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Rocknit82

Rocknit82

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In this post I wish to accomplish two things: Lay out my ideas of standard etiquette's and share some basics I believe are a must when role playing. Last few weeks what I have experienced both saddened me and had me laughing out loud. Your replies to this post are not only welcome I believe for us "die hard RPers" are sorely needed. If you are new to role playing in chat please let this be a guide for you. Keeping in mind to read all replies as well as I am not promising I won't be wrong in some of what follows.

To start I would like to just recap the standard "musts" to discuss before the RP gets underway. These are of course assuming you are with a partner you haven't previously enjoyed RPing with.

Discuss:
1) Time. Not saying you set your stop-watch or an alarm. Just know what to expect and check your calendar first.
2) Likes/dislikes. Nothing worse than 1/2 way through what was a very intriguing and fun RP to find out they suddenly toss in a fetish that that would turn you green in the gills.
3) Who are you? Who are they. Establish your characters being as detailed as possible. The more detailed you are with this, the easier and smoother flowing the RP will be.
4) Overall scenario. Again, the more detail the better but, keep in mind, overdoing it would be leaving little for the actual RP. The excitement of RP is in the surprises and on the fly choices made.
5) Starting. Pretend your making a movie and the two of you are actors. Lay out the starting set. Get in your positions. And await some dude in a headset to come along with a black and white board saying "action!". (well, i hope you get my drift)

And lastly a few extra tidbits. Some are pet peeves. Some just common sense:
1) How important is spelling, grammar and punctuation to you? To your partner? Personally I prefer flow vs editing, googling and having both a thesaurus and dictionary in my lap. It IS chat after all. Have fun. Save perfection for your college papers.
2) Announce your need to go AFK(away from keyboard) even if a quick piss. Extra time in between replies during what might be a perfectly flowing and hot scene can drop the enthusiasm of the other person quickly.
3) As good as you may be at RPing. NO ONE is good enough to juggle more than one at a time and do any of them right. If you aren't happy with concentrating on just one at a time then pick a better partner or more likely your terrible at it yourself. I suggest porn in several windows at once instead.
4) I can't mention the "FLOW" enough. Again, my opinion, the flow of the RP makes the experience better than the actual content or creativity of the writers.
5) Shit happens. I mean we all get important phone calls, someone at the door, wifi crashes or the sky falls. Just do your best to announce it to the other person(see #2)or in the cases when unable...next time you see them tell them sorry. Remember that there is time and effort involved with this.
6) Keep a list. Write down names of who you enjoyed and why along with who you won't ever RP with again and why. Hey, for me one bad RP does NOT discount another attempt. Constant BS will.
7) Regardless of your reason or goal, getting off or having fun, when you think the RP is over don't just log off and not even close the fucking door. Speak up. Tell them you finished (out of character)or that you must go. The time and effort put into a good RP doesn't deserve the rudeness that I see probably 7 of 10 times. If you are not enjoying it then SPEAK UP. No one will get better without feedback. Nor will anyone wish to continue if an occasional compliment isn't paid. And if you jizzed yourself and didn't have a towel nearby it won't happen again. If your sheets are soaking wet too bad. Lay in the wet spot till the other reaches their goal as well.

Don't be afraid to (speak out of character) when needed. I know not one person who can read minds over the internet. And an occasional interruption in the flow is worth it if it saves the entire remainder of the RP.

It's about fun people. Just some common sense and politeness can make or break not just your time and effort but the others as well. Enjoy. Practice. Inquire. And happy role playing. I will see you in chat.

FEEDBACK PLEASE
 
Wow you put a lot of attention into this I could have use this earlier I try with a couple people just not do good at this rp stuff but I hop with this o could get into some good stuff thanks

I lost connection with someone new to this too I feel bad but I couldn't find them again
 
One way to avoid losing contact completely with someone when your in a PM and then get disconnected is to friend them. If you DC(disconnect)while chatting they will be listed next to main chat when you get logged back in. Just remember to unfriend them afterwords as appropriate. Also, if they get DC from your chat just keep the PM window open for a while. Occasionally type something in the pm window and if they are logged back on they will get an invite back into the room.

This is a little easier than jumping around chat rooms looking for them or (i have to laugh when i see this)you end up spamming the open chats "I DC'd and lost all my PM's" and hope they are paying attention and notice you calling out.

good luck. and remember role playing takes practice. and don't be afraid to tell someone your still new. Anyone that isn't a stuck up prick/bitch will take heed and help you through it.
 
