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LillyK
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There's only one "bad guy" I've ever been with. He was not a bad guy when we first met but changed rather drastically after several years of marriage, hence the lack of a wedding ring on my hand
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QueenRachel
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ive met some people with common interests here so i guess just out of curiosity or interest
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SUNNBEAM
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I can be comfortable in my own company (sometimes). There isn't a constant sense of worry looming over me or feeling uncertain over someone. Enjoying my solitude and trying to broaden my horizons in my own pace, and trying to blossom into someone I'm proud of without worrying anyone to back peddle for me or feeling like I'm dragging them down in my darkest moments. I like that I can take my time with myself and try and enjoy my little hardships on my own to know I can persevere with or without people. Knowing I'm very capable. Because I very well am capable and that gives me courage to keep enjoying and try to get along with myself a lot better without wearing a mask. And I admit, it's a little difficult. I am not the type to ask for help, and I detest asking for help. So I suppose theres a little hope someone out there can see right through my little façade and love me regardless of all my little horrors and be okay with it.
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LillyK
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This is beautiful.
I a cd and all I get is dic pictures it's like really am gonna be into you because of your dic I know know how women feel its a fucking pain
Ladies, two questions: (1) How do you flirt with a person you are interested with?
(2)Do you ever just playfully flirt even if you have no interest in being with the person you are flirting with?
(2)Do you ever just playfully flirt even if you have no interest in being with the person you are flirting with?
I'm blunt as hell. It also doesn't work, but I don't like games. I'd rather just up front. I don't really flirt, especially not with someone I have no interest in. I occasionally harmlessly flirt on chat, but it's pretty obvious it's not serious. It's just jokes and teasing,
Stanthropical
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Ladies,
If you were to choose a mate for life, who's currently 31yo - 59yo, based solely on just five (no more and no less) of his traits and/or aspects of life, applicable to that age range, what would those traits or life aspects be at minimum?
Required Trait examples:
Body type/fitness level/looks/appearance and whether it should match, exceed or be below yours;
Personality type;
Physical abilities;
Required lack of some undesired trait;
Intelligence, maturity, confidence levels and whether they need, can or cannot be lower or higher than yours;
Communication prowess;
Etc...
Required Life Aspect examples:
Education level and whether it needs to, shouldn't be or doesn't matter if it surpasses, matches or falls short of yours;
Employment or career status, industry, aspirational trajectory, maybe income level and whether any of that matters, should match, surpass or doesn't matter how it compares to yours;
Financial planing or financial security status;
Family status, family planing, past marital status, etc;
Achievements outside of education and career;
Hobbies he should or shouldn't be into;
Religious, cultural, superstitious, political, conspiracy theories, "alternative facts" beliefs musts or required lack of;
Etc...
Choose only five! Above are just examples and aren't the only or required choices. Expand on each item if you like, but avoid cliches, unrealistic and uncommon elitist requirements. Interpret examples how you like. Be as detailed or as succinct as you prefer.
(If you must, choose up to 10 points, but at a risk of potentially sounding unrealistic to some people)
Ignore errors, typos and wrecked grammar)
If you were to choose a mate for life, who's currently 31yo - 59yo, based solely on just five (no more and no less) of his traits and/or aspects of life, applicable to that age range, what would those traits or life aspects be at minimum?
Required Trait examples:
Body type/fitness level/looks/appearance and whether it should match, exceed or be below yours;
Personality type;
Physical abilities;
Required lack of some undesired trait;
Intelligence, maturity, confidence levels and whether they need, can or cannot be lower or higher than yours;
Communication prowess;
Etc...
Required Life Aspect examples:
Education level and whether it needs to, shouldn't be or doesn't matter if it surpasses, matches or falls short of yours;
Employment or career status, industry, aspirational trajectory, maybe income level and whether any of that matters, should match, surpass or doesn't matter how it compares to yours;
Financial planing or financial security status;
Family status, family planing, past marital status, etc;
Achievements outside of education and career;
Hobbies he should or shouldn't be into;
Religious, cultural, superstitious, political, conspiracy theories, "alternative facts" beliefs musts or required lack of;
Etc...
