Dom/Sub Dynamics

Well, I dropped back by to see where your thread was going Sweetheart, and, I must say I'm a bit surprised. I honestly thought this one would be ripping up the charts faster than the clothes come off at a Roman Orgy or a Groupie backstage! I guess the best thing to do is continue to pass the word around and slip a little Alpha gaze here and there.

Tonight, I'm going to add my two cents on just that. The in your face facts of what is and is not a Dom. Now, I know without a doubt some are going to get butt hurt over this. Frankly, too damn bad. It's not intended to make anyone or any specific 'stereotype' feel out of place or belittled. I'm actually trying to illustrate the truth from lies and the bullshit of social misconceptions from the realities we have within our communities and private lives.

The very first thing is this: Yet again, Communication. You see, I didn't just wake up one day and look in the mirror and say, "Ya know Marcus, you're a Dom and the world is yours. Women will do as you say, Men will obey you and Life will be good, fair and easy". If that were true, I'd still be an Angel of the First Realm Before Man. Obviously, I'm not, I'm here with my broken wings, one dipped in blood, one nearly stripped of feathers.

So, again, what I choose to reveal isn't some martyr effort or attempt to educate. I'm simply sharing a point of view, observations, awareness, reflections, and dare I say wisdom from trial and error of personal opinion and experiences. I don't expect or want everyone to agree with me. I DO want you to be open-minded. I DO want you to think about yourselves and how any of this may apply to you and those you CARE about. I AM A DOM, I firmly Believe it is MY Responsibility to Communicate effectively and efficiently with those in MY charge. Furthermore, I Believe it is a TRUE DOM or DOMME who Cares For and Loves those in Thier Charge.

Now, how does this actually happen? Well, if you're a realist and not a drama punk or queen, you know already. It Takes Time! Oh, yes, there is such a thing as "Love At First Sight" but we're not talking solely about the instant attraction here, are we? No, we're talking about a Mature, Mutual Relationship between two or more Consenting Adults. And if you're under the illusion that you snap your finger's or go on some random chat room and fill your studio apartment with anything other than wishful thinking and the smoke you're blowing up your own ass, you need help that only professionals can provide.

A Dom or Domme knows they are of this truly Gifted position within a Committed Structure or Family not by their actions, but by the natural appointment and acceptance of the other(s). Most of us being to realize this young in life. For me, I wasn't even in my teens yet. It wasn't because I was big for my age, it wasn't because I was hung like a horse or any other stereotype. Hell, I didn't know what it was. I was a kid. When I was about 14 I guess, I was playing my guitar in the garage and two of my cousins' girlfriends came out. They, like most of the girls I knew then, we older than me. I stopped playing, put down my guitar and brushed off the leaves from the patio chairs so the girls could sit down. I didn't say a word. I just looked at them, grinned and went back to playing. One of their mothers came out with some kind of nasty pink lemonade. When she set the glasses on the tray down, I brushed off a chair for her, then I picked up the glasses and handed each of them a glass. I remember what she said to this day, "You young man, are the Alpha in a den of wolves".

I won't go into a lot more details, but I will say I began learning a lot from her and her daughter. Not to mention those they knew, and those I was introduced to.

I took an interest in learning about the human body. In people in general. In listening, paying attention to detail. I learned how to truly communicate, not just speak. I've never been the one to yell or raise my voice unless absolutely necessary. I'm very expressive with my eyes, body mechanics and posture. Physically, I am strong and skilled. I'm not bragging, I studied. I practiced. I served my country. I still practice various Arts to this day. I am more than capable of violence and I rather enjoy it. But not at the expense of those who do not deserve it.

In my opinion, here is a Social fuckup that needs to be addressed and corrected. Dom's and Domme's are mostly seen as the "Whips and Chains, Power-Tool, Torture-Rack, Abusive, Over-Bearing, Selfish and Demented" individuals of Hollywood and Porn. well, if you're a BDSM Dom or Domme, this may apply and correctly so. After all, that is part of Bondage/Discipline Domination/Submission Sadism/Masochism. I'm all for the Bondage, I use Ropes myself. Discipline is part of the Dom, Domme, Submissive lifestyle of choice. But this is, for the most part where the lines divide.

