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My favorite position to start is the C.A.T. Position. If you are unfamiliar, look it up. It is worth your while. For many women, it is the best position and is sure to please.
I looked it up. Contradicting info : some say the movement is vertical, some say horizontal. Which one is it?

One of the best parts is, when she orgasms, you can feel the pulses right on the head.
Why? Don't men feel the vaginal contractions when a woman orgasms regardless of the sex position? I don't understand why there would be a different the physiological reason.

It is a very romantic, giving, slow and agonizingly amazing.

After that, she is ready for whatever, and you are just getting warmed up, because you received very little stimulation compared to what you gave her.
Sounds like every woman's lovemaking-sex dreams.
 
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It may be that it sounds contradictory because both are options, and both should be explored to see what is best. I think it is a mistake to just assume one is right. The main issue is staying very tight, close together like glue, and it is a rocking together motion.

On the other, I would say, not necessarily. If you are engaged in full on thrusting it can be missed for the man. With this, movement is slow and methodical and her orgasms are more pronounced for him…especially since it is happening on the more sensitive area of the penis.

By the way, we all know about the “woman can fake the orgasm” stuff. Nothing new. But it is harder to fake this. More important, she does not need to. This truly is a lovemaking, giving thing for the man to do.
 
It may be that it sounds contradictory because both are options, and both should be explored to see what is best. I think it is a mistake to just assume one is right. The main issue is staying very tight, close together like glue, and it is a rocking together motion.

On the other, I would say, not necessarily. If you are engaged in full on thrusting it can be missed for the man. With this, movement is slow and methodical and her orgasms are more pronounced for him…especially since it is happening on the more sensitive area of the penis.

By the way, we all know about the “woman can fake the orgasm” stuff. Nothing new. But it is harder to fake this. More important, she does not need to. This truly is a lovemaking, giving thing for the man to do.

Fascinating. Thanks for the thorough answer. Always interesting for me, learning more about sex.

So it's a purely clitoral orgasm for the woman?

(Why didn't Dr. Ruth teach us all this? Pffft.)
 
YW.

In my research on it, it sounded like a fairly recently discovered position.
It seems it MAY be mainly clitoral, but if done just right, the G spot could be hit too.

I personally do this for my wife now every time. Then, we can go to something else and she has 2 at least every time. Still learning myself.

You seem nice. Chat anytime with you!
 
I looked it up. Contradicting info : some say the movement is vertical, some say horizontal. Which one is it?

Still thinking on this. For us it stays horizontal from the perspective that I never raise my ass, pulling out, lower my ass, going in. There is no thrusting. The “rocking” is sort of a full body rub horizontally. What happens, when you get the rhythm together, is the rubbing you referred to, plus a very minor dip in with the penis head.

It is actually appealing to me because I am giving to her with my penis so it feels emotionally the best. There is a lot of confidence she will orgasm without me coming too early for her to.

But the downside is how high up I am, being taller. Not that she minds…kissing is impossible and any other activity with the hands is not practical.

She does not seem to get off on oral as much and so this is a great go to so I know she enjoys it.

man, just talking about it makes me ready to go.


Still thinking on this. For us it stays horizontal from the perspective that I never raise my ass, pulling out, lower my ass, going in. There is no thrusting. The “rocking” is sort of a full body rub horizontally. What happens, when you get the rhythm together, is the rubbing you referred to, plus a very minor dip in with the penis head.

It is actually appealing to me because I am giving to her with my penis so it feels emotionally the best. There is a lot of confidence she will orgasm without me coming too early for her to.

But the downside is how high up I am, being taller. Not that she minds…kissing is impossible and any other activity with the hands is not practical.

She does not seem to get off on oral as much and so this is a great go to so I know she enjoys it.

man, just talking about it makes me ready to go.
 
It took me so long to find this thread! Finally did!

I LOVE public sex. Just the adrenaline that comes with it, the risk of being caught, etc. I love the thought of getting caught and having someone find me (us). I love the thought of being heard, and the other person (outside me and my partner) knowing I'm getting fucked raw.
I'm the same, also being watched having sex or mastubating is a real turn on, especially if people join in.
 
