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Thalassa said:
1. Cowardice. It's easier to be a coward. Doing the right thing takes getting out of the comfort zone. It's convenient to be complacent and cowardly.

2. The above also comes along with the added benefit that they can twist the story to make themselves look like the good person and reap a pity party from their friends = attention.

3. Admitting (whether to themselves or someone else) that they are at fault doesn't feel good.

4. There is a positive outcome for them, so the "screw the other person, I'm gonna get what I want."

5. Lack of integrity, as a result of bad childhood AND deciding to prioritize themselves no matter what.

6. If it involves love, money, sex - what they get emotionally / sexually / financially cloud warps their good judgement.

7. Lack of empathy - seeing what it's like for the other person, putting themselves in their shoes and realizing that that person's shoes stepped on their shit.

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You said you loved my smile and you had posted a couple days ago about being melancholic. So, here's a smile from me to you, with the hope of getting you to smile :)

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Thank you!!!
 
How to get through hard times:
The only way out is through.
When I've experienced hard times I simplify my life as much as possible so as not to drain myself physically, emotionally, spiritually, especially since I'm likely already depleted. I stay away from people that don't support me, my kids, or my well-being. I seek out healthy and supportive people, groups and keep it small. I'm careful about what I share but I try not to keep secrets because they will kill me. I take time throughout the day to breathe. I say no to things that aren't in my best interest. I remember that "no" is a complete sentence. I allow myself to fall apart, but try not to go past 20 minutes. I go for walks and get fresh air. I forgive myself. I ask for help. I stay in the moment and try not to zone out in the past, future, or worry about other people. I remember that I am the only expert on myself. I don't give up. My most used pep talk: you're not gonna die. (It works!)

My best friend created this balance wheel and made a stamp. I love it! Screenshot_20220519-142449_Gallery.jpg
 
LillyK99 said:
How to get through hard times:
The only way out is through.
When I've experienced hard times I simplify my life as much as possible so as not to drain myself physically, emotionally, spiritually, especially since I'm likely already depleted. I stay away from people that don't support me, my kids, or my well-being. I seek out healthy and supportive people, groups and keep it small. I'm careful about what I share but I try not to keep secrets because they will kill me. I take time throughout the day to breathe. I say no to things that aren't in my best interest. I remember that "no" is a complete sentence. I allow myself to fall apart, but try not to go past 20 minutes. I go for walks and get fresh air. I forgive myself. I ask for help. I stay in the moment and try not to zone out in the past, future, or worry about other people. I remember that I am the only expert on myself. I don't give up. My most used pep talk: you're not gonna die. (It works!)

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I think that the world could be a far better place if we could all learn to do these things Thank you
 
Don't read the following if you're triggered by discussions of mental health, suicide, etc.

Depression, anxiety, bpd, and other types of diagnoses take many lives every day in this world. People who fake, mock, or 'pretend,' are dicks. Let me get something clear: When I say the word pretend, I am not talking to the many who suffer without a diagnosis. Whether you have a diagnosis for any mentality issue, doesn't mean someone is pretending. When I say pretend, I am talking about the people who specifically go out of their way to praise the behavior, they encourage it. Comparing your mental health vs. others is insensitive. Don't do so. I don't give a fuck if you think you have it worse, better, etc, your words may be small, but they have a huge impact. Mental Health Awareness is not to commend the behavior, but to raise awareness to those who suffer from it. Hence the word "awareness."

Sometimes the hardest thing we can do in this world is to accept the help we believe we don't need. It's so easy to think so...it's comfortable. Though, not accepting that type of help can be life-ending. Literally. As much as its hard, its something you can overcome. You can do it. Things won't be like this forever! Keep your chin up, beauties!

One last thing before my time is up :D: It is perfectly okay to talk/discuss about your recovery, how many days clean, etc. Though, don't (like I said above) compare your progress with others. Realizing your progress is awesome! Doesn't mean you have to belittle others progress. I know you all are probably SO tired of reading so I shall spare you guys! Lol. I made this post to raise awareness and let others know that help is available, even though it may seem far away.

I, myself, am going to be a year clean of any self-harming behaviors in August. Change is possible! I promise. Okay, okay, I'm really done now haha. My PMs are always open to anyone who needs to talk, no matter the topic. I haven't had much time to respond lately, but I will get to it... I swear! I love you all- even you, you horny toad! <3
 
SubSoph said:
Don't read the following if you're triggered by discussions of mental health, suicide, etc.

Depression, anxiety, bpd, and other types of diagnoses take many lives every day in this world. People who fake, mock, or 'pretend,' are dicks. Let me get something clear: When I say the word pretend, I am not talking to the many who suffer without a diagnosis. Whether you have a diagnosis for any mentality issue, doesn't mean someone is pretending. When I say pretend, I am talking about the people who specifically go out of their way to praise the behavior, they encourage it. Comparing your mental health vs. others is insensitive. Don't do so. I don't give a fuck if you think you have it worse, better, etc, your words may be small, but they have a huge impact. Mental Health Awareness is not to commend the behavior, but to raise awareness to those who suffer from it. Hence the word "awareness."

Sometimes the hardest thing we can do in this world is to accept the help we believe we don't need. It's so easy to think so...it's comfortable. Though, not accepting that type of help can be life-ending. Literally. As much as its hard, its something you can overcome. You can do it. Things won't be like this forever! Keep your chin up, beauties!

One last thing before my time is up :D: It is perfectly okay to talk/discuss about your recovery, how many days clean, etc. Though, don't (like I said above) compare your progress with others. Realizing your progress is awesome! Doesn't mean you have to belittle others progress. I know you all are probably SO tired of reading so I shall spare you guys! Lol. I made this post to raise awareness and let others know that help is available, even though it may seem far away.

I, myself, am going to be a year clean of any self-harming behaviors in August. Change is possible! I promise. Okay, okay, I'm really done now haha. My PMs are always open to anyone who needs to talk, no matter the topic. I haven't had much time to respond lately, but I will get to it... I swear! I love you all- even you, you horny toad! <3
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I feel like I'm too "needy" or "clingy", maybe even a bit of a pest sometimes? Who knows. But I really don't ask for a lot. Especially when I ask for this one simple thing-
Don't fucking ignore me. It takes less than one minute to say a simple "Hey, how are ya?" To at least let me know you care even a little about my existence over your internet popularity and some randoms.

What is the point of claiming you want to be my friend when your actions say otherwise.. I don't get it.
 
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Brunette_ said:
I feel like I'm too "needy" or "clingy", maybe even a bit of a pest sometimes? Who knows. Buy I really don't ask for a lot. Especially when I ask for this one simple thing-
Don't fucking ignore me. It takes less than one minute to say a simple "Hey, how are ya?" To at least let me know you care even a little about my existence over your internet popularity and some randoms.

What is the point of claiming you want to be my friend when your actions say otherwise.. I don't get it.
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I don't think there is anything wrong with wanting or needing a kind word or support from a friend or someone with compassion when one is struggling.
 
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