To group everyone together is like putting all apples together. "No way"! Yes. An apple is an apple, right? Nope. Just saying, we may be all people, but we are different just the same.

So, when you think about yourself and the part you are or wish to be in your particular structure or family, please don't PRETEND. If you aren't sure about ANY of it, TALK ABOUT IT. If the one or ones you are involved with won't talk to you SERIOUSLY ABOUT YOU NEEDS or CONCERNS, LEAVE.

If a Dom or Domme "claims" to be the real deal in life or online, Call them out on it. Seriously. Especially if you are seriously looking for answers to your own questions. BE SAFE, NOT SORRY.

Identify the RP and Sexting from the Sincere Attempts at Friendship and Chat. And for the love of all things positive, If you happen to be a Guest and claim to be a Sub in a chat room...and a Dom or Domme Regular asks you a question or say's Hello, it's common courtesy to reply back. Technically, that's just having manner's and everyone should be kind enough to do that, but we're talking Dom's and Subs here, so...

Anyway, I deliberately went for subtleties throughout this in hopes those who do decide to read it catch something that helps them personally find something of use. If not, I tried!! With that, I wish you all well, safe pleasures and as always: Hugs to the Ladies, handshakes to the Gents...and to those who request a Gender-Specific Choice, please, choose which suits you best, as I am not an asshole, I am A Gentleman and quietly, I am an Alpha Dom so all are welcomed as friends...but I remain highly selective in lovers ;)
 
SirRocksAlot said:
Well, I dropped back by to see where your thread was going Sweetheart, and, I must say I'm a bit surprised. I honestly thought this one would be ripping up the charts faster than the clothes come off at a Roman Orgy or a Groupie backstage! I guess the best thing to do is continue to pass the word around and slip a little Alpha gaze here and there.

Tonight, I'm going to add my two cents on just that. The in your face facts of what is and is not a Dom. Now, I know without a doubt some are going to get butt hurt over this. Frankly, too damn bad. It's not intended to make anyone or any specific 'stereotype' feel out of place or belittled. I'm actually trying to illustrate the truth from lies and the bullshit of social misconceptions from the realities we have within our communities and private lives.

The very first thing is this: Yet again, Communication. You see, I didn't just wake up one day and look in the mirror and say, "Ya know Marcus, you're a Dom and the world is yours. Women will do as you say, Men will obey you and Life will be good, fair and easy". If that were true, I'd still be an Angel of the First Realm Before Man. Obviously, I'm not, I'm here with my broken wings, one dipped in blood, one nearly stripped of feathers.

So, again, what I choose to reveal isn't some martyr effort or attempt to educate. I'm simply sharing a point of view, observations, awareness, reflections, and dare I say wisdom from trial and error of personal opinion and experiences. I don't expect or want everyone to agree with me. I DO want you to be open-minded. I DO want you to think about yourselves and how any of this may apply to you and those you CARE about. I AM A DOM, I firmly Believe it is MY Responsibility to Communicate effectively and efficiently with those in MY charge. Furthermore, I Believe it is a TRUE DOM or DOMME who Cares For and Loves those in Thier Charge.

Now, how does this actually happen? Well, if you're a realist and not a drama punk or queen, you know already. It Takes Time! Oh, yes, there is such a thing as "Love At First Sight" but we're not talking solely about the instant attraction here, are we? No, we're talking about a Mature, Mutual Relationship between two or more Consenting Adults. And if you're under the illusion that you snap your finger's or go on some random chat room and fill your studio apartment with anything other than wishful thinking and the smoke you're blowing up your own ass, you need help that only professionals can provide.

