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Thank you guys for the replies. Obviously I have felt jealous before, but by nature I'm not a jealous person. If I've committed myself to someone then that's that....I'm not interested in anyone else. In the beginning of any relationship there's always that, "honeymoon phase" where everything is brilliant and you're assured and content that the feelings are mutual. Once that phase has passed and the jealousy starts to surface, that's a big red flag. It feels more like "possession" than it does a "relationship"

After reading all the replies, it's more the jealous personality that I don't understand. No man or woman should have to change just so the jealous person feels better. For example: buying her a red dress but not wanting her to wear it because guys will stare...that has nothing to do with me, my behaviour or even the dress. For women that give in to that, I think is very dangerous territory. Controlling behaviour is never a good sign.

Other woman flirting with my husband/boyfriend would be a compliment, then again I'm not jealous by nature. The way I see it is, if I'm assured enough to be in a relationship then we've already built that trust and I don't need constant reassurance of how he feels or vice versa. That being said, if I did notice he was feeling jealous I would make sure he knew I wasn't interested in anyone else.
 
Someguy1323 said:
I got focused on the bold part...I don't ever think another person is mine, I don't own them, they aren't my property to do with what I please....they are their own person, with their own thoughts and opinions, able to do what they want. I'll be there if they need me, but I definitely don't consider them mine.
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When she your gf how is it addressed as whom she is your gf . I’m not saying ownership but some want to belong to another not as a slavery . Each still has their own life . On this site there is a lot of ownership. Like I said if the guy is flirting with her or him with another chick almost always the person that did the flirting has no clue these people are together.
 
Harley31 said:
For example: buying her a red dress but not wanting her to wear it because guys will stare...that has nothing to do with me, my behaviour or even the dress. For women that give in to that, I think is very dangerous territory. Controlling behaviour is never a good sign.
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Completely agree here. Makes me afraid for the person being subjected to the behavior....I've seen it end up VERY badly before,(including the worst possible way imaginable) if anyone is in that situation, get out now, before it ends worse than you could ever expect.
 
Someguy1323 said:
Completely agree here. Makes me afraid for the person being subjected to the behavior....I've seen it end up VERY badly before,(including the worst possible way imaginable) if anyone is in that situation, get out now, before it ends worse than you could ever expect.
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I was married to that and actually got me to gain weight so I could not look good I’m not kidding I looked horrible. I had a lot of restrictions no none of this was stated while dating. I was even to go back to school. As soon as we married it was no and I had to quit my job . I know he has talked bad about me to others but I’m like you don’t know what happened at home . Abuse is not just physical it has many layers to it and it a cycle., look up power wheel of control I been thru it all. Twice . Both exes and second ex was worst than first
 
Shy_girl74 said:
When she your gf how is it addressed as whom she is your gf . I’m not saying ownership but some want to belong to another not as a slavery . Each still has their own life . On this site there is a lot of ownership. Like I said if the guy is flirting with her or him with another chick almost always the person that did the flirting has no clue these people are together.
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We are dating. It's inclusive of her and me. Or we are exclusive. We are partners etc. I'll often say my partner, as opposed to my wife or gf. It's one thing I learned from a partner of mine, and although I had a difficult time in the beginning with it,(as I had partners in business) I appreciate it more now than before. We are in it together, it's not just me and her singlely.
 
Someguy1323 said:
We are dating. It's inclusive of her and me. Or we are exclusive. We are partners etc. I'll often say my partner, as opposed to my wife or gf. It's one thing I learned from a partner of mine, and although I had a difficult time in the beginning with it,(as I had partners in business) I appreciate it more now than before. We are in it together, it's not just me and her singlely.
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Ok well partners can mean anything. It kinda rare people get called partners
 
Thalassa said:
What flaws / behaviors / thoughts / attitude do you have, that you know you ought to work on / diminish / eradicate?
Has a woman ever inspired you to do that?
Why did you feel that way?
Did you act on that inspiration / desire to better yourself?
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I have flaws and when I was younger I worked on some of them for women but as I have got older I realise that we all have flaws and they are a big part of who we are. To change them would fundamentally change me as a person and I actually like who I am right now. The biggest change I have ever made was actually after a ten year relationship ended, I was almost twenty stone and I lost 8 stone by changing my eating habits but it was not inspired by a woman although it may have been slightly by all women as I know I wanted to look better to get one lol. What I’m trying to say though is that if you meet someone and like them why try and change them instead embrace who they are none of us are perfect and never will be but like Popeye said “I am what I am and that’s all that I am”
 
Kbunny said:
Have you tasted your own cum? Why and what did you think? I think it's more common for a female to do, although I really only do it as a turn on for someone else. A couple of my male friends said they did it purely out of curiosity.
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I tasted my sperm from her lips
 
Do you have a name for your penis? What is it?

Are there any names women have given your penis? What are they? Did you like or dislike that?
 
Thalassa said:
Do you have a name for your penis? What is it?

Are there any names women have given your penis? What are they? Did you like or dislike that?
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That's a no and no.

I have caught myself saying "Sup lil guy"...does that count?
 
UnsaintedCali said:
That's a no and no.

I have caught myself saying "Sup lil guy"...does that count?
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Yes, affectionate one-time names do count. I didn't mean that it had to be a given name, where the lil guy had his own birth certificate with name and all.

Alex_AD said:
Well I've called it a mamba before a few times as a joke but other than that I don't have a name for my penis nor has anyone given my penis a name :D
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Wahahaaa @ mamba.

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Interestingly, I don't think women do that at all. Unless any woman would care to correct me?
 
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