This is common on all of these sites. I have 2 women on here that are really good friends. Both have told me, as well as other women here who I used to know, how horrible a lot of the men are here. Fact. And after a while, the real women learn to shut out men they don’t already know. You notice so many don’t let you go to their wall. So many turn off the ability of sending them a PM. Well, if you had half of the shit they have put up with happen to you, after a while you either leave or lock down.
New women who join are more open to talk, but they soon learn. There are tons of men and few legitimate women. Yes, there are men pretending to be women.
The truth is that they are not dry and cold. Trust just comes slowly. As Stan said, “Be more interesting.” Don’t be here to “snag” a woman. Get to know them in threads. Show them you are not a creeper. Maybe one opens the door for discussion. Just remember, not everyone is here for the same thing. Some just come here to play in threads and not deep conversations. And that too, is their decision.