Question for the men..

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It all depends on the person himself. Some have standards whereas others don't. There is always the need to release once the tension builds and so I guess it all depends how far stretched that tension is. Personally I prefer to have sex with someone I'm attracted to, but I know people who would dive in at any opportunity there is. In this case convenience over attraction.
 
Mr-Legman said:
It all depends on the person himself. Some have standards whereas others don't. There is always the need to release once the tension builds and so I guess it all depends how far stretched that tension is. Personally I prefer to have sex with someone I'm attracted to, but I know people who would dive in at any opportunity there is. In this case convenience over attraction.
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Thank you. I think you are right.

Unfortunately I’m dealing with one of those guys with no standards apparently :(
 
Then that all depends on what you want. If it's just sex you're interested in, which I am assuming is the case since you mentioned 'Fuck buddy', then it shouldn't matter.

Also what is it that has lead you to beleive that he has no standards? You're not bad looking in my opinion so is this something that he has told you?

If he has told you that he is having sex with you because he has no standards, then I would probably advise finding a new buddy unless of course you enjoy the abuse.
 
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Mr-Legman said:
Then that all depends on what you want. If it's just sex you're interested in, which I am assuming is the case since you mentioned 'Fuck buddy', then it shouldn't matter.

Also what is it that has lead you to beleive that he has no standards? You're not bad looking in my opinion so is this something that he has told you?

If he has told you that he is having sex with you because he has no standards, then I would probably advise finding a new buddy unless of course you enjoy the abuse.
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I think it does matter that he fancies me. No woman wants to feel like just a hole to be fucked.

You said there are some guys with standards and some guys without so I was referring to that.

His marriage broke up and he’s playing the field. He told me he compares every woman to his ex wife who was visually perfect. I can’t think of one famous woman who could rival her perfection. He cheated on her many times because he craves dirty sex and she was totally conservative. She never even gave him oral sex. He seems to have deeply loved her though, despite his actions.

Yes he is very disrespectful of me. Never says anything nice and blocks me until he feels horny. The worst thing is I desire him. I slept with him once and have refused him since. Just wish I could stop thinking about him.
 
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Curvy said:
Does a man have to be attracted to his fuck buddy or is the act of sex all that matters? Honest answers please!
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For me I don't know if there has to be an attractiveness, but the for sure has to be some kind of connection. Maybe it is because I've never had the kind of meaningless one night stand, tinder swipe and dip type of sexual encounters. So I guess if that connection counts as attraction then sure.

In your situation it sounds like fuck buddy for him has turned into serious friends with benefits on your end and it sounds like you'd want to be with this guy and not JUST fuck him. Btw, fuck buddy or not, he shouldn't treat you that way unless your into being used that way. If you aren't, which it sounds like you aren't, I think reevaluating, or asking him straight up where he stands and whether or not he respects you is going to be important.

I too think you're a beautiful woman and you should know your worth. If he only ever makes you feel bad, whether the sex is amazing or not, then I think you may have your answer.

Best of luck. <3
 
UnsaintedCali said:
For me I don't know if there has to be an attractiveness, but the for sure has to be some kind of connection. Maybe it is because I've never had the kind of meaningless one night stand, tinder swipe and dip type of sexual encounters. So I guess if that connection counts as attraction then sure.

In your situation it sounds like fuck buddy for him has turned into serious friends with benefits and it sounds like you'd want to be with this guy and not JUST fuck him. Btw, fuck buddy or not, he shouldn't treat you that way unless your into being used that way. If you aren't, which it sounds like you aren't, I think reevaluating, or asking him straight up where he stands and

whether or not he respects you is going to be important. I too think you're a beautiful woman and you should know your worth. If he only ever makes you feel bad, whether the sex is amazing or not, then I think you may have your answer.

Next if luck. <3
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Thank you UnsaintedCali. Yes I agree that connection IS attractive. He doesn’t even want that connection. Not even to get to know what I like sexually. We had that chat at the beginning but sexual mood changes and evolves.

No I don’t want to get with this guy. It wouldn’t work out. He can’t keep it in his trousers with one woman. I think if he found his sexual soulmate, he would still be putting it about!

I do like being dommed but there is a time and a place.

He knows how I feel as I just had to turn him down again.

Right sex; wrong man :(
 
Bransonyeh said:
You use the word fuck curvy ,I don’t I call it making love its normal for a guy and girl to have relationships without the smut keep it clean .
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I absolutely agree with you. Fuck was his word. Not mine.
 
A "fuck buddy" to be is a buddy first and foremost.. And you must like a buddy well enough to fuck. It cannot be someon you dont trust or not attracted too. In short its a relationship but without the heavy bonds and like all relationships it does have its rules of respect and care for each other and understanding where the line is.
 
A 'fuck buddy' would suggest someone you have a mutual friendship with but engage in carnal activities for fun without a deep emotional connection.

Less commitment I guess
 
Steg said:
A 'fuck buddy' would suggest someone you have a mutual friendship with but engage in carnal activities for fun without a deep emotional connection.

Less commitment I guess
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Not even a basic friendship here.
 
ILoveSexyChat said:
A "fuck buddy" to be is a buddy first and foremost.. And you must like a buddy well enough to fuck. It cannot be someon you dont trust or not attracted too. In short its a relationship but without the heavy bonds and like all relationships it does have its rules of respect and care for each other and understanding where the line is.
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No I don’t even get that.
 
Curvy said:
Not even a basic friendship here.
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Then it sounds like an imbalanced relationship if a fuck buddy is what you seek in them and they do not feel the same.
They would see it as just casual, disposable sex. Even less commitment.
 
Steg said:
Then it sounds like an umbalanced relationship if a fuck buddy is what you seek in them and they do not feel the same.
They would see it as just casual, disposable sex. Even less commitment.
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Yeah I know. Just feel sad I had to experience this kind of treatment.
 
superdude97 said:
I can't speak from first-hand experience here (nor do I really have a desire to), but I will try to put it thusly (slightly paraphrasing what someone already said):

With "fuck buddies", there's a reason the word "buddies" is included in the phrase, because otherwise it's just a fuck.
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Lol. Yes.
 
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