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Sometimes I feel like I'm so vanilla. There's so much uncharted territory when it comes to sex, every other day there's a new kink or fetish or style that comes up.

Also, for me, different people arouse me in different ways. With one partner, I could be on the shy-no experiment-man on top of the woman level of arousal but there would be someone else with whom I'd be brash and brazen. I could be entirely submissive to one but dominate the other. It's not like I'm unsatisfied when I'm in one kind of relation, craving on what I'm missing out, but my sex drive is totally dependant on how passionate my partner is, his sex drive, his kinks, and fetishes.
 
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My wife of 17 years will not shave her pussy for me. I've asked, pleaded dam right got on my knees and begged for the last 3 years to no avail. Is it me in the wrong trying to pressure her into this or do you think she's got every right to refuse to do it for me.
From what you've written and your choice of words, I'd say your focus should be on your marriage itself. Emotional intimacy and trust translate into good sex, a generous give & take and indulging the other partner's preferences or fantasies.

For 3 years you've been asking, begging, pleading for her give you a bald pussy - what have you offered to her in those 3 years in your sex life together? Have the demands and drudgery of daily life chipped away at the core of your relationship?

17 years is a long time for crap to build up between two people. Maybe it's now the time for both of you to bare your hearts open, before - hopefully - baring bare genitals.
 
From what you've written and your choice of words, I'd say your focus should be on your marriage itself. Emotional intimacy and trust translate into good sex, a generous give & take and indulging the other partner's preferences or fantasies.

For 3 years you've been asking, begging, pleading for her give you a bald pussy - what have you offered to her in those 3 years in your sex life together? Have the demands and drudgery of daily life chipped away at the core of your relationship?

17 years is a long time for crap to build up between two people. Maybe it's now the time for both of you to bare your hearts open, before - hopefully - baring bare genitals.

This is absolutely true.

And somehow very sexy in the way it is said
 
I enjoy being denied and restricted a ton. Whether its being denied to touch somewhere, preform an act, or being completely restricted until I can't take it anymore drives me insane. Specifically being denied of cumming and maybe even touching his cock-makes me go apeshit in a good way. Lol. As much as I enjoy being denied myself, I enjoy denying others permission to do such things. Knowing they enjoy it and hearing them beg makes it so much more electrifying.
 
1. I think that might have been part of it. I can remember touching myself, and feeling ashamed of it, at that early age, but not knowing why I felt ashamed. I just remember not wanting anybody to know I was doing it, because they might be upset with me. Also, when I was growing up sex was not talked about in my family, so it was this really mysterious thing that I didn’t think I’d ever understand or experience for myself. Even in high school and into my twenties it felt completely unattainable for me. There were girls I knew were interested in me, but the thought of making any kind of move on them felt like an outrageous notion, as if they would be completely repulsed by such an advance.

2. The brothel was a bit of a surreal experience. I went on a weekday, in the middle of the day, so I was the only, um, patron who was there, that I know of. I waited in the front parlor, which was decorated sort of like a room in the Playboy Mansion might be, with a mirrored wall and curtains, pin-up art, etc. The lady I had made my appointment with met me in there after several minutes, took me back to her bedroom, where I took a shower and then we had our session. Of course, I paid her up front, and she took that out to the Madame to split it with the house, while I was in the shower. And then we had our session, which was around an hour and a half. After we were done she walked me back out to the front door, where she gave me a big, warm hug and we thanked each other. I stayed in email contact with her for a while, but I never went back after that one visit.

3. Yes, I feel much more of a connection when I watch her videos, and it brings back some really vivid memories of the little bit of time I spent with her. She’s gorgeous, I can’t help thinking the whole time that I’ve literally been there. I’ve actually had wonderful sex with this incredibly beautiful and somewhat famous woman. And that’s a huge turn-on.

What attracted you to her initially?

Did she go a bit all out cause she knew you were a virgin?

Did being with her make the sex you had after that feel any different?

Why did you never return?

(Answer as much or as little as you like)
 
My wife of 17 years will not shave her pussy for me. I've asked, pleaded dam right got on my knees and begged for the last 3 years to no avail. Is it me in the wrong trying to pressure her into this or do you think she's got every right to refuse to do it for me.

Maybe instead of asking her persistently, try asking her how she feels about it and start a convo so you can understand where she's coming from and why she refuses to. There's a reason for everything.

PS: Have you thought of offering to do it for her?
 
Sometimes I feel like I'm so vanilla. There's so much uncharted territory when it comes to sex, every other day there's a new kink or fetish or style that comes up.