Have always liked the idea of waking up in the middle of the night with a woman on top of me, realizing what I was feeling in the dream I was having is really happening. For her to be slowly moving so she is hitting the right places for her.

I like having the woman on top for this. I feel uncomfortable on top, and even more uncomfortable with the thrusting. I get hot natured and slow is better. But I also find it easier to keep from coming when she is on top.

I really like giving oral. My wife does not seem to like it as much as I like doing it. It may be because she also does not want to give it. I use it to warm her up.

But I wish she would let me bring her to orgasm with my tongue. I find that hot. I did this for my first girlfriend a lot, and never penetrated her once with my penis.
 
I really love my wife, but it is more of a friendship. There is a woman I know who I would love to have as a friend with benefits. Would never happen, but I think about it. She is a widow and I make her laugh. I really think if something happened to my wife this woman would be agreeable to date.

It does make me feel a bit guilty, but I would like to have a woman I am attracted to be a somewhat regular sexual partner.
 
I should add to my last post. The deal is that things changed dramatically for me. I did not know until a few years ago, but my testosterone levels were crazy low my whole life. And it explained so much.

Low mood. Not able to build much muscle. Not as interested in sex. But they don’t look at testosterone, or didn’t, when I was growing up. So, I never knew why.

Normal levels are around 1,200. 600 is considered low and in need of treatment. I was at 300.

Then, after being married 20 years, I start getting pellets put in.

Suddenly I am waking up with an erection and wanting it more than her. I compensate by getting an Aneros and doing prostate play. It is helping me last longer. It is also the reason I came on here. I would love to find a friend on here who I could talk to and flirt with…it is the most I am willing to do where cheating on my wife is concerned.
 
The prostate is considered the male “G” spot and enjoy a finger or even prostate massager especially when a woman is giving head.
You should try the Aneros.
The prostate is considered the male “G” spot and enjoy a finger or even prostate massager especially when a woman is giving head.
You might enjoy an Aneros for personal play. I have 2. The hard thing with it is you have to be still and relax and let it do it’s thing. It took me months of practice but now I get multiple orgasms if I do it right.

My situation has made it necessary in order to have sexual satisfaction. The best part is I find I can go longer too. Where I used to last only minutes I can now go an hour.
 
Fantasy

I decided to go to the movies. I had not been in a long time. My wife was out of town for work and I was bored. The movie was one I wanted to see anyway and did not want to wait for. I buy a ticket and popcorn and I get a seat in the very back. The theater is not very crowded, maybe half full. The back row only has 5 people, none close to me, which suits me fine.

As commercials start, I notice a very beautiful woman heading toward the back. It was not just her beautiful face that I wanted to stare at, it was the way she moved. She HAD to be with SOMEONE. She had a confidence and a spirit about her. Immediately I daydreamed she sat next to me. I love women with brown eyes and brown hair. Hers was some of the best I ever saw. And the way she cared for it showed.

I kept expecting her to stop at an aisle at any time. My heart beat a little faster as she looked up to where I was and smiled. Not missing a beat, I smiled back. Then she headed straight for me.

For a moment I assumed maybe she thought she knew me. I racked my brains, did I know her? No. I would remember her.

“Anyone sitting here,” she asked me. “No, I am alone tonight.” “Me too,” she said with a smile.

Then she asked me I it was ok to join me. I had that immediate guilty feeling that came from knowing I wanted her to, but overcame it quickly, making no attempt to hide my wedding ring.

As she sits to my right, I notice she has a wedding ring too. Well, ok, then. I feel safer now.

“You often go to the movies alone, without your wife,” she asked quietly? “Well, no, not really, she is out of town for work. But we have not gone to the movies together in years.” I look her in the eyes as I said this. She smiled. I suddenly wanted to jump off of a mountain for her. Anything to express how good it was to look at her.

“My husband is out with the guys again. He never goes to the movies with me. I usually have girlfriends go, but they were busy and I just did not want to be home doing nothing.” I pondered how in the world a man would let this beautiful woman want for anything.

