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[Peony8317]

We all have our moments of deep despair, vulnerability and hurt. A couple of weeks ago, I sat in my car in an empty parking lot, crying and screaming my lungs out, and I mean really screaming. I found myself failing, falling so short of the expectations I had for myself and for others. Failing so badly.

I deal with my hardest moments by going to my haven - my car, just being there or driving. Have a space where you can connect again to your inner self, ground yourself, drop expectations and pull yourself back together. I sometimes also deal with it by coming here, switching my mind off, being in the moment and writing. I'm still cheerful me. Hardly anyone would know. Because no one needs to know when you're most vulnerable.

Nobody owes anyone anything. It doesn't matter the kind of relationship or the length of it, be it months, years or decades. You find a way to deal with it in private, ideally by yourself if you can. Dumping negativity, complaining, and crapping all over others is not the way. Everyone has their own things they are dealing with.

The greatest gifts you can give yourself is self-reliance, being emotionally independent and resilient. Letting go of expectations and finding your inner peace again is your responsibility and your responsibility alone.

I can relate to this! Thanks for sharing this.

 

[Dogowar]

Sometimes, I sit here, watch the posts, the interactions and the groups of people via against others. And I spark up a smoke, pour myself a drink and say " Fuck it" .

 

[Bennettrose]

Sometimes, I sit here, watch the posts, the interactions and the groups of people via against others. And I spark up a smoke, pour myself a drink and say " Fuck it" .

You are a true Lord Tennyson, I get it though

 

[Deleted member 264383]

I am deeply happy when people are happy ... happy with themselves ... happy with the people who make them happy ... others' happiness makes me happy ... whether it is from my friends or acquaintances .... if people are happy then I am happy. If we all grant that happiness without envy without trying to extinguish it without doing something indirectly or directly that can kill that happiness, then the world will already be a better place. Allow each other happiness no matter if it is friends, loved ones or enemies if their happiness does not hurt you leave them so that they can be happy allow them that happiness and joy and enjoy the things and people that brings you your own happiness.

 

[Thalassa]

I am deeply happy when people are happy ... happy with themselves ... happy with the people who make them happy ... others' happiness makes me happy ... whether it is from my friends or acquaintances .... if people are happy then I am happy. If we all grant that happiness without envy without trying to extinguish it without doing something indirectly or directly that can kill that happiness, then the world will already be a better place. Allow each other happiness no matter if it is friends, loved ones or enemies if their happiness does not hurt you leave them so that they can be happy allow them that happiness and joy and enjoy the things and people that brings you your own happiness.

Your post has 15 instances of the words 'happy'and 'happiness'. Knowing how happy you are about beinf happy, about your happiness and others' happiness in being happy, makes me happy and gives me much happy happiness

 

[Thalassa]

I can relate to this! Thanks for sharing this.

Sure thing.
Occasionally, I like to go bla bla bla

 

[Deleted member 264383]

Your post has 15 instances of the words 'happy'and 'happiness'. Knowing how happy you are about beinf happy, about your happiness and others' happiness in being happy, makes me happy and gives me much happy happiness

❤

 

[Peony8317]

Sure thing.
Occasionally, I like to go bla bla bla

One of the most real and honest things I've read on here

 

[MelancholyArtist]

You're good. On the weekends I forget they exist

Pics or it didn't happen.

 

[Bennettrose]

Pics or it didn't happen.

oh you're cute.............lol

 

[Corsair48]

I occasionally see references to FCN drama and I wonder how I keep missing it, then realize I am off in a different corner of FCN posting stuff no one sees.

 

[CoquetteX]

If you’re brave enough to say goodbye, life will reward you with a new hello.

 

[Snap75]

If you’re brave enough to say goodbye, life will reward you with a new hello.

I really hope so

 

[Bennettrose]

there once was a time i wanted to continue to know you forever. forever has turned out to be too damn long already. why i don't know, i love you, but i love me more.

 

[MissLed]

I occasionally see references to FCN drama and I wonder how I keep missing it, then realize I am off in a different corner of FCN posting stuff no one sees.

I saw this one

 

[Snap75]

It's those days where the clouds are dark, foreboding, and give you that claustrophobic feeling that you need those lifelines. Those rays of sunshine that thaw your numbness with thoughtful words, kind actions, and helpful suggestions.

 

[Deleted member 264383]

It's those days where the clouds are dark, foreboding, and give you that claustrophobic feeling that you need those lifelines. Those rays of sunshine that thaw your numbness with thoughtful words, kind actions, and helpful suggestions.

Always remember that even behind the darkclouds the sun is shining. You got this.

 

[ASB1978]

As much as I enjoy scrolling through the New Profile Posts, even though they are public, sometimes I feel as if I just stumbled into a very personal, intimate moment. And I feel as if I should apologize.

 

[Riverside]

I like light hearted intimate fun, so why does life get so complicated and heavy?

 

[Deleted member 264383]

When we live in the spirit of gratitude, there will be much happiness in our life. The one who is grateful is the one who has much happiness while the one who is ungrateful will not be able to have happiness ... Thich Nhat Hanh

I really have a big admiration for Thich Nhat Hanh. He has broadened my horizons so that I can see beyond just the here and now. I have in the past allowed people to get stuck on me and drain my energy. Until I realized it was killing me from within. I learned that being kind to others does not mean they can own or abuse you to feel good. That kindness or encouragement does not mean you should ignore your own mental health. I also learned that not everyone needs to know where I am applying the encouragement and kindness. Sometimes one does it where everyone can see but overall I prefer it that my left hand does not know what my right hand is doing. I let myself be guided by my feelings. One lesson I learned is that people are going to expect you to be perfect. When you talk about positive things and kindness then they expect perfection and if you do not do as they expect of you then they dismiss it as not genuine. Thich Nhat Hanh taught me that others' expectations of me are not important because I am human I can also disappoint. He learned me to listen to the voice in me and to act accordingly. He also taught me that I can not help people who do not really want to be helped but who just want to drain your energy in the hope of finding inner peace and happiness. But when you set boundaries they simply move on to where they get what they are looking for and not what they need. No one can provide you with inner peace and happiness only you and you alone can find it in you.