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My grandfather once told me that at the end of my life I would be able to count on one hand the number of true friends I had. I did not understand the sentiment and felt it negative, but now more than ever I realize what he meant and why. It was not negative at all. It was about the limited time we have in life to truly invest in people. You cannot really be friends with everyone and have any deep connection with anyone. You can be friendly, but the investment will be limited. And that has to be ok. I have one friend from here, Harley. We have talked on the phone for hours at a time. I know her family and she knows mine. We have played zombie games and Grand Theft Auto on PlayStation. And if plans work out, we will spend time together in Salem in October, for their 400th anniversary.

I have been treated like the most horrible human on here by a few who decided I was a bad friend because I did not meet their quota of investment in this place. Fine. But if FCN shut down completely today it would not affect my life. I do care for my friends. I should not have to meet a quota that I am unaware of for my love to be genuine. Harley and I don’t even talk here at all, and have gone a month not talking, and we are as close as we ever were. That is what a real friendship looks like. We are there for each other in a moment, if needed, but we have no quota. Love is a choice, more than a feeling. If someone does not fit for you, that is more than ok, but no need to treat them like they set out to wound you. Just move on and everyone will be ok. But all of the drama and hurts that happen here demonstrate to me what I call the definition of disappointment.

Disappointment is the difference between expectations and reality. Some simply have different expectations here. They don’t always align. That does not make them evil or bad people. Some have their own hurts and a real life to deal with that affects their ability to be who you have chosen to need them to be.
 
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Vonjonbovi said:
My grandfather once told me that at the end of my life I would be able to count on one hand the number of true friends I had. I did not understand the sentiment and felt it negative, but now more than ever I realize what he meant and why. It was not negative at all. It was about the limited time we have in life to truly invest in people. You cannot really be friends with everyone and have any deep connection with anyone. You can be friendly, but the investment will be limited. And that has to be ok. I have one friend from here, Harley. We have talked on the phone for hours at a time. I know her family and she knows mine. We have played zombie games and Grand Theft Auto on PlayStation. And if plans work out, we will spend time together in Salem in October, for their 400th anniversary.

I have been treated like the most horrible human on here by a few who decided I was a bad friend because I did not meet their quota of investment in this place. Fine. But if FCN shut down completely today it would not affect my life. I do care for my friends. I should not have to meet a quota that I am unaware of for my love to be genuine. Harley and I don’t even talk here at all, and have gone a month not talking, and we are as close as we ever were. That is what a real friendship looks like. We are there for each other in a moment, if needed, but we have no quota. Love is a choice, more than a feeling. Of someone does not fit for you, that is more than ok, but no need to treat them like they set out to wound you. Just move on and everyone will be ok. But all of the drama and hurts that happen here demonstrate to me what I call the definition of disappointment. Disappointment is the difference between expectations and reality. Some simply have different expectations here. They don’t always align. That does not make them evil or bad people. Some have their own hurts and a real life to deal with that affects their ability to be who you have chosen to need them to be.
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Very very well said. ❤️
 
MorellaGoddessofLeather said:
I agree with you on all this. But I do not get close to people at all. I wish I could but I have been burned a lot on here. Got involved with people that just one day disappeared or one day just stopped talking to me. It's childish and the ones that don't post their own pics and are drooling on the others are the ones here for just one thing, to get off on the freebies women and men show. I feel that it's best to not get close. When I start liking someone and think I might have a connection, I just get disappointed so I take everything with a grain of salt. I only message one person everyday from here. We have talked everyday for almost 9 years. He has always been my one constant. Yes we have had a volatile past but I still choose him because connection is important to me, his patience with me and my trauma and million personalities I have in a day, my bitchness lol. I mean when you have a connection with someone, if it's a true connection, they will make the effort. I wish everyone could have a @LeatherPants.
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Truly happy for you Ella. To find a constant in the changing world is a true gift. 🫂♥️ Watching you thrive is a beautiful thing, making most of the limited resources.
 
Slopps said:
I'm now wondering if i should get me some Leatherpants. There's a special offer going on these, but I'm not sure how's that going to help with my problems 🤔


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Size up. Order a size up, that's what you need. Fitted leather pants is no good. 🤭😏
 
Vonjonbovi said:
My grandfather once told me that at the end of my life I would be able to count on one hand the number of true friends I had. I did not understand the sentiment and felt it negative, but now more than ever I realize what he meant and why. It was not negative at all. It was about the limited time we have in life to truly invest in people. You cannot really be friends with everyone and have any deep connection with anyone. You can be friendly, but the investment will be limited. And that has to be ok. I have one friend from here, Harley. We have talked on the phone for hours at a time. I know her family and she knows mine. We have played zombie games and Grand Theft Auto on PlayStation. And if plans work out, we will spend time together in Salem in October, for their 400th anniversary.

I have been treated like the most horrible human on here by a few who decided I was a bad friend because I did not meet their quota of investment in this place. Fine. But if FCN shut down completely today it would not affect my life. I do care for my friends. I should not have to meet a quota that I am unaware of for my love to be genuine. Harley and I don’t even talk here at all, and have gone a month not talking, and we are as close as we ever were. That is what a real friendship looks like. We are there for each other in a moment, if needed, but we have no quota. Love is a choice, more than a feeling. If someone does not fit for you, that is more than ok, but no need to treat them like they set out to wound you. Just move on and everyone will be ok. But all of the drama and hurts that happen here demonstrate to me what I call the definition of disappointment.

Disappointment is the difference between expectations and reality. Some simply have different expectations here. They don’t always align. That does not make them evil or bad people. Some have their own hurts and a real life to deal with that affects their ability to be who you have chosen to need them to be.
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Welcome back, and well said. Glad you have lifelong friendships.
 
Amberrlicious said:
I think sometimes things online can develop really quickly but burn out quickly too, I’ve had a few friendships that just kinda fizzled out. No fault on either side.
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So very true, life happens.
One of the many reasons I am guarded with the most. If it's meant to last it will stay despite the distance and limited frequency.
Grateful for all the genuine relations I have because of fcn.
 
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