A Dom or Domme knows they are of this truly Gifted position within a Committed Structure or Family not by their actions, but by the natural appointment and acceptance of the other(s). Most of us being to realize this young in life. For me, I wasn't even in my teens yet. It wasn't because I was big for my age, it wasn't because I was hung like a horse or any other stereotype. Hell, I didn't know what it was. I was a kid. When I was about 14 I guess, I was playing my guitar in the garage and two of my cousins' girlfriends came out. They, like most of the girls I knew then, we older than me. I stopped playing, put down my guitar and brushed off the leaves from the patio chairs so the girls could sit down. I didn't say a word. I just looked at them, grinned and went back to playing. One of their mothers came out with some kind of nasty pink lemonade. When she set the glasses on the tray down, I brushed off a chair for her, then I picked up the glasses and handed each of them a glass. I remember what she said to this day, "You young man, are the Alpha in a den of wolves".

I won't go into a lot more details, but I will say I began learning a lot from her and her daughter. Not to mention those they knew, and those I was introduced to.

I took an interest in learning about the human body. In people in general. In listening, paying attention to detail. I learned how to truly communicate, not just speak. I've never been the one to yell or raise my voice unless absolutely necessary. I'm very expressive with my eyes, body mechanics and posture. Physically, I am strong and skilled. I'm not bragging, I studied. I practiced. I served my country. I still practice various Arts to this day. I am more than capable of violence and I rather enjoy it. But not at the expense of those who do not deserve it.

In my opinion, here is a Social fuckup that needs to be addressed and corrected. Dom's and Domme's are mostly seen as the "Whips and Chains, Power-Tool, Torture-Rack, Abusive, Over-Bearing, Selfish and Demented" individuals of Hollywood and Porn. well, if you're a BDSM Dom or Domme, this may apply and correctly so. After all, that is part of Bondage/Discipline Domination/Submission Sadism/Masochism. I'm all for the Bondage, I use Ropes myself. Discipline is part of the Dom, Domme, Submissive lifestyle of choice. But this is, for the most part where the lines divide.

To group everyone together is like putting all apples together. "No way"! Yes. An apple is an apple, right? Nope. Just saying, we may be all people, but we are different just the same.

So, when you think about yourself and the part you are or wish to be in your particular structure or family, please don't PRETEND. If you aren't sure about ANY of it, TALK ABOUT IT. If the one or ones you are involved with won't talk to you SERIOUSLY ABOUT YOU NEEDS or CONCERNS, LEAVE.

If a Dom or Domme "claims" to be the real deal in life or online, Call them out on it. Seriously. Especially if you are seriously looking for answers to your own questions. BE SAFE, NOT SORRY.

Identify the RP and Sexting from the Sincere Attempts at Friendship and Chat. And for the love of all things positive, If you happen to be a Guest and claim to be a Sub in a chat room...and a Dom or Domme Regular asks you a question or say's Hello, it's common courtesy to reply back. Technically, that's just having manner's and everyone should be kind enough to do that, but we're talking Dom's and Subs here, so...

Anyway, I deliberately went for subtleties throughout this in hopes those who do decide to read it catch something that helps them personally find something of use. If not, I tried!! With that, I wish you all well, safe pleasures and as always: Hugs to the Ladies, handshakes to the Gents...and to those who request a Gender-Specific Choice, please, choose which suits you best, as I am not an asshole, I am A Gentleman and quietly, I am an Alpha Dom so all are welcomed as friends...but I remain highly selective in lovers ;)
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Yet again thank you so much for your replys I absolutely love reading them I'm hoping in time more people will come on to the thread, I'd absolutely love to talk to you more its refreshing to find someone willing to talk as openly as you :)
 
SirRocksAlot said:
Well, I dropped back by to see where your thread was going Sweetheart, and, I must say I'm a bit surprised. I honestly thought this one would be ripping up the charts faster than the clothes come off at a Roman Orgy or a Groupie backstage! I guess the best thing to do is continue to pass the word around and slip a little Alpha gaze here and there.

Tonight, I'm going to add my two cents on just that. The in your face facts of what is and is not a Dom. Now, I know without a doubt some are going to get butt hurt over this. Frankly, too damn bad. It's not intended to make anyone or any specific 'stereotype' feel out of place or belittled. I'm actually trying to illustrate the truth from lies and the bullshit of social misconceptions from the realities we have within our communities and private lives.

