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When I was a young teen, I went to buy a gift for my dad. I was very particular about what I wanted. After a while, the saleswoman - an older lady - said to me "Darling, we can't have everything we want in life." She wasn't being unkind or trying to rush me. It was simply a statement as fact.

I bought the gift and left. But what she said didn't sit well with me. I have never forgotten her words. I started seeing the world through the lens of probabilities, possibilities and impossibilities, certainties and uncertainties. I don't regret the way I evaluated and still evaluate situations. I just don't think I should have known that so young. That said, I'm grateful to her for telling me a vital truth of life.

"You can't have everything you want in life."

You make peace with it, over and over, and you move on.
 
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TBig88M said:
What have you done...... In two thousand and twenty one?

Everyone is able to answer that question, and most of answers will be the same. ¨Not much¨
But what do you mean, when you say ¨Not much¨? How much, is ¨Not much¨?
Did you do things for yourself, to clear your mind of worries and fear? Or did you do things that were less, selfish?

You see.... The fact that we are limited in our freedom is the reason that we become more and more selfish. It slips in like smoke through a tiny hole.
We are being told to keep distance, wear facemasks and most of all to avoid crowded places. Places where we meet people, talk to people and laugh with people.

Thus we start to think inward. Is it safe for ME to go there? When will I be able to go to the office again? Keep distance from ME because I dont want to get sick.
The new normal has arrived, and in the new normal more abnormal things will happen. More and more people will become isolated.

Dont let your isolation become your desolation.
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I identify with your end concept and warning, but my perspective has been different. If you are isolated to protect “ME” then the above is all true. But not all of us feel our freedom was stripped (depends on where you live) and not all of us have fallen into selfish as a result.

I had my mom, age 74 and my adoptive dad, age 82 and my biological dad I have been caring for, age 81. I self-limited myself to protect them. Ironically, because the rest of my family was “selfish” and completely uncaring in this way, they basically killed my parents. My adoptive dad got it first, in September, died in 2 days. Mom died 11 days later.

My biological dad died, ironically, of heart failure last month. But at least I know it was not from anything I did or did not do to protect him.

We are all dealing with the same issues, but there are many losses and different perspectives to be had in this.
 
Thalassa said:
When I was a young teen, I went to buy a gift for my dad. I was very particular about what I wanted. After a while, the saleswoman - an older lady - said to me "Darling, we can't have everything we want in life." She wasn't being unkind or trying to rush me. It was simply a statement as fact.

I bought the gift and left. But what she said didn't sit well with me. I have never forgotten her words. I started seeing the world through the lens of probabilities, possibilities and impossibilities, certainties and uncertainties. I don't regret the way I evaluated and still evaluate situations. I just don't think I should have known that so young. That said, I'm grateful to her for telling me a vital truth of life.

"You can't have everything you want in life."

You make peace with it, over and over, and you move on.
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So true ❤
 
Thalassa said:
When I was a young teen, I went to buy a gift for my dad. I was very particular about what I wanted. After a while, the saleswoman - an older lady - said to me "Darling, we can't have everything we want in life." She wasn't being unkind or trying to rush me. It was simply a statement as fact.

I bought the gift and left. But what she said didn't sit well with me. I have never forgotten her words. I started seeing the world through the lens of probabilities, possibilities and impossibilities, certainties and uncertainties. I don't regret the way I evaluated and still evaluate situations. I just don't think I should have known that so young. That said, I'm grateful to her for telling me a vital truth of life.

"You can't have everything you want in life."

You make peace with it, over and over, and you move on.
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I never liked that phrase-still don't. To me, it is negative, pessimistic and on the level of "Children should be seen and not heard." I find in my life that statement to mostly be associated with children, or when said to an adult, feels and sounds as though you are speaking to them as a child.

I prefer this:
You can have what you want to have in life if you know what you are willing to give up.

That is not negative, but it is true. I cannot have everything because there are things that are finite, including the act of having. But this statement is about making choices and then being responsible for those choices. Love is sacrifice, for example. To have people you have to love. You can even give that up. I can make more money, but I will give up time and sleep. I can give up sex but will lose my sanity. LOL
 
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"Never give up. Never give up! Never give up!! Never, never, never-never-never-never!'"

-- Winston Churchill

According to one source, he said "Never give in." But the meaning is the same.
 
The world is upside down. The last almost 2 years have been some of the most difficult in the modern era of mankind. People were isolated, friends and family were forced not to see each other. friends and family died without any of them being able to see each other again or even just giving each other a hug. For a second year there are many people who are going to spend Christmas on their own thanks to covid-19, many people who are alone because a loved one has died. When I think of it all then it amazes me when I still see so much selfishness and hatred. It's so that we can not like everyone it's so that we hurt others and are also getting hurt. It's something we humans can not avoid or escape. What we as humans can do is choose how we deal with it. Anger and hatred and tearing each other apart is never an answer. At the end of the day, you do more harm to yourself and others and it's so unnecessary. It's December 2021 another year end where covid accompanies us ... moods run high, we are tired of being controlled there by we are totally tired after a long year. Choose to end the year in peace, let go. Be determined by the things that make you happy and make the people who matter to you happy. Use your last energy of the year for peace, love, tolerance and caring, do not sow hatred, anger. It makes me really sad when I see people wasting precious time on unimportant things especially online on the internet. Let go, be and let be and focus on what is important.
 
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SweetLesGirl said:
The world is upside down. The last almost 2 years have been some of the most difficult in the modern era of mankind. People were isolated, friends and family were forced not to see each other. friends and family died without any of them being able to see each other again or even just giving a each other a hug. For a second year there are many people who are going to spend Christmas on their own thanks to covid-19, many people who are alone because a loved one has died. When I think of it all then it amazes me when I still see so much selfishness and hatred. It's so that we can not like everyone it's so that we hurt others and are also getting hurt. It's something we humans can not avoid or escape. What we as humans can do is choose how we deal with it. Anger and hatred and tearing each other apart is never an answer. At the end of the day, you do more harm to yourself and others and it's so unnecessary. It's December 2021 another year end where covid accompanies us ... moods run high, we are tired of being controlled there by we are totally tired after a long year. Choose to end the year in peace, let go. Be determined by the things that make you happy and make the people who matter to you happy. Use your last energy of the year for peace, love, tolerance and caring, do not sow hatred, anger. It makes me really sad when I see people wasting precious time on unimportant things especially online on the internet. Let go, be and let be and focus on what is important.
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SweetLesGirl said:
The world is upside down. The last almost 2 years have been some of the most difficult in the modern era of mankind. People were isolated, friends and family were forced not to see each other. friends and family died without any of them being able to see each other again or even just giving each other a hug. For a second year there are many people who are going to spend Christmas on their own thanks to covid-19, many people who are alone because a loved one has died. When I think of it all then it amazes me when I still see so much selfishness and hatred. It's so that we can not like everyone it's so that we hurt others and are also getting hurt. It's something we humans can not avoid or escape. What we as humans can do is choose how we deal with it. Anger and hatred and tearing each other apart is never an answer. At the end of the day, you do more harm to yourself and others and it's so unnecessary. It's December 2021 another year end where covid accompanies us ... moods run high, we are tired of being controlled there by we are totally tired after a long year. Choose to end the year in peace, let go. Be determined by the things that make you happy and make the people who matter to you happy. Use your last energy of the year for peace, love, tolerance and caring, do not sow hatred, anger. It makes me really sad when I see people wasting precious time on unimportant things especially online on the internet. Let go, be and let be and focus on what is important.
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>>>what she said.

Also, I want cookie dough :p
 
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