well darling, its relevant cause the straights don't know any better so they have to ask questions to learn.
in truth, a lot of people think giving oral sex is a chore period (especially straight ppl, based on their own admissions) and just hope their partner gets it over with fast. not everyone enjoys spending hours and hours teasing and edging each other like we do. they also do not consider that we can have sex in the form of tribbing or strap ons and assume we must be relegated to oral or fingers. which is an uninformed opinion, but also mildly the true as a stereotype often is, since its far more practical for me to dive between your thighs face first or with fingers than attempt to find where the strap has gone "in the moment". so its not really that gender and sexuality inherently matter, its that they were curious if the experience was the same on the other side of the fence.