Also, for me, different people arouse me in different ways. With one partner, I could be on the shy-no experiment-man on top of the woman level of arousal but there would be someone else with whom I'd be brash and brazen. I could be entirely submissive to one but dominate the other. It's not like I'm unsatisfied when I'm in one kind of relation, craving on what I'm missing out, but my sex drive is totally dependant on how passionate my partner is, his sex drive, his kinks, and fetishes.
All of that is you :) I think the goal to an outstandingly happy life is when you find that one special person that you can be " All of You" with :)
 
My wife of 17 years will not shave her pussy for me. I've asked, pleaded dam right got on my knees and begged for the last 3 years to no avail. Is it me in the wrong trying to pressure her into this or do you think she's got every right to refuse to do it for me.
Good Luck? :)
 
What attracted you to her initially?

Did she go a bit all out cause she knew you were a virgin?

Did being with her make the sex you had after that feel any different?

Why did you never return?

(Answer as much or as little as you like)

The brothel had a website with photos and bios for all of the women who worked there. Of all the women she was the most my “type”, physically. So I contacted her and she was very sweet and kind about the whole thing.

She was very gentle and patient with me, and gave me a lot of good pointers. I think she also gave me a bit of extra cuddle time and conversation after we were finished. It was really a very blissful experience from start to end.

Oh, I almost forgot. While she was riding me, cowgirl style, she leaned down and kissed me on the lips and said, “You can’t have this (motioning toward our lower regions) without that.” She broke a major house rule by doing that.

I think it gave me a lot of new confidence that I wouldn’t have had otherwise. When I had sex with my first girlfriend after that, I would’ve been totally clueless without it.

I never went back because my girlfriend came along pretty soon afterwards. And I’ve been with somebody almost the entire time since.
 
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I enjoy being denied and restricted a ton. Whether its being denied to touch somewhere, preform an act, or being completely restricted until I can't take it anymore drives me insane. Specifically being denied of cumming and maybe even touching his cock-makes me go apeshit in a good way. Lol. As much as I enjoy being denied myself, I enjoy denying others permission to do such things. Knowing they enjoy it and hearing them beg makes it so much more electrifying.
You are talented at the art of denial...
;)
 
I’ve never been into the whole ass spanking thing. The odd time someone’s tried it on me, I’ve either burst out laughing or kicked them really hard and yelled ‘who the fuck are you hitting asshole?’.
Thank you! I love women with spunk....most of them would turn around and smack me back, so I don't slap asses or pull hair. It just seems unfriendly somehow.....maybe I am from a different generation?
 
I love when my beard is soaked after a good 69 session. I am orally fixated and giving is as important as getting in my head.

BTW, anyone else into ANR/ABF?
 
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Dirty talk, love it. Especially while giving oral.

I want to hear just how turned on you are having me on my knees in front of you, as you rub the head of your cock across my parting lips.

Wonderful and picturesque posting....I can't imagine you spend many nights alone. Bravo!
 
Thank you! I love women with spunk....most of them would turn around and smack me back, so I don't slap asses or pull hair. It just seems unfriendly somehow.....maybe I am from a different generation?

I don't think it's because you are from a different generation. More so it's because we are all unique and like different things. I love spanking a woman and pulling her hair. However, if she didn't like it or want me to, I would respect her wishes and certainly not do it. Now if it got to the point where we didn't have much common ground when we were having sex, then it would probably be best for us to go our separate ways.
 
I’ve never been into the whole ass spanking thing. The odd time someone’s tried it on me, I’ve either burst out laughing or kicked them really hard and yelled ‘who the fuck are you hitting asshole?’.
lolol Ooo I can so see you doing that lol :)
 
My wife of 17 years will not shave her pussy for me. I've asked, pleaded dam right got on my knees and begged for the last 3 years to no avail. Is it me in the wrong trying to pressure her into this or do you think she's got every right to refuse to do it for me.
I agree that it has to do with approach. When confronted with a similar situation, I offered to "help" shave it. To ease her worries about itching when it grows back, I offered to leave her a small "landing strip." She enjoyed the attention, I enjoyed the view and mostly I enjoyed the freshly shaved and damp vagina (as it ached for my tongue and lips).
 
I agree that it has to do with approach. When confronted with a similar situation, I offered to "help" shave it. To ease her worries about itching when it grows back, I offered to leave her a small "landing strip." She enjoyed the attention, I enjoyed the view and mostly I enjoyed the freshly shaved and damp vagina (as it ached for my tongue and lips).
lol now that's the way to do it lol :) ...Different shaved shapes are fun to do :)
 

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