Thoughts Post your little thoughts.

I think it’s so important to check in on people.
Take a moment of your day and say hi to
Someone who has taken their picture down. Maybe it’s nothing, but maybe it’s a
Silent plea for anyone to notice them.
Some just don’t want a pic there and that’s cool.
That’s not everyone.
Send out hugs and love.
But I was told its all performative bullshit and attention seeking by the powers that be
 
I think it’s so important to check in on people.
Take a moment of your day and say hi to
Someone who has taken their picture down. Maybe it’s nothing, but maybe it’s a
Silent plea for anyone to notice them.
Some just don’t want a pic there and that’s cool.
That’s not everyone.
Send out hugs and love.

But I was told its all performative bullshit and attention seeking by the powers that be

🤔 Pondering and thinking out loud...

Anyone who posts is looking for attention. Isn't that the whole point of a chat site? Regulars in a forum have made friends, and as social creatures, we typicaly want to make sure our friends are ok. In general, can some want more attention than others? Sure! But does that make it wrong? No! It is part of the human social dynamics. We all have our battles and triumphs and wants and needs.

Stay human you beautiful people. 🤗
 
The great pretende...

at work, where I pretend my job is so stressful and difficult that colleagues believe my position is justified and I can't be replaced.

at home, where I pretend I have a perfectly balanced and enjoyable life, so friends and family don't bother asking questions I'm too afraid to answer.

on FCN, where I pretend to be flirty, to know what I'm doing. FCN, the place where anonymity allows us to be who we are, and I use it to once again pretend to be someone I'm not everywhere else.

When I stop pretending, i don't know I am. So I keep on pretending. Because if I don't, will there be anything left?

Maybe being a pretender is really what I am.
Not trying to diagnose you here, because who am I? Lol.

But have you ever considered imposter syndrome? Even if just fleeting moments. It's quite common under high achievers and perfectionists. It can help to talk about it with others, especially peers or even mentors or a coach to see that what you perceive as pretending or fake, may actually be more real than you realise. That your achievements aren't just luck or good acting, but you are actually good at what you do. I've had this feeling for many years, but it helps to talk about it and to have people mirror you back to you. For me it links into perfectionism and a fear of not being good enough or smart enough. Never as good as someone else. And having BDD doesn't help matters on another front. What can also help is writing down things you are proud of. Actual achievements when you do recognise them and break them down. Like stop saying aloud that "someone taught you something". It's your knowledge now. You gained it. You did that. For example. And lastly. Your inner voice your harshest critic. Speak to yourself like you would a friend. Uplifting, positive and with a little pride.

Anyway, maybe totally off base and rambled, but popped into my head and I blabber 😅

This is still very much a learning curve for me too. None of us really know what we're doing, imo. It's not like life came with a neat little manual.
 
Not trying to diagnose you here, because who am I? Lol.

But have you ever considered imposter syndrome? Even if just fleeting moments. It's quite common under high achievers and perfectionists. It can help to talk about it with others, especially peers or even mentors or a coach to see that what you perceive as pretending or fake, may actually be more real than you realise. That your achievements aren't just luck or good acting, but you are actually good at what you do. I've had this feeling for many years, but it helps to talk about it and to have people mirror you back to you. For me it links into perfectionism and a fear of not being good enough or smart enough. Never as good as someone else. And having BDD doesn't help matters on another front. What can also help is writing down things you are proud of. Actual achievements when you do recognise them and break them down. Like stop saying aloud that "someone taught you something". It's your knowledge now. You gained it. You did that. For example. And lastly. Your inner voice your harshest critic. Speak to yourself like you would a friend. Uplifting, positive and with a little pride.

Anyway, maybe totally off base and rambled, but popped into my head and I blabber 😅

This is still very much a learning curve for me too. None of us really know what we're doing, imo. It's not like life came with a neat little manual.
Perfectionism isn't something I suffer from. like at all. Really. 🙄

Thanks thoug ... And send me copy of the manual if you happen to find it after all 🤗😋
 
Antisemitism has no place anywhere You don’t like Israel or Jews keep it to yourselves or in your in boxes.
It’s fucking disgusting.
Learn facts all of them before spewing shit.
 
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