Why do people first find this site? Because they are horny. Chat rooms are fast and scrolly, so new people get overlooked. Threads are calm but not inherently understood how they are used if you never used them before. Not everyone who regularly chats here is horny all the time, has made some friends with other regular chatters, and can forget what its like to be the new person. And from a horny male perspective, what else are we supposed to think when any female has presented herself on an adult website? There is a lot of toxicity of male to male and female to male interactions that society finds normal to exist but it doesnt mean its ok. We are all complex humans making our way through this complex world made by other complex humans. Its ok to be you. Its ok to try. Its ok to ask. Its ok to not be understood because one day someone will.