“I’m Chelsea.” She stuck out her hand. “Hi, I’m Kelly.” I took her hand. She did not shake quickly but just held my hand a moment. I felt strange, suddenly I made a friend at the movies.

“Well, we might as well see it together. That is, if you would like to be my date?” She gave me another smile. “Horrible date, I am. I did not even get you popcorn.” I said this with a smile and chuckled. She laughed. She had a very nice laugh. “That’s ok, remember, you offered me my own and I said I would rather share with you!” She gave me a naughty smile.

We both laughed now. The truth was I had gotten a large and there was no way I was eating it all. I like the amount of butter ratio I could get with a large. I held it out to her and to my surprise, she took some. “You got the ratio of butter that is perfect for popcorn!” My heart skipped a beat.

“Well, I was thinking of sharing with you when I got it, you know.” I put the popcorn between us and relaxed. I liked this woman. Not just sexually. She was fun, the girl you wanted for a friend.

“We are a pair, aren’t we?” She said this without looking at me, now watching an ad. “So, do you often sit with married women alone sharing when your wife is out of town?” She was not smiling now. I paused. “Oh, um, no, I…” Now she looked at me and smiled again. She gave a little laugh. “I’m teasing. I sat with you, remember?”

I gave a little uneasy laugh. “My husband would barely care, sometimes I think he is bored with me.” She got some more popcorn. “I can’t imagine that is true.” She smiled and said, “You are sweet. I know I am kind of attractive, I take care of myself too. But he does not seem to notice anymore. I have thought for a while now that maybe he married me to show his friends he could. He is very handsome and comes from money. Well, we both do. But I am realizing now how little money matters when it comes to a relationship.”

I am realizing how honest she is suddenly being and do not know what to say. I really feel bad for her. But she smiles again and says, “Sorry for being a downer. Now I am the bad date! What about you and your wife?”

“Been married 22 years. Neither of us came from money, but we are doing ok.”

She put her hand on my arm, “No silly, how is the sex?” The world stopped spinning and I thought I would start coughing. She started laughing. This time a quiet laugh where her shoulders slightly shook. “Am I being too forward?” Her hand was still on my arm. I smiled at her and decided to play along. “Of course not. We are on a date, remember?”

“Is it ok if we pretend we really are?” She asked me this without a smile. She was being serious. I did not really know this woman, but I sensed she needed to be with someone and I really wanted to be a friend. “Yes. I would be honored. You should not have to be alone if you don’t want to be.”

The movie previews started and she sat back and relaxed, getting more popcorn. After a preview she leaned over an whispered, “That one looks dreadful. We should go see that one next and just make out.” She laughed quietly. This woman was hungry for male companionship. I decided to give her whatever she wanted. I leaned over to whisper in her ear, God she smelled good. “If we are lucky, this movie will be bad too.”

She said nothing but just smiled. I wondered what she was thinking. The movie started and we sat in silence. Her hand was still on my arm. She moved it down and took my hand. I gave it to her and we started to watched the movie without looking at each other. Everyone else in the place had might as well be gone during the movie. She was the only one in the room. Every once in a while she stroked my fingers. I returned the favor. I looked over at her, but her eyes stayed on the movie.

After a while she leaned over and whispered, “This is when you put your arm around me, dummy.” I looked at her but she kept her eyes forward. Then I did as she asked and she leaned into me. Now I have an erection and feel a hurricane inside. Without thinking much I leaned my head and kissed her behind the ear. She turned and looked at me. I half expected the gig was up and she might even hit me. Instead, without a smile she started kissing me.

We kissed for a few minutes, tenderly and without tongue. Then she went back to watching the movie, squeezed my hand, and put her head on my shoulder.

We stayed like that for the rest of the movie. My thoughts were of what would happen when the movie ended. I barely paid attention to the movie, all of my focus was on how I would lose the erection before having to stand. She was so desirable, and she wanted to sit with me and be close. She even kissed me!

