Group Banter Race to a million

SarcasticSadie said:
Once had a shampoo with it in, felt like had dipped my head in a barrel of mint or something of that ilk.

I mean was kinda fresh but weird at the same time ha

Unless I getting confused with something else ofc
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Yeah, it's best used as a medicinal treatment, excellent anticeptic and dries the skin like alcohol.
Wouldn't want to be bathing in it haha
 
I know nothing is black and white, and people are complex, complicated, can't always get on with everyone etc, but I don't like the thought of people being marginalised, and I've already lost good friends here due to choices, not bad choices, or choices I wouldn't make again, but still.

I feel like I need to make a conscious choice to be/do better and just avoid saying negative things about people I may not like as everyone has feelings.
 
Nowhere_man said:
I know nothing is black and white, and people are complex, complicated, can't always get on with everyone etc, but I don't like the thought of people being marginalised, and I've already lost good friends here due to choices, not bad choices, or choices I wouldn't make again, but still.

I feel like I need to make a conscious choice to be/do better and just avoid saying negative things about people I may not like as everyone has feelings.
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For sure, it's an easy mistake especially if you've never been in the "popular in-group" to go all in on the bitching and gossiping as soon as the opportunity presents.

But I think you're always lovely and supportive of everyone, and you also have the right to exclude anyone that is breaking the social contract and making you or your friends feel like shit.

You don't have to be tolerant to the intolerant.
 
Nowhere_man said:
I know nothing is black and white, and people are complex, complicated, can't always get on with everyone etc, but I don't like the thought of people being marginalised, and I've already lost good friends here due to choices, not bad choices, or choices I wouldn't make again, but still.

I feel like I need to make a conscious choice to be/do better and just avoid saying negative things about people I may not like as everyone has feelings.
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You're right, nothing is black and white
There are two sides to everything and people are really good at pointing out their side, which often puts the blame for anything squarely on you

I don't know specific situations, and don't need to. What I do know is you're a wonderful human being and not a lick of "bad people" in you
 
Nowhere_man said:
I know nothing is black and white, and people are complex, complicated, can't always get on with everyone etc, but I don't like the thought of people being marginalised, and I've already lost good friends here due to choices, not bad choices, or choices I wouldn't make again, but still.

I feel like I need to make a conscious choice to be/do better and just avoid saying negative things about people I may not like as everyone has feelings.
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I would suggest most banter or such like I see is exactly that, and obviously so

Also my limited opinion is: Sometimes people use those very same feelings to suit their own narrative and as an excuse as to excuse one’s own behaviour..
 
Nowhere_man said:
I know nothing is black and white, and people are complex, complicated, can't always get on with everyone etc, but I don't like the thought of people being marginalised, and I've already lost good friends here due to choices, not bad choices, or choices I wouldn't make again, but still.

I feel like I need to make a conscious choice to be/do better and just avoid saying negative things about people I may not like as everyone has feelings.
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You didn't marginalise anyone, you've been nothing but welcoming and friendly to everyone.
I'm guessing this stems from Kenzies thread

Somehow they made it so not dropping everything to praise them is somehow marginalising
 
Nowhere_man said:
Okay. Thank you for your well thought out and concise replies.

Just so we're clear, I'm proud of my friends I have here, and I wouldn't change any of you.

This feeling is very much a me problem.
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The only problem I see is you are considerate to the point of it being detrimental to yourself..

If anything you need to be MORE selfish :)
 
Nowhere_man said:
I know nothing is black and white, and people are complex, complicated, can't always get on with everyone etc, but I don't like the thought of people being marginalised, and I've already lost good friends here due to choices, not bad choices, or choices I wouldn't make again, but still.

I feel like I need to make a conscious choice to be/do better and just avoid saying negative things about people I may not like as everyone has feelings.
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You know that’s totally on them, and I guess partly me. But not you.
 
Nobody owes anybody their time and energy if you don't have a specific personal or professional relationship. There's a difference between being mean, rude, bullying etc. Versus just not being someone's friend.

In my experience, @Nowhere_man goes above and beyond to treat everyone as a friend more often than not, and it takes a lot for him to disengage (and then he feels bad about it even though he's done nothing wrong)
 
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