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How do you react to aggressive conflict/confrontation when it directly involves you and your participation to resolve a problem?
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I let the other party know I intend to use some form of “planned ignoring” and do not engage
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LillyK
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What if it directly involves you and your participation?
Depends on the phase of the moon
. But I usually stay ice calm and smile and look through their soul and focus them on the problem to be fixed.
I'm the type that tries not to get involve in that kind of trouble but if I do I'd rather concede to the one I'm arguing with than making the conflict escalate
If I know I’ve probably not done anything wrong I usually stop and look the person in the eyes until he or she is done yelling. Trying to be passive and listening. Then when it’s been silent for a few seconds. Then I say I’ve heard what you said and then start asking questions.
I find staying calm, listening to what the other person is saying, but most of all engage brain before mouth really helps!
If that does not work, stick my middle finger up and walk away!
Depends on the person and my relationship with them. But as a rule I do not engage in really escalated conflicts. I have seen and experienced too much. It feels like no one is truly heard or understood during heated exchanges
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LillyK
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I definitely blanked out at one point and realized I didn't hear anything that was said for about a minute. I'm really glad there was a mediator! I really had to stand my ground and cried a little bit I didn't crumble and give up. I usually steer clear of conflict but sometimes it's unavoidable.
Well done you. And I am a person tries to avoid it too.
Well done Lilly xxx, conflict should be avoided where possible, but sometimes it cannot be. If you do not make a stand then next time the person will think they can do the same and walk all over you.
I dont respond until everybody is calm and willing to to listen and talk calmly if they just going to stand and scream I simply walk away as screaming dont resolved anything.
Also trying to avoid conflicts but if it's not possible then I keep myself calm and smile at him /her (it's an effective way to calm things) and if it's getting in my nerves then I usually respond with lots of irony
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LillyK
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Lmao so... that seems like it was just piss the person off
It usually does but he started it so I am making him to regret itjust piss the person off
All the time.
I use different approaches. Sometimes letting the person rant, bitch, and complain while I listen works. It tends to calm them down and then you can get to a resolution after they have calmed down. If a person is being very aggressive and it is apparent they aren't calming down, then I interject and stand my grown in a firm manner. I don't try to replicate the other person's aggressiveness, but I do make it clear I'm not taking their shit. If they want to discuss the issue in a calmer manner, then I am willing to do so, but if not, I have no qualms of just leaving the situation with the person knowing my feelings on the issue.