When the credits started and people started to leave, she just sat there. It was like she knew I did not want to get up yet, but I hoped she did not know why. She smiled. “You are a very good date.”

“You are a fantastic date.” I realized just then when she released my hand. “She stood and turned to me. “I am not really ready for the date to end. But I guess all things must end. Walk me to my car?”

“Happy to, my lady.” We walked out of the theater. She was parked near my car as well. I decided not to tell her. I wanted her to feel I would have gone to the opposite side of the lot for her. She opened her door and stopped. “You going to kiss me goodnight?” She smiled.

“I thought maybe we took care of that earlier.”

She grabbed my hand and pulled me to her and smiled like an angel. “What do you say we go out like this again?” Then she started kissing me. She pulled me toward her and now was giving me tongue. She held me close and we kissed for a solid 5 minutes it felt like. I could feel her breasts pushed up against me and my erection was back.

She stopped kissing me and reached down and felt how hard I was. “Can I take that as a hard yes?” She was smiling ear to ear again. Her dimples were amazing. Why had I not noticed that before?

She turned and reached in her car and grabbed something. Just then I noticed she had a prosthetic leg. From what I could tell, maybe only from the knee down. Why had I not noticed THAT?! I wondered about her husband even more now. Was this why she craved attention? I tried to not feel sorry for her, I just know she would hate that. I thought no less of her. She saw me looking down.

“Oh that. Unfortunately, lost part of myself in the service. Does that bother you?”

She was writing, not waiting on an answer. She held out a card. On one side was her name, Chelsea Reynolds. She was a CPA. Her cell was written on the back with, “private cell” and a heart.

She looked at me someone nervously. “Not in the least. Thank you for serving.” I smiled at her.

“Really? Your not just saying that are you?” I took her card and kissed her gently again behind the ear. I whispered, “Not at all.” We stared in each other’s eyes a few moments. She slowly smiled.

“Call me?”

I called her on the way home. We talked for about 4 hours before finally going to bed. I found a new friend.
 
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Have never done this. I think I would enjoy it, however, only if my partner did. I don't like the idea of enjoying this at the expense of a woman NOT enjoying or wanting it. I can tell you for certain that my prostate might very well enjoy the receiving side, but never have.

My first sexual partner was a girl I could not get enough of. I loved her and would spend hours a week helping her cum. She was afraid of getting pregnant and we never had intercourse. Just oral. I spent so much time down there that I really understood what made her cum and what she liked. We were 6 months from our wedding when we broke off. I realized (and my family all knew all along) she was not right for me. She did not love me for who I was.

My next partner was a friend. She does not enjoy oral, giving or receiving...after all that practice!! LOL

Now I am mostly unsatisfied I think. The first experience was so intense and so out of love and affection. It felt so successful. I became really good at making her cum, over and over. I would like to have that again.
 
Questions for both men and women:

- Do you enjoy anal sex?

- Why do you enjoy it?

- How is it different from vaginal sex?

- How has your sexual experience differed from partner to partner?

Yes very much.

Because it is very very hot. It is the "forbidden" zone which makes it very intimate. I couldn’t do it with just anyone.

It is obviously thighter, you can feel a sort of resistance when pulling back. And if the woman really enjoys.... Well, than you can notice that. *smirks*

I only had anal sex with one woman.
 
Questions for both men and women:

- Do you enjoy anal sex?

- Why do you enjoy it?

- How is it different from vaginal sex?

- How has your sexual experience differed from partner to partner?
I'll answer in a different order, it just makes more sense.

I've experienced anal sex with 2 women: the first asked because wanted it, the second because she thought I wanted it.
The first time was sincerely enjoyable, not really different for me except that I was more "carefull". With the 2nd woman it was just not so enjoyable, as in a total of 3 "attempts", it just didn't work out the way either of us imagined it would. The way it sometimes is depicted in porn is misleading from my point of view. At the end of the day, I get most of my pleasure from the mutual pleasure of my partner. If for her it includes anal, it does for me too. If not...
 
Questions for both men and women:

- Do you enjoy anal sex?

- Why do you enjoy it?

- How is it different from vaginal sex?

