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BadBabe77 said:
Just my opinion, but to hate someone is acknowledging they have wronged you in one way or another. To hold on to that hate is to pour your energy in to them. It is far better for you soul and peace to ignore them. For one it doesnt fuel their needs for attention and it will help heal any wounds they caused.

I held on to my hatred of people for far too long and only just learning the benefits of letting go and I am finally finding peace of mind and my own happiness.
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I hear you but the post is to highlight the wrong way the word is use you dont just say someone hate you just because the person dont answer your inbox pm or not fast enough or when they want you too. Is have nothing to do with hate. People gets impatience and demanding in inbox or pm and if you dont preform they say you hate. Not talking to someone ingeneral or at all because you have nothing in common with then is not hate but is refer to as hate or see as hate ... dont make sense at all ... have nothing to do with people who have wrong you. Its about attaching a emotion to people who have not wrong you nor you them but they think you hate them.
 
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"Contrary to popular belief, Barnum's great discovery was not how easy it is to deceive the public, but rather how much the public enjoyed being deceived. Especially if they could see how it was done. They were flattered that anyone would use such ingenuity to entertain them."

-- Daniel J. Boorstin
 
"Suppose an individual believes something with his whole heart; suppose further that he has a commitment to this belief, that he has taken irrevocable actions because of it; finally, suppose that he is presented with evidence, unequivocal and undeniable evidence that his belief is wrong: what will happen?"

-- Leo Festinger, in his book When Prophecy Fails about Dorothy Martin's Seekers.

"One of the things we expected would happen would be that, after disconfirmation of this prediction . . . they would . . . have to discard their belief, but to the extent that they were committed to it, this would be difficult to do."

The conclusion?

"The more you invest in a set of beliefs -- the greater sacrifice you make in service of that conviction -- the more resistant you will be to evidence that suggests that you are mistaken. You don't give up, you double down."

-- Malcolm Gladwell, in his book The Bomber Mafia about the US Army Air Forces during WWII.
 
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Corsair48 said:
"Contrary to popular belief, Barnum's great discovery was not how easy it is to deceive the public, but rather how much the public enjoyed being deceived. Especially if they could see how it was done. They were flattered that anyone would use such ingenuity to entertain them."

-- Daniel J. Boorstin
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PT Barnum??
 
"The general principle seems that people come to believe in and to love the things they have to suffer for."


If you will pardon the reference to politics here, The Rudeman era is illustrative of the idea of loving and believing in things people have had to suffer for. Rudeman appealed to many (in part because of what they felt they had previously suffered), but produced negative reactions in many others. The latter suffered first and then caused the former to suffer by their reaction to Rudeman -- the point is that there is some back and forth, tit for tat, reactions going on. Both groups have found it difficult to discard their beliefs regarding Rudeman and those who either oppose or support him.
 
Corsair48 said:
"The general principle seems that people come to believe in and to love the things they have to suffer for."


If you will pardon the reference to politics here, The Rudeman era is illustrative of the idea of loving and believing in things people have had to suffer for. Rudeman appealed to many (in part because of what they felt they had previously suffered), but produced negative reactions in many others. The latter suffered first and then caused the former to suffer by their reaction to Rudeman -- the point is that there is some back and forth, tit for tat, reactions going on. Both groups have found it difficult to discard their beliefs regarding Rudeman and those who either oppose or support him.
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That is fascinating, thank you very much for sharing. Something I am curious about: based on what was said between the researcher and the subject, it seems to me that the subjects were given the option of whether or not they wanted to accept the researcher's request of lying to the next subject. If the woman who was payed a dollar to carry out the lie was given an option of whether or not she wanted to accept the task, I wonder what thought process would lead to her accepting the task. I assume that her acceptance of the task could be dependent on a fear of refusal or a desire to try something new (or maybe she just really wanted that dollar). I think that the experiment could have been more precisely carried out if they had found a subject who objected to the task of lying for a dollar, but were told that they had to do it anyway (perhaps that is indeed what happened, and I have misinterpreted something). All that aside, I very much believe in cognitive dissonance and I have learned a lot from this information.
 
While I have been home I have been thinking about personal happiness and what that means. For me I think it's a life overhaul.

I have been thinking about going to school for the culinary arts or going to grad school for an MSW. I definitely need a change
 
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