Choose only five! Above are just examples and aren't the only or required choices. Expand on each item if you like, but avoid cliches, unrealistic and uncommon elitist requirements. Interpret examples how you like. Be as detailed or as succinct as you prefer.
(If you must, choose up to 10 points, but at a risk of potentially sounding unrealistic to some people)
Ignore errors, typos and wrecked grammar)
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LilithX
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1. No errors, typos, or wrecked grammar.
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LilithX
Guest
There are a lot of things that you can’t categorize or really even put into words, but for me these things are definitely towards the top….
1. Similar life goals- financially, work/life balance, health.
2. A fluid thinker….meaning beliefs and thoughts are based on facts/education, but doesn’t believe one way of thinking is superior to another. Doesn’t allow politics and popular opinions to sway his beliefs or feelings.
3. Editing this one because it’s actually more about emotional intelligence. Being self aware and empathetic. A mostly optimistic /positive outlook. But not in an unrealistic way.
4. Sexual chemistry. If the person has everything else, but chemistry is lacking, it will turn into a friendship. Although I think it takes work to keep “chemistry” alive, it has to be there to begin with. Physical attraction is included in this, but I think over time, that fades.
5. A spontaneous/ adventurous side. I think that’s something that keeps a relationship alive and fun. Doesn’t need to be crazy adventurous. But a little spontaneity goes a long way!
I think if you align in those aspects, things like a previous marriages, children, hobbies, careers, etc are less of a factor.
1. Similar life goals- financially, work/life balance, health.
2. A fluid thinker….meaning beliefs and thoughts are based on facts/education, but doesn’t believe one way of thinking is superior to another. Doesn’t allow politics and popular opinions to sway his beliefs or feelings.
3. Editing this one because it’s actually more about emotional intelligence. Being self aware and empathetic. A mostly optimistic /positive outlook. But not in an unrealistic way.
4. Sexual chemistry. If the person has everything else, but chemistry is lacking, it will turn into a friendship. Although I think it takes work to keep “chemistry” alive, it has to be there to begin with. Physical attraction is included in this, but I think over time, that fades.
5. A spontaneous/ adventurous side. I think that’s something that keeps a relationship alive and fun. Doesn’t need to be crazy adventurous. But a little spontaneity goes a long way!
I think if you align in those aspects, things like a previous marriages, children, hobbies, careers, etc are less of a factor.
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Stanthropical
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What kinds of tattoos, and where, do you like on men? Or you'd rather have your man have none?
Arms and back shoulder blades
It doesn't matter if they have them or not. But I do generally find men with tattoos more attractive. Long as it isn't neck or face. It's sexy as well.
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LillyK
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I agree with @Busty_Nerd although they have to be quality tattoos, not like they got them in prison lol
Depends on the vibe, the goals, etc.
Can't say I've ever waited that long personally, maybe a month at most, but I like to fuck. To me, that vibe is high priority too so less juss dooit
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LillyK
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That's something to be discussed and determined for the couple. I waited a year with my ex husband and we spent a lot of time getting to know each other. It's crazy how intimately you can know someone without having sex. I think it made our relationship stronger and the sex was better when we decided we were ready.
Fast forward to the new today: I am never going to wait that long ever again. You only live once
I think a few months is feasible but also negotiable to be less time.And then there's my close friends who are laughing... shut up
I don't know I'm broke up with my woman 2 months ago but we were together for 17 years how long is long enoughThat's something to be discussed and determined for the couple. I waited a year with my ex husband and we spent a lot of time getting to know each other. It's crazy how intimately you can know someone without having sex. I think it made our relationship stronger and the sex was better when we decided we were ready.
Fast forward to the new today: I am never going to wait that long ever again. You only live once
And then there's my close friends who are laughing... shut up
Heart be broke if thought she was and I know she is , but how long is long enough
Ladies, what's something not overtly sexual which turns you on?
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