Being comfortable enough with myself to be vulnerable. Allowing myself the leniency to be "weak" sometimes. There's so much power in letting those walls down and trusting someone. Also talking to other men to let them know that it is indeed manly to feel emotions. Not just feel them, but feel them strongly. I've lost many years of my young adult life trying to fit a mold that is highly toxic.
Also my pineapple coconut deodorant, and watching myself cum 3 ft after edging for a few hours. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
It really depends on the partner and what she prefers too. I'm a giver/pleaser so I'm willing to do what makes her feel good and wanted. Hard and rigid is really nice in a lot of situations. However, a tender touch can go a long way, and if done in a drawn out way can be very erotic and lovely.
Question two. I have never been with a partner that has brought toys into the fold. I can't imagine not enjoying it though and am definitely interested in trying.
Great questions
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