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I have known friends for a long time from here and in life, and thinking at what @Stanthropical said, there are people that move forward and get help to heal to help them change and able to see the chameleons of other people who the try to be. I also have a friend who has talked to my other friends and can't understand why I am friends with them, only because I am more intelligent and moved on in life. I know someone of who had not changed and will not change. I know the secrets. Narcissists, pedo's, and fucked up people will never change. They only change their behavior to get you to want them again and get you to think they have changed but after certain things and years of therapy you do see red flags. sometimes it takes a little while to see them but they are there. The more you come aware of them the more you walk away and it becomes easier to part and becomes easier to be able to not spend as much time with them. That's why victims of abuse some of us all survive and become survivors. We stay strong and stand together. But yes you are right, they do not change they just can't afford to show their true colors anymore. And I do not think as much as I have changed but have evolved and healed and able to see the red flags of people and in people. I guess that's why I don't date irl. Most men I see only want sexual stuff and I want friendship first. Red flags especially when they ask you to come to their house the first date. I imagine them tying me in a basement and never letting me go lol. So I kindly say no and go home. But that was my last date so after that 5 years ago I stopped. I guess I am going on and on. LOL But no people do not change but their behaviors do, you're right Stan. Sorry I was sooo tired and unable to communicate and think at the time. ❤️🫂
 
Alice: Would you tell me, please, which way I ought to go from here?

The Cheshire Cat: That depends a good deal on where you want to get to.

Alice: I don't much care where.

The Cheshire Cat: Then it doesn't much matter which way you go.

Alice: ...So long as I get somewhere.

The Cheshire Cat: Oh, you're sure to do that, if only you walk long enough.
 
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I had a shit day mentally yesterday, it was rough. Memories from the house of hell. I don't care what people know about me. I don't care. People who have lived a life of shame may still be living it. I felt bad for some stuff I saw yesterday. I was already in an emotional break down, anxiety attack, memories flooding in. But I felt bad about some stuff that was said in the forums. I felt bad for the person that people were talking about. It's sometimes hard to see stuff and I have known people that have committed suicide over less. I kind of felt like I was watching an episode of pretty little liars with my daughter when she was a teenager. I laughed so thank you for that memory. But I was feeling bad for the person that may be seeing what was posted. Will they know it was about them. I guess, sometimes talking about people is ok and I guess doing it in the open is best sometimes but maybe not sometimes too. LOL I know everyone talks about people lol, I mean I have vented about a certain person. But I really don't talk about people here. I did at one time and it ended up a huge mess and lost friends and horrible things happened. So I have learned to just shut my mouth and keep opinions and bull shit to myself or just confront the person. I grew up in a house of pure hell. I have lived with the devil I have been married to the devil, I have been touched in ways and seen things I never should have seen. I am not ashamed. And if someone tried to make me feel shame for it would be shame on them. But there are people out there that are not open like me. And are healing or trying to. I took a couple semesters of psychology not know about psychology but to try and understand me and the evilness out in the world and my house. I really hope that people know it's ok to talk and it's ok to feel shame because it's a hard feeling to live with. And I know when people make fun of people I am pretty sure that's what they felt when they saw stuff if they did see it. Sorry this is long.
 
That moment when you see lasagna, but you can't reach it anymore, no matter how hard you try.
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