Rocknit82 said:
In this post I wish to accomplish two things: Lay out my ideas of standard etiquette's and share some basics I believe are a must when role playing. Last few weeks what I have experienced both saddened me and had me laughing out loud. Your replies to this post are not only welcome I believe for us "die hard RPers" are sorely needed. If you are new to role playing in chat please let this be a guide for you. Keeping in mind to read all replies as well as I am not promising I won't be wrong in some of what follows.

To start I would like to just recap the standard "musts" to discuss before the RP gets underway. These are of course assuming you are with a partner you haven't previously enjoyed RPing with.

Discuss:
1) Time. Not saying you set your stop-watch or an alarm. Just know what to expect and check your calendar first.
2) Likes/dislikes. Nothing worse than 1/2 way through what was a very intriguing and fun RP to find out they suddenly toss in a fetish that that would turn you green in the gills.
3) Who are you? Who are they. Establish your characters being as detailed as possible. The more detailed you are with this, the easier and smoother flowing the RP will be.
4) Overall scenario. Again, the more detail the better but, keep in mind, overdoing it would be leaving little for the actual RP. The excitement of RP is in the surprises and on the fly choices made.
5) Starting. Pretend your making a movie and the two of you are actors. Lay out the starting set. Get in your positions. And await some dude in a headset to come along with a black and white board saying "action!". (well, i hope you get my drift)

And lastly a few extra tidbits. Some are pet peeves. Some just common sense:
1) How important is spelling, grammar and punctuation to you? To your partner? Personally I prefer flow vs editing, googling and having both a thesaurus and dictionary in my lap. It IS chat after all. Have fun. Save perfection for your college papers.
2) Announce your need to go AFK(away from keyboard) even if a quick piss. Extra time in between replies during what might be a perfectly flowing and hot scene can drop the enthusiasm of the other person quickly.
3) As good as you may be at RPing. NO ONE is good enough to juggle more than one at a time and do any of them right. If you aren't happy with concentrating on just one at a time then pick a better partner or more likely your terrible at it yourself. I suggest porn in several windows at once instead.
4) I can't mention the "FLOW" enough. Again, my opinion, the flow of the RP makes the experience better than the actual content or creativity of the writers.
5) Shit happens. I mean we all get important phone calls, someone at the door, wifi crashes or the sky falls. Just do your best to announce it to the other person(see #2)or in the cases when unable...next time you see them tell them sorry. Remember that there is time and effort involved with this.
6) Keep a list. Write down names of who you enjoyed and why along with who you won't ever RP with again and why. Hey, for me one bad RP does NOT discount another attempt. Constant BS will.
7) Regardless of your reason or goal, getting off or having fun, when you think the RP is over don't just log off and not even close the fucking door. Speak up. Tell them you finished (out of character)or that you must go. The time and effort put into a good RP doesn't deserve the rudeness that I see probably 7 of 10 times. If you are not enjoying it then SPEAK UP. No one will get better without feedback. Nor will anyone wish to continue if an occasional compliment isn't paid. And if you jizzed yourself and didn't have a towel nearby it won't happen again. If your sheets are soaking wet too bad. Lay in the wet spot till the other reaches their goal as well.

Don't be afraid to (speak out of character) when needed. I know not one person who can read minds over the internet. And an occasional interruption in the flow is worth it if it saves the entire remainder of the RP.

It's about fun people. Just some common sense and politeness can make or break not just your time and effort but the others as well. Enjoy. Practice. Inquire. And happy role playing. I will see you in chat.

FEEDBACK PLEASE
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i have had the same pet peeves. People arent detailed, they dont share everything beforehand and they type a single message and leave for hours without explanation. Its a real turn off when i get settled down for a good rp and the other person just leaves. (also i have been able to balance around 6 different rps at once.)
 
Rocknit82 said:
One way to avoid losing contact completely with someone when your in a PM and then get disconnected is to friend them. If you DC(disconnect)while chatting they will be listed next to main chat when you get logged back in. Just remember to unfriend them afterwords as appropriate. Also, if they get DC from your chat just keep the PM window open for a while. Occasionally type something in the pm window and if they are logged back on they will get an invite back into the room.