- How has your sexual experience differed from partner to partner?
- Do you enjoy anal sex?
  • Yes, for the most part.
- Why do you enjoy it?
  • I don't know. I just do. The first penetration is my favorite part of it.
- How is it different from vaginal sex?
  • Vaginal sex is just bar none the best. I've also only ever cum once from anal in the 6ish years after getting my butt cherry popped. Adding anal elements to vaginal is better than just vaginal by itself... for obvious reasons. Lol
- How has your sexual experience differed from partner to partner?
  • It doesn't make much a difference. I swing and I've only noticed a difference between me and the other ladies I sleep with and how we respond to it. One of the girls loves anal and prefers it, the other is impartial to it, and I like both... at the same time.
 
Vaginal sex is just bar none the best.
(1) Why? (I know it sounds like an odd question, lol). I'd like to understand though.
I've also only ever cum once from anal in the 6ish years after getting my butt cherry popped.
(2) I've heard about anal orgasms. How is it different from vaginal and clitoral ones?
Adding anal elements to vaginal is better than just vaginal by itself... for obvious reasons. Lol
(3) Because of fullness? Or something else?
One of the girls loves anal and prefers it, the other is impartial to it, and I like both... at the same time.
(4) Do you mean giving and receiving anal at the same time?
 
I can tell you for certain that my prostate might very well enjoy the receiving side, but never have.
(1) Other than with the Aneros, do you stimulate yourself anally with other sex toys (e.g. dildo, and whatever contraptions exist)?
spent so much time down there that I really understood what made her cum and what she liked.
(2) What did you figure out / learn that made her cum?
She did not love me for who I was.
(3) Even though it was a long time ago, I gotta say that that sucks. At least you got out of it in time.
Now I am mostly unsatisfied I think. The first experience was so intense and so out of love and affection. It felt so successful. I became really good at making her cum, over and over. I would like to have that again.
(4) Do you consider giving and receiving oral as cheating? I ask since some people consider penetration as the prime criteria for physical cheating.

(5) Would you go for oral sex if presented with a straightforward offer (e.g. that widow you like)?
 
I start getting pellets put in.
(1) What are pellets?
(2) Put in where?

it is the most I am willing to do where cheating on my wife is concerned.
(3) Do you consider it cheating if you are getting what you want, through a virtual medium (i.e. no actual physical contact)? Or do you see it as a legitimate fulfillment of a need deeply unsatisfied?
 
(1) Other than with the Aneros, do you stimulate yourself anally with other sex toys (e.g. dildo, and whatever contraptions exist)?

No. The Aneros is great because, if used right, a man can have multiple orgasms with it. I have. If you overstimulate the prostate (say, with a vibratory toy) it can be good, but counterproductive to how good the Aneros is.

(2)What did you figure out / learn that made her cum?

Taking
My time. Watching her closely as I did things. She never told me much, but I could sense what took her where we both wanted her to go.



(3)Even though it was a long time ago, I gotta say that that sucks. At least you got out of it in time.

Yes! It was a close one to being a disaster. Sometimes what you want is not what you need.

(4) Do you consider giving and receiving oral as cheating? I ask since some people consider penetration as the prime criteria for physical cheating.

I cannot answer that without further discussion. I consider cheating to be going outside of rules established. So, it COULD be cheating to be on this site if your commitment to a person meant that it would be. People use the word cheat sometimes without looking at the rules. I believe that in your heart you know/believe when you are cheating, and you should listen to that. No one else can decide that for you, but your partner should be the first person to ask that question of. For you alone to decide that is not honest to what you are calling a committed relationship, if that is what you have.

(5) Would you go for oral sex if presented with a straightforward offer (e.g. that widow you like)?

Not necessarily, but maybe. Like, I am the type that wants connection first. Sex as just a function if I don’t have that. I do not enjoy sex as just a function, however I may joke on here. To me, uniting with a person that way is more than physical, and I want it to be that way. I could use a toy and get as much out of it if I am treating the person that way. I like connection. So, if I really have that, and not just attraction. Yes.
 

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