The very first thing is this: Yet again, Communication. You see, I didn't just wake up one day and look in the mirror and say, "Ya know Marcus, you're a Dom and the world is yours. Women will do as you say, Men will obey you and Life will be good, fair and easy". If that were true, I'd still be an Angel of the First Realm Before Man. Obviously, I'm not, I'm here with my broken wings, one dipped in blood, one nearly stripped of feathers.

So, again, what I choose to reveal isn't some martyr effort or attempt to educate. I'm simply sharing a point of view, observations, awareness, reflections, and dare I say wisdom from trial and error of personal opinion and experiences. I don't expect or want everyone to agree with me. I DO want you to be open-minded. I DO want you to think about yourselves and how any of this may apply to you and those you CARE about. I AM A DOM, I firmly Believe it is MY Responsibility to Communicate effectively and efficiently with those in MY charge. Furthermore, I Believe it is a TRUE DOM or DOMME who Cares For and Loves those in Thier Charge.

Now, how does this actually happen? Well, if you're a realist and not a drama punk or queen, you know already. It Takes Time! Oh, yes, there is such a thing as "Love At First Sight" but we're not talking solely about the instant attraction here, are we? No, we're talking about a Mature, Mutual Relationship between two or more Consenting Adults. And if you're under the illusion that you snap your finger's or go on some random chat room and fill your studio apartment with anything other than wishful thinking and the smoke you're blowing up your own ass, you need help that only professionals can provide.

A Dom or Domme knows they are of this truly Gifted position within a Committed Structure or Family not by their actions, but by the natural appointment and acceptance of the other(s). Most of us being to realize this young in life. For me, I wasn't even in my teens yet. It wasn't because I was big for my age, it wasn't because I was hung like a horse or any other stereotype. Hell, I didn't know what it was. I was a kid. When I was about 14 I guess, I was playing my guitar in the garage and two of my cousins' girlfriends came out. They, like most of the girls I knew then, we older than me. I stopped playing, put down my guitar and brushed off the leaves from the patio chairs so the girls could sit down. I didn't say a word. I just looked at them, grinned and went back to playing. One of their mothers came out with some kind of nasty pink lemonade. When she set the glasses on the tray down, I brushed off a chair for her, then I picked up the glasses and handed each of them a glass. I remember what she said to this day, "You young man, are the Alpha in a den of wolves".

I won't go into a lot more details, but I will say I began learning a lot from her and her daughter. Not to mention those they knew, and those I was introduced to.

I took an interest in learning about the human body. In people in general. In listening, paying attention to detail. I learned how to truly communicate, not just speak. I've never been the one to yell or raise my voice unless absolutely necessary. I'm very expressive with my eyes, body mechanics and posture. Physically, I am strong and skilled. I'm not bragging, I studied. I practiced. I served my country. I still practice various Arts to this day. I am more than capable of violence and I rather enjoy it. But not at the expense of those who do not deserve it.

In my opinion, here is a Social fuckup that needs to be addressed and corrected. Dom's and Domme's are mostly seen as the "Whips and Chains, Power-Tool, Torture-Rack, Abusive, Over-Bearing, Selfish and Demented" individuals of Hollywood and Porn. well, if you're a BDSM Dom or Domme, this may apply and correctly so. After all, that is part of Bondage/Discipline Domination/Submission Sadism/Masochism. I'm all for the Bondage, I use Ropes myself. Discipline is part of the Dom, Domme, Submissive lifestyle of choice. But this is, for the most part where the lines divide.

To group everyone together is like putting all apples together. "No way"! Yes. An apple is an apple, right? Nope. Just saying, we may be all people, but we are different just the same.

So, when you think about yourself and the part you are or wish to be in your particular structure or family, please don't PRETEND. If you aren't sure about ANY of it, TALK ABOUT IT. If the one or ones you are involved with won't talk to you SERIOUSLY ABOUT YOU NEEDS or CONCERNS, LEAVE.

If a Dom or Domme "claims" to be the real deal in life or online, Call them out on it. Seriously. Especially if you are seriously looking for answers to your own questions. BE SAFE, NOT SORRY.