This is a little easier than jumping around chat rooms looking for them or (i have to laugh when i see this)you end up spamming the open chats "I DC'd and lost all my PM's" and hope they are paying attention and notice you calling out.

good luck. and remember role playing takes practice. and don't be afraid to tell someone your still new. Anyone that isn't a stuck up prick/bitch will take heed and help you through it.
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Thanks for the advice
 
Rocknit82 said:
One way to avoid losing contact completely with someone when your in a PM and then get disconnected is to friend them. If you DC(disconnect)while chatting they will be listed next to main chat when you get logged back in. Just remember to unfriend them afterwords as appropriate. Also, if they get DC from your chat just keep the PM window open for a while. Occasionally type something in the pm window and if they are logged back on they will get an invite back into the room.

This is a little easier than jumping around chat rooms looking for them or (i have to laugh when i see this)you end up spamming the open chats "I DC'd and lost all my PM's" and hope they are paying attention and notice you calling out.

good luck. and remember role playing takes practice. and don't be afraid to tell someone your still new. Anyone that isn't a stuck up prick/bitch will take heed and help you through it.
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The add as a friend option only works for members, so guest once disconnect you will have to search them. One of the reasons I don't roleplay with guests, and if they want to get an rp they should register, it's easy and helps them out and the community.
All of your advice is good and everyone should take some of it.
I myself have been following some of the guidelines that you present for years, and women that follow the same steps, are the best.
 
Lots to take in here! :confused: As a regular, I can say a lot of this is really true, even as someone guilty of poor time management on these things.

I think a good way to like, consolidate things like flow, and likes/dislikes/kinks/what have you is to just take into account the other person's feelings. :P. Have a discussion about what you like beforehand, be open, but clear in your ideas, and work out if something's gonna be a deal breaker, or if tweaks need to be made.

Maybe, for example, the fella you're rping with only bottoms. If that's cool with you, work it out! It could lead to an exciting change of pace for either one of you. If not, that's okay. Plenty of fish in the sea.

As a caveat to the open-minded thing, though, I wanna clarify, there is such a thing as TOO open minded (again, this is something I can be a little guilty of too, sometimes). If someone asks what you're into, or what scene you'd wanna do, and you tell them "I'm open to anything!", then even though you think you're being helpful, you haven't really contributed any information. Best case scenario, your partner has to make up the scene all by themselves, worst case, they accidentally throw a real curve ball at you.

I've sometimes balanced 3-4 rps at a time, but you're right, quality definitely goes down if you take on too much. Don't be afraid to tell people no, lol.

Hope this helps, y'all. :D
 
Wowsa! Thanks for that reply TransGirl. The point you made that I barely touched on...and I believe could be touched on more is the open-minded aspect. Not saying I am not open-minded but I keep "my" RPs to a realistic aspect. Yes, I am a left brained dude that loves to watch or read unconventional media yet am handy-capped by being unable to comprehend it enough to fairly use it in a RP situation. Creative, yes, but walled off at only what I could possibly encounter each day. I admire people such as yourself with skills that take the rest of us "outside of the box". Ok, the point I was meaning to get to was I (again my opinion) believe that people, especially new to RPing, stay within their comfort zone. That zone will grow with practice and their own confidence. As long as they don't place them self in a situation they won't enjoy. Here I am talking mainly sexual RP. So preparations are key but only when both participants are honest and forthright. As you stated that can help avoid that "curve ball" that would likely bust a good RP faster than finding one of our children have been looking over our shoulder. LOL.

Always remember people your not going on an adventure alone so work together, play together and respect each other(unless you previously agreed that isn't your thing LOL). FUN FUN FUN.

Let's keep these replies coming. In a few days I will consolidate them onto original post with the contributors getting their due credit.
 
This is a great write up, I don't have any critique or suggestions right now but just wanted to say that it's a great discussion.

ElfMaiden x
 
I’m new to online Roleplaying.. I think the current Pandemic era is affecting my ability to stick to the rp for a longer time and I just end up masturbating when the steamy scenes come up.. I think it’s not right on my part to do that to the person at the other end .....I hope I get better at it ..
 
It's a very good guide, and I can't argue against any of it. It should be stickied!

A pet peeve of mine is when I'm often told what I'm doing. An example would be.... [rolling my firm fingers into your shoulders like waves massaging a shoreline]. And then her message - (I feel your hands slide down to my breasts). Don't tell me what I'm doing, please.. lol. Maybe I'm getting there. Maybe I want to tease you. Either way, that's my job to describe what I'm doing. There's ways to hint in the messages what you want without taking control of your partner. If that happens often, then what do you need them for, just RP with yourself :) Isn't part of the fun not knowing for sure what's coming next?
 
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