Confession When is it “gay”?

[HelloSunshine]

I’m straight and always have been. I’m married to a woman and she is very pretty. We haven’t had sex in a year and she complains about it constantly. The problem is I love cock. I love sucking big cocks and swallowing cum. I love a man fucking my ass and coming in me. I love kissing men and him or them dialing my nipples. I’m into group and exhibitionism. I love the idea of getting fucked by several men and having an audience watch or video and post it. I love to be dominated by an alpha male. I would date men if I was out of town and I wouldn’t get caught. No, she doesn’t know. She doesn’t suspect at all, at least she doesn’t overtly show it. She is suspicious that I’m having an affair with a woman or women. Yes, it’s cheating. Not defendable. My question is, do I come clean? She may think I’m gay but I’ve read plenty of advice posts about straight guys who have gay sex. My therapist says I will remain in this limbo forever.

 

[Supersilly]

Drop a hint to see her reaction?

 

[Stanthropical]

I think the larger issue is that another person's life is being ruined while you're centering yourself with some irrelevant sexual orientation labeling dilemma.

You're clearly not straight by your own detailed description leaving no doubt and you seem to be suggesting that you're getting what you want while your spouse is being deprived of consortium.

The noble thing (what's left of it in your particular situation you've established yourself in) to do is to pay respect to your spouse—which should be your priority in such relationship—and come clean. Only AFTER THAT, you get to start worrying about unimportant labels or badges.

Your therapist should be steering you towards that resolve and not peddle the idea of some limbo full of dicks.

 

[Stanthropical]

Alternatively, you could ask your wife to stop shaving and buy her a diverse set of strap-ons (Christmas in July is right around the corner).

 

[HelloSunshine]

I think the larger issue is that another person's life is being ruined while you're centering yourself with some irrelevant sexual orientation labeling dilemma.

You're clearly not straight by your own detailed description leaving no doubt and you seem to be suggesting that you're getting what you want while your spouse is being deprived of consortium.

The noble thing (what's left of it in your particular situation you've established yourself in) to do is to pay respect to your spouse—which should be your priority in such relationship—and come clean. Only AFTER THAT, you get to start worrying about unimportant labels or badges.

Your therapist should be steering you towards that resolve and not peddle the idea of some limbo full of dicks.

Thank you. This is exactly the type of thoughtful no-pulled-punches response that I was looking for. It might not be fun for me to hear but it’s honest. I guess my only remaining question is, is this marriage salvageable? What if I completely abstain from the gay sex or just chanel that desire into sex with my wife, can it be a “normal” marriage?

 

[Stanthropical]

That's between two married individuals to decide. Everyone's situation, tolerance and psyche is unique.

 

[HelloSunshine]

Well said

 

[HelloSunshine]

Drop a hint to see her reaction?

I have already provided a few hints unintentionally. I shave my cock , ass and balls. I wear thongs and underwear like in the picture. I’m not interested in sex with her, I have to think about guy’s cocks in order to finish.