Identify the RP and Sexting from the Sincere Attempts at Friendship and Chat. And for the love of all things positive, If you happen to be a Guest and claim to be a Sub in a chat room...and a Dom or Domme Regular asks you a question or say's Hello, it's common courtesy to reply back. Technically, that's just having manner's and everyone should be kind enough to do that, but we're talking Dom's and Subs here, so...

Anyway, I deliberately went for subtleties throughout this in hopes those who do decide to read it catch something that helps them personally find something of use. If not, I tried!! With that, I wish you all well, safe pleasures and as always: Hugs to the Ladies, handshakes to the Gents...and to those who request a Gender-Specific Choice, please, choose which suits you best, as I am not an asshole, I am A Gentleman and quietly, I am an Alpha Dom so all are welcomed as friends...but I remain highly selective in lovers ;)
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Thanks Everyone....and No, I really don't mind the "conversations" being started with me either, Glad to be there in any way I can for any of you with REAL questions. That's what this is all about! Hell, post questions HERE in the Forum, I'm not shy...I'll answer here too. ;)
 
Also to liven it up a little feel free to add some quotes/gifs (not just people fucking) meaningful ones that mean something to you r that you think mingt mean some thing to someone else then it may open up a few conversations about subs and doms because in sure there must be a few on here into the dynamics r interested in learning about it
 
Art_and_Pleasure-08-23-2019.jpg Good evening all. The Discussion Champion and Host has asked a very reasonable Request of us. So, I'm posting a picture of something that is meaning to me personally, The ART and the Romance of Rope Work and, in my humble opinion, the Classiness of Bondage done with Loving Care verses the porn industry and religious extremes doing their best to place THIS with what we've all seen and know about on the more extreme side of things.

Again, for the love of God(s), Passion, Sex and Happiness, whatever floats your boat and is CONSENSUAL, have at it, please! I'm no fucking hypocrite, I myself do rope work to my subs AND clients. I myself do Lettings AND Piercing, including Suspension. We ALL have our choices and we all should respectfully have our limits.

Now, as a Gentleman Dom and speaking to a mature group of people. I'd ask you to look at the picture for its purpose. Do you see what it really represents?

As a Romantic, I hope you see the pose, of course. That makes sense. The room decor isn't supposed to be eye-catching, it's a glace. The model is not drop dead super attractive, nor does she have breasts made of silicon the size of footballs. The Rope Work is NOT overly difficult, in fact, it's rather easy and plan. Frankly, everything about this picture is very "every day" in "every way" with the exception of the professional photographer and copyright.

Now, do you see what is really being present here and what is being represented?

For those who haven't, it's quite simple. This is nothing perverted. It's not harmful. It's safe, sexy and passionate. It can be done by anyone, any sex, any relationship. It's Fantasy and Pleasure, it's time-consuming, therefor wonderful foreplay and opportunity to explore your partner's body. The basic ties used allow for several body poses, which means you can take pictures of your own...not for blackmail or stupidity, but of reminders of loving moments shared.

It also means, should you wish to have sex, fuck, or, make love depending on your structuring AND relationship, there is an added element of restraint and vulnerability, control and skill level enhancements. But with this I overstep my bounds FREELY here: I Don't Ask, I DEMAND: ANY TIME YOU USE ANY TYPE OF RESTRICTIVE BINDING ON YOUR PARTNER(S), The Gentleman Dom's Rule Number One Applies: COMMUNICATION is a MUST.

The biggest fuck-ups New and Experienced Dom Sub relationships AND encounters face is TRUST, RESPECT, and COMMUNICATION flat out fucking FAILURE. You can take something so beautiful, as I've placed herein and turn it in to someone's life long nightmare in mere minutes.

I STRESS THIS PEOPLE, I've been doing this a long time. Some get into these "Social Communities" to do nothing more than deliberately hurt others. They are NOT Doms, Domme. They are cowards, fuckups, punks, cunts, and worthless individuals society calls 'special'. I believe society has its laws and wording seriously messed up. I don't see anything 'special' about abuse...but I do see everything special about making sure the ones you SAY YOU LOVE or CARE ABOUT are SAFE, SECURE and EQUALLY INTERESTED in the type of LOVE you'll BOTH be making.

