative things and I may say no to those who try to get me involved in their dramas and online fights. I may choose to put my mental health and happiness first and I do not have to feel guilty about it. I may choose to focus on what is good and positive rather than wasting time on trivia.

At the end of the day, the truth is that we all make mistakes we all do things we should not we all hurt someone just like someone hurts us. And the most wonderful of all even then the sun still shines for all of us.

Life is short how short I have learn in the last twenty months walk away from the things which disturbs your peace without taking revenge, fighting, gossiping and bad mouthing and focusing on the things which brings you peace and makes you happy.
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I just had to re read this post again. I am truly sorry for your many losses. Now I am here wondering and worried. How have you managed to handle such impactful events and loss that could be considered traumatizing. ♥️
 
Bennettrose said:
I just had to re read this post again. I am truly sorry for your many losses. Now I am here wondering and worried. How have you managed to handle such impactful events and loss that could be considered traumatizing. ♥️
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It's a difficult question and difficult to explain. I really focus on what I can control and what I can not control I accept as part of a larger plan that I do not understand now but may one day understand. I acknowledge my emotions and embrace them I cry and do not hold them back. I focus on the beautiful things I experienced with those people and let it be a comfort to me that their lives were not without purpose. I look at the current conditions in the world and my own country and know that finally they are in a better place now. I remember them and celebrate their lives by giving back in the community.
 
SweetLesGirl said:
It's a difficult question and difficult to explain. I really focus on what I can control and what I can not control I accept as part of a larger plan that I do not understand now but may one day understand. I acknowledge my emotions and embrace them I cry and do not hold them back. I focus on the beautiful things I experienced with those people and let it be a comfort to me that their lives were not without purpose. I look at the current conditions in the world and my own country and know that finally they are in a better place now. I remember them and celebrate their lives by giving back in the community.
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You're such a wise woman
I'm sorry for your losses
 
SweetLesGirl said:
It's a difficult question and difficult to explain. I really focus on what I can control and what I can not control I accept as part of a larger plan that I do not understand now but may one day understand. I acknowledge my emotions and embrace them I cry and do not hold them back. I focus on the beautiful things I experienced with those people and let it be a comfort to me that their lives were not without purpose. I look at the current conditions in the world and my own country and know that finally they are in a better place now. I remember them and celebrate their lives by giving back in the community.
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♥️♥️♥️ much love
 
The definition of Hate = intense dislike. Feelings of hate and revenge.

I do not entertain that kind of emotion. Here at FCN in particular, I have no need to take revenge on anyone. There is no reason under the sun to hate someone or someone who is not your cup of tea. There is no reason here to hate anyone at all. Not for me anyway.

When people do not answer your inbox, pm it does not mean you hate someone good heavens what kind of mentalityd is that. There can be several reasons why someone does not answer. But hatred is certainly not necessarily the reason.
 
SweetLesGirl said:
The definition of Hate = intense dislike. Feelings of hate and revenge.

I do not entertain that kind of emotion. Here at FCN in particular, I have no need to take revenge on anyone. There is no reason under the sun to hate someone or someone who is not your cup of tea. There is no reason here to hate anyone at all. Not for me anyway.

When people do not answer your inbox, pm it does not mean you hate someone good heavens what kind of mentalityd is that. There can be several reasons why someone does not answer. But hatred is certainly not necessarily the reason.
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Yeah, I think revenge is a childish concept, I think it's great to let a strong majority of shit go, and try to solve problems like an adult.
 
SweetLesGirl said:
The definition of Hate = intense dislike. Feelings of hate and revenge.

I do not entertain that kind of emotion. Here at FCN in particular, I have no need to take revenge on anyone. There is no reason under the sun to hate someone or someone who is not your cup of tea. There is no reason here to hate anyone at all. Not for me anyway.

When people do not answer your inbox, pm it does not mean you hate someone good heavens what kind of mentalityd is that. There can be several reasons why someone does not answer. But hatred is certainly not necessarily the reason.
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I was always taught hate is an extreme emotion and not to. I have been spit on, called the most vile slurs, molested and assaulted here in the US because of my race and never hated. So the thought of hating a virtual stranger online, stalking, and being hateful has always shocked me.

Not everyone has to be friends and you may have a strong dislike, but just be civil, respectful, and there a is always the ignore option.
 
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