Question for the men..

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Depends on the man in question, personality type and his perception of sex. From perception stems ones expectations. So it would be probably wise to iron out such things before becoming regular sexual partners.
 
By the sounds of things, he is just treating you like 'another hole' as you mentioned previously. It also seems that you are quite attracted to him which isn't a good sign (after reading your posts). It would probably be wise to get out of this arrangement that you guys have asap before you become too attached. I'm sure there are plenty of men out there who would be happy to replace him and treat you with a little more respect. I hope you manage to work things out ;)
 
Mr-Legman said:
By the sounds of things, he is just treating you like 'another hole' as you mentioned previously. It also seems that you are quite attracted to him which isn't a good sign (after reading your posts). It would probably be wise to get out of this arrangement that you guys have asap before you become too attached. I'm sure there are plenty of men out there who would be happy to replace him and treat you with a little more respect. I hope you manage to work things out ;)
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Totally agree
 
Mr-Legman said:
By the sounds of things, he is just treating you like 'another hole' as you mentioned previously. It also seems that you are quite attracted to him which isn't a good sign (after reading your posts). It would probably be wise to get out of this arrangement that you guys have asap before you become too attached. I'm sure there are plenty of men out there who would be happy to replace him and treat you with a little more respect. I hope you manage to work things out ;)
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Thanks. He is gone now. I sent him a few choice emails. Yes unfortunately I liked him because, at the start, he presented as someone who was genuinely interested in me. I now see this was a hook by which to reel me in.

Like I posted on my profile page, I called him out on a few things and put the truth in front of him. As he is a coward, I get radio silence.

I’ve never met anyone who treats women the way he does. Like some commodity. It’s just shocking.

Thank you for your wise words x
 
I kind of think, if he’s all that like he thinks he is, why doesn’t he sleep with someone he is ACTUALLY attracted to who will ALSO give him the kind of sex he likes.
 
Depends on the man really. I know guys who can't have sex without feeling attracted to the woman.

I also know men who'd have sex because it's better than wanking.

I also know myself and I'd have sex as long as its still warm.
 
Male_uk said:
Depends on the man really. I know guys who can't have sex without feeling attracted to the woman.

I also know men who'd have sex because it's better than wanking.

I also know myself and I'd have sex as long as its still warm.
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Yes I think ‘mine’ fits into that second category.

So when you say you would have sex as long as it’s still warm, you are basically saying you would shag anyone.

I don’t judge what others do but this guy I slept with shouldn’t have lied to me to get me into bed.
 
Curvy said:
Yes I think ‘mine’ fits into that second category.

So when you say you would have sex as long as it’s still warm, you are basically saying you would shag anyone.

I don’t judge what others do but this guy I slept with shouldn’t have lied to me to get me into bed.
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The last point is obviously humour but I have and probably still fit into the second category.

I agree, deceiving you to get you there isn't right.
 
Male_uk said:
The last point is obviously humour but I have and probably still fit into the second category.

I agree, deceiving you to get you there isn't right.
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Yeah. Sucks.

He’s not even perfect himself. Just has something about him.
 
Male_uk said:
Why not get another fuck buddy?

Moving on to someone else can help you move on :)
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I don’t like the concept of a fuck buddy.

I actually thought he genuinely liked me at first and wondered if fun could lead to more.

Then I realised it was just sex. I had to adapt to that. I told him before we slept together that I can’t have sex with someone unless I know they are attracted to me. He said he was. But he blocked me after text that day and didn’t ask me for sex again until a month later. He is also shagging other women and has now got back in touch complaining that they aren’t as good as me at sex. I think that’s another lie as he has just moved to the street next to mine so he is thinking of me as ‘a convenient neighbour’.
 
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Curvy said:
I don’t like the concept of a fuck buddy.

I actually thought he genuinely liked me at first and wondered if fun could lead to more.

Then I realised it was just sex. I had to adapt to that. I told him before we slept together that I can’t have sex with someone unless I know they are attracted to me. He said he was. But he blocked me after text that day and didn’t ask me for sex again until a month later. He is also shagging other women and has not got back in touch complaining that aren’t as good as me at sex. I think that’s another lie as he has just moved to the street next to mine so he is thinking of me as ‘a convenient neighbour’.
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I get ya.

He may be attracted to you though but doesn't want any commitments to it. If he's just come out of a marriage then he's probably just after a no strings attached situation.

Not that that makes your situation any better mind but it could at least answer the question. He probably is attracted to you but doesn't want any commitment attached to it.
 
Male_uk said:
I get ya.

He may be attracted to you though but doesn't want any commitments to it. If he's just come out of a marriage then he's probably just after a no strings attached situation.

Not that that makes your situation any better mind but it could at least answer the question. He probably is attracted to you but doesn't want any commitment attached to it.
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Maybe. Maybe he does fancy me a bit and is worried that by admitting it, I may want more. But I actually don’t now, knowing what I know. Also I’m married. I know he visually compares every woman to his perfect ex-wife. But she won’t have him back so he needs to suck it up.

Yes as it’s no strings attached maybe complimenting me is too much emotional work for him.

Personally, I can’t see how making the person you are seeing feel desired and feel good about themselves is such a hardship. Surely the whole point is about making each other feel good about what you do for each other.
 
Bransonyeh said:
Hope you dont talk that much in the bedroom curvy, jesus christ just hump the guy and be done with it lol
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LMAO! I’m a bit naughty in my texts to him and I DO go on lol. But I’ve been as good as gold when I’m with him. I actually go quite shy haha. Until the wild streak emerges! ;p
 
Curvy said:
Personally, I can’t see how making the person you are seeing feel desired and feel good about themselves is such a hardship. Surely the whole point is about making each other feel good about what you do for each other.
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Couldn't answer that myself personally. Whilst there are some traits of his I have done myself (ignoring, contacting when I want something, yadda yadda) I like to think I've never been nasty to them and will happily compliment them.

Maybe he wasn't hugged enough as a child ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
 
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