Anyway, that's enough ART, and food for thought for tonight. I'm going to go out on the back deck, smoke a bowl, grab a Bourbon and head over to the Dom n Sub Chat for a bit. Be seeing ya. SirRocksAlot
 
SirRocksAlot said:
View attachment 127906 Good evening all. The Discussion Champion and Host has asked a very reasonable Request of us. So, I'm posting a picture of something that is meaning to me personally, The ART and the Romance of Rope Work and, in my humble opinion, the Classiness of Bondage done with Loving Care verses the porn industry and religious extremes doing their best to place THIS with what we've all seen and know about on the more extreme side of things.

Again, for the love of God(s), Passion, Sex and Happiness, whatever floats your boat and is CONSENSUAL, have at it, please! I'm no fucking hypocrite, I myself do rope work to my subs AND clients. I myself do Lettings AND Piercing, including Suspension. We ALL have our choices and we all should respectfully have our limits.

Now, as a Gentleman Dom and speaking to a mature group of people. I'd ask you to look at the picture for its purpose. Do you see what it really represents?

As a Romantic, I hope you see the pose, of course. That makes sense. The room decor isn't supposed to be eye-catching, it's a glace. The model is not drop dead super attractive, nor does she have breasts made of silicon the size of footballs. The Rope Work is NOT overly difficult, in fact, it's rather easy and plan. Frankly, everything about this picture is very "every day" in "every way" with the exception of the professional photographer and copyright.

Now, do you see what is really being present here and what is being represented?

For those who haven't, it's quite simple. This is nothing perverted. It's not harmful. It's safe, sexy and passionate. It can be done by anyone, any sex, any relationship. It's Fantasy and Pleasure, it's time-consuming, therefor wonderful foreplay and opportunity to explore your partner's body. The basic ties used allow for several body poses, which means you can take pictures of your own...not for blackmail or stupidity, but of reminders of loving moments shared.

It also means, should you wish to have sex, fuck, or, make love depending on your structuring AND relationship, there is an added element of restraint and vulnerability, control and skill level enhancements. But with this I overstep my bounds FREELY here: I Don't Ask, I DEMAND: ANY TIME YOU USE ANY TYPE OF RESTRICTIVE BINDING ON YOUR PARTNER(S), The Gentleman Dom's Rule Number One Applies: COMMUNICATION is a MUST.

The biggest fuck-ups New and Experienced Dom Sub relationships AND encounters face is TRUST, RESPECT, and COMMUNICATION flat out fucking FAILURE. You can take something so beautiful, as I've placed herein and turn it in to someone's life long nightmare in mere minutes.

I STRESS THIS PEOPLE, I've been doing this a long time. Some get into these "Social Communities" to do nothing more than deliberately hurt others. They are NOT Doms, Domme. They are cowards, fuckups, punks, cunts, and worthless individuals society calls 'special'. I believe society has its laws and wording seriously messed up. I don't see anything 'special' about abuse...but I do see everything special about making sure the ones you SAY YOU LOVE or CARE ABOUT are SAFE, SECURE and EQUALLY INTERESTED in the type of LOVE you'll BOTH be making.

Anyway, that's enough ART, and food for thought for tonight. I'm going to go out on the back deck, smoke a bowl, grab a Bourbon and head over to the Dom n Sub Chat for a bit. Be seeing ya. SirRocksAlot
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I always seem to miss u in the dom n sub chat :(
The picture is beautiful I love rope play/shabari and suspension and I love romance too I'm very glad you keep coming back to this thread I love to read your posts let's hope we can get a couple more on here :)
 
My lover and I are no experts in this world though we both enjoy what likely would be described as the vers or switch role. In general, the dynamic is largely (and for her, importantly) me as dom and her as sub, but both of us enjoy the occasional switch. For us, as we learn, it's been about finding activities in which we share an interest. Ropes, for example, definitely are something we both enjoy. Pushing limits with a level of forcefulness in some cases are also of great excitement. As has been noted, none of this works without clear and constant communication!
 

