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xyzrp said:
There's a lot of moments that I want to relive but the one I would love to relive are the past few months.
It's where I felt the safest and was at my happiest, I was myself. Indeed I stopped talking with a lot of people , both real life and virtual, but I think I needed that. I discovered a facet of myself that I didn't think I was capable of having or it co-existing with all the other facets of mine (No, it doesn't meant playing with myself). One of those few moments where I genuinely wanted to hit rewind button.
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Such depth... you are amazing xy ❤❤❤
 
JackieTreehorn said:
I understand that last Saturday was National Period Day.
Thoughts on the effort to elevate this topic in public consciousness? Did you participate in any way?
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I think there are plenty of places where having your period is thought of as unclean or a reason to denigrate women. There are also plenty of women that don't have the products or support to properly handle that time of the month.

So while a day dedicated to it seems silly to me, I know that I am fortunate and that others aren't so much. Menstruation should be raised in consciousness to the point that it's a non-issue for all women - and men - worldwide.

I didn't know the day existed. So I didn't participate.
 
Thalassa said:
I'll ask this here as well, because I'm also interested in women's thoughts about this.

When it comes to sharing with your significant other, when it comes to trusting, how much is too much? Is there a 'too much'? When does sharing become oversharing? When does it become detrimental instead of beneficial?
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When I trust, I trust with my whole being, heart and soul. It gives the other person a lot of potentially damaging ammunition to shoot back but I don't know another way. When it comes to sharing a problem or issue, that becomes detrimental when it is the only subject of discussion. And there are certain things that I try to keep personal. Like bathroom stuff or as @LilithX put it, less than sexy stuff. Of course, if the person is kinky in that way and wants to know, I'd consider sharing it. If it makes them happy.

Maybe that's the balance - what makes both of you happy. If I want to share something and they don't want to hear it, maybe it's not the match I need.

And, of course, it's detrimental if they can't have the opportunity to share what they may want to. I know some men don't want to share anything but I want my man to share what he wants and if I'm doing all the sharing, he won't have time!

Reminds me of that Toby Keith song - Wanna Talk About Me

We talk about your work, how your boss is a jerk
We talk about your Church and your head when it hurts
We talk about the troubles you've been having with your brother
About your daddy and your mother and your crazy ex lover

We talk about your friends and the places that you've been
We talk about your skin and the dimples on your chin
The polish on your toes and the run in your hose
And God knows we're gonna talk about your clothes

You know talking about you makes me smile
But every once in a while

I wanna talk about me
 
Flirtinghubby said:
Have you ever been attracted to someone until they opened their mouth? Or the opposite; have you ever been completely uninterested in someone until you got to know them better?
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Honestly, I'm usually not attracted to someone until they open their mouth. Sure, I may think someone has great arms or a nice smile but that's more of an admiration of beauty, not an attraction. It's what comes out of his or her mouth, from their heart and mind that attracts me and keeps me interested.
 
Slopps said:
Have you ever been judged for your sexuality ("slut shamed")?
Online or irl? By men or other women?
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I've been slut shamed online on this site in chat. I have given nudes to some guy I was talking with and interested in so basically he ended up giving my nudes to another dude on here and some girl on there who was cool with me me before I guess found out what happened and from that point she started to dislike me. Anytime I came into the chat she would be like.. "Oh gosh the online whore is here." or "the slut has arrived." Of course I had it taken care of and she leaves me alone now but yeah it was pretty bad because others would just join in with her. In real life I've never had to deal with it though because most people mind their business.
 
Slopps said:
Have you ever been judged for your sexuality ("slut shamed")?
Online or irl? By men or other women?
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I have irl (oddly enough mostly by women). When you have bigger boobs even sweaters look revealing. When I was a lot younger I'd try to keep covered up at the beach to avoid the comments and stares.
I haven't online....yet, but I'm sure it will happen. Not that I care what other people think of me. In here "I" can chose what people see, and since everyone is here for the same reason I don't mind showing things I would never show anywhere else. It took awhile getting to know everyone enough before I felt comfortable posting and would never post pictures outside of the forum.

Have you ever been judged for your sexuality?
 
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Flirtinghubby said:
What do you predominantly think of while enjoying your 'alone time' ;)? Past experiences, specific people, pure fantasy, baseball, porn?
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Good question! I start thinking about specific people or maybe a generic person doing something I’d like to have done to me. But by the time I’m halfway there I’m usually thinking about the sensations themselves and just lost in the pleasure.
 
Thalassa said:
I'll ask this here as well, because I'm also interested in women's thoughts about this.

When it comes to sharing with your significant other, when it comes to trusting, how much is too much? Is there a 'too much'? When does sharing become oversharing? When does it become detrimental instead of beneficial?
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With my ex i didn't share anything because i was always in the wrong... or doing it wrong.. if i was sad i was pathetic.. if i was happy i had an attitude problem.. i learned to just be quiet and show no emotion. It took me a long time to let anyone in emotionally and i still stumble... but i tell @Dcdevon everything and im never made feel bad or put down so yes it depends on the person...
 
Thalassa said:
I'll ask this here as well, because I'm also interested in women's thoughts about this.

When it comes to sharing with your significant other, when it comes to trusting, how much is too much? Is there a 'too much'? When does sharing become oversharing? When does it become detrimental instead of beneficial?
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Depends on the person. My ex shared almost everything with his mother, including personal family info so I stopped telling him the sensitive stuff. It was hard for me not to share important things with my best friend. But damn, that's just insanity & I had trusted friends when I needed support. I also won't share if I feel like it's none of their business and/or might hurt them.
 
Thalassa said:
Everyone is in it for something, as is the case always. A lot of people are in stasis here. Looking for validation, comfort, friendship, answers. Mourning feelings lost, people who've left or who they no longer recognize. People with whom their relationships are no longer what they used to be, and relationships that may or may not be salvageable. Escaping. Putting aside unhappiness, dissatisfaction and putting on a happy face.

This becomes a little bit like home. A new home. With new friends. New experiences to be had, new things to learn about. A medium through which we can work through feelings of confusion, hurt, anger, pain, whatever it is, with strangers, some of whom eventually become our friends. Free therapy with cool people. For some others, a place to observe, come and go without much attachment.

I joined to have a place to make stupid sexual innuendoes, which were plentiful to the point that I had to keep them to myself and laugh at them in my own head. I joined to have a place to read about sex, about other people's experiences, to learn. The internet has the same shite laid out in different ways, info that is all funneled to present more or less the same advice. This site has people talking about their personal experiences. People with all kinds of kinks and fetishes. It is fucking fascinating! Also, I never knew boobs, pussies and penises had so much variance. Porn only shows you the content most fappable to.

I later (very soon after, lol) realized I'd also joined because I was going through personal stuff, big stuff. Like, the kinda stuff that makes you start drinking vodka and tequila when you ain't even a boozer. FCN pretty much changed my life (no, this is not a paid advertisement). By purging heavy emotions and writing freely and liberating so much of my angst on forums, by listening to other people's stories and talking to friends, I worked through emotions and also through latent thoughts I didn't know I had, and understood myself so much more. That's something this site also does. It helps you figure out aspects of yourself if you're willing to read, learn, observe and question things.

Anywayyyyyy, I write wayyyyy too much. So I better shattap here :)
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Thanks Thalassa for posting that. This is exactly why I joined this site, it’s what I’m looking for and so reassuring to read it from someone else. Makes me feel like I finally found what I’m looking for after countless other sites helped not one bit. Here’s to looking and moving forward!
 
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