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SirRocksAlot said:
View attachment 127906 Good evening all. The Discussion Champion and Host has asked a very reasonable Request of us. So, I'm posting a picture of something that is meaning to me personally, The ART and the Romance of Rope Work and, in my humble opinion, the Classiness of Bondage done with Loving Care verses the porn industry and religious extremes doing their best to place THIS with what we've all seen and know about on the more extreme side of things.

Again, for the love of God(s), Passion, Sex and Happiness, whatever floats your boat and is CONSENSUAL, have at it, please! I'm no fucking hypocrite, I myself do rope work to my subs AND clients. I myself do Lettings AND Piercing,:15 including Suspension. We ALL have our choices and we all should respectfully have our limits.

Now, as a Gentleman Dom and speaking to a mature group of people. I'd ask you to look at the picture for its purpose. Do you see what it really represents?

As a Romantic, I hope you see the pose, of course. That makes sense. The room decor isn't supposed to be eye-catching, it's a glace. The model is not drop dead super attractive, nor does she have breasts made of silicon the size of footballs. The Rope Work is NOT overly difficult, in fact, it's rather easy and plan. Frankly, everything about this picture is very "every day" in "every way" with the exception of the professional photographer and copyright.

Now, do you see what is really being present here and what is being represented?

For those who haven't, it's quite simple. This is nothing perverted. It's not harmful. It's safe, sexy and passionate. It can be done by anyone, any sex, any relationship. It's Fantasy and Pleasure, it's time-consuming, therefor wonderful foreplay and opportunity to explore your partner's body. The basic ties used allow for several body poses, which means you can take pictures of your own...not for blackmail or stupidity, but of reminders of loving moments shared.

It also means, should you wish to have sex, fuck, or, make love depending on your structuring AND relationship, there is an added element of restraint and vulnerability, control and skill level enhancements. But with this I overstep my bounds FREELY here: I Don't Ask, I DEMAND: ANY TIME YOU USE ANY TYPE OF RESTRICTIVE BINDING ON YOUR PARTNER(S), The Gentleman Dom's Rule Number One Applies: COMMUNICATION is a MUST.

The biggest fuck-ups New and Experienced Dom Sub relationships AND encounters face is TRUST, RESPECT, and COMMUNICATION flat out fucking FAILURE. You can take something so beautiful, as I've placed herein and turn it in to someone's life long nightmare in mere minutes.

I STRESS THIS PEOPLE, I've been doing this a long time. Some get into these "Social Communities" to do nothing more than deliberately hurt others. They are NOT Doms, Domme. They are cowards, fuckups, punks, cunts, and worthless individuals society calls 'special'. I believe society has its laws and wording seriously messed up. I don't see anything 'special' about abuse...but I do see everything special about making sure the ones you SAY YOU LOVE or CARE ABOUT are SAFE, SECURE and EQUALLY INTERESTED in the type of LOVE you'll BOTH be making.

Anyway, that's enough ART, and food for thought for tonight. I'm going to go out on the back deck, smoke a bowl, grab a Bourbon and head over to the Dom n Sub Chat for a bit. Be seeing ya. SirRocksAlot
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As always My Friends...It's a pleasure to stop by and add what I can. Again, I'm no one special, just a Man with an unusual skills' set ;) I'll be online tonight HALLOWEEN, about 9:00 PM-PST-US and hopefully Flirting and Half High by 9:15 PM. Also a quick shout out here: I put up a post here in Forum too. It "Just Another Spot For All To" it's a place for creative writing, art, what have you by the people behind the screen names. THIS post forum, I'm going to pimp the hell out of...So ShyOne...Hope you don't mind Sweety, I'm On-Air tonight (Podcast Interview and I'm putting this link on Blast) HUGs.
 
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Love this thread! I’m a sub in D/s relationship, and it is wonderful. We are currently expanding into other areas of kink, like trying out rope play. I absolute love it! We’re just beginners, but I’ll post a pic of one of our attempts that turned out lovely imo
 
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Love this thread! I’m a sub in D/s relationship, and it is wonderful. We are currently expanding into other areas of kink, like trying out rope play. I absolute love it! We’re just beginners, but I’ll post a pic of one of our attempts that turned out lovely imo
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Rope play is something I’ve always found to be beautiful. I follow several people on Reddit that practice rope play and have read first hand accounts from people, both Dom and sub, who practice this art.
It is interesting hearing about the reactions from both sides of a relationship exploring this art. The pleasure, and surprisingly, the comfort that a sub feels when bound by her Dom, and the love and care that a Dom puts into his art. The attention to detail, ensuring a pleasing design, and ensuring that it does not damage his sub is inspiring.
 
This thread is very interesting, my girl and I have been together for 4 years now and only dabbled in the sub/dom bdsm world she loves it I like it but I kinda feel a little awkward giving orders or just spanking/ roping her up I'm not 100 percent sure why but I know she likes it a lot and it gets her going and in turn gets me going maybe I need a little more advice on being the one in controle? Maybe more guidance on ideas of what to say what to do? Any other sexy time is just mind blowing.
 
MaryMags said:
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Love this thread! I’m a sub in D/s relationship, and it is wonderful. We are currently expanding into other areas of kink, like trying out rope play. I absolute love it! We’re just beginners, but I’ll post a pic of one of our attempts that turned out lovely imo
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Keep up the good work! Looking forward to seeing more!
I use the Art of Rope a lot. Body Art Submission Posing to Suspension. As you guys get more into it, please talk openly about the bindings and placements! You'll find the "kind" of ropes you use and the "quality" of ropes you use will make for comfort and beauty, as well as purpose.
When tieing, wraps and lock-binds, make sure circulation isn't too restricted (unless your plan is to include discoloration for an effect or affect in the final depiction /art photography, or, you intend to do body molding or photos of the trailings/markings of the ropes left temporarily on the skin after release. Both scenarios have their place when addressed properly.) **Oh, take your time...be passionate...explore the body...let your fingers and hands kiss her skin, lick her skin, as you lay the ropes and slide them over her...talk to her...don't tell her to move this way or that way, guide her with gentle touch and the with the slightest tensions of the ropes. What you are really doing is truly another form of making love to each other...do it With Love and your results will be much more satisfying and gradifying!
 
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Keep up the good work! Looking forward to seeing more!
I use the Art of Rope a lot. Body Art Submission Posing to Suspension. As you guys get more into it, please talk openly about the bindings and placements! You'll find the "kind" of ropes you use and the "quality" of ropes you use will make for comfort and beauty, as well as purpose.
When tieing, wraps and lock-binds, make sure circulation isn't too restricted (unless your plan is to include discoloration for an effect or affect in the final depiction /art photography, or, you intend to do body molding or photos of the trailings/markings of the ropes left temporarily on the skin after release. Both scenarios have their place when addressed properly.) **Oh, take your time...be passionate...explore the body...let your fingers and hands kiss her skin, lick her skin, as you lay the ropes and slide them over her...talk to her...don't tell her to move this way or that way, guide her with gentle touch and the with the slightest tensions of the ropes. What you are really doing is truly another form of making love to each other...do it With Love and your results will be much more satisfying and gradifying!
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Thank you so much for the advice and the encouragement! As for the last bit, yes, it’s so true! It’s such an intimate experience. Sir is a perfectionist and seeing the effort and attention he puts into tying the ropes around me is quite intoxicating for me. He says the best part is unwinding the ropes from my body, like opening a gift :)
 
MaryMags said:
Thank you so much for the advice and the encouragement! As for the last bit, yes, it’s so true! It’s such an intimate experience. Sir is a perfectionist and seeing the effort and attention he puts into tying the ropes around me is quite intoxicating for me. He says the best part is unwinding the ropes from my body, like opening a gift :)
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*Smiles* "Like Opening 'The Most Precious Of Gifts EVERY Time'..."

Enjoy Life, Love, and Passion to its Fullest
 
If I'm ever online feel free to chat here r if not you'll find me in the sub and dom room :) always up for meeting new people and talking open and honestly about bdsm r sub n dom dynamics
 
Happily accepts the hugs!
I love comfort closeness and romance as well as having my kinky side so any form of affection off the ones I know r always welcomed
 
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