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[WomenRfromVenus]

Ok I think theres some confusion about my sexual question and responses.

I originally was curious if majority of the men here had to take the dominant role in sex. Or, if they could keep the pace with a dominant woman.

@Slopps said that he loved strong women, because he enjoyed making them submit.
In response I was saying that some men didn't like bratty women for the fact that, they have to tame them into submission. They don't just willingly take the bottom role.

A brat is someone who creates sexual tension and frustration as a means of buildup and foreplay.

It isn't for everyone. But some enjoy the mental challenge.

 

[Slopps]

Interesting you say this. I think feistiness and strength is very attractive.
But I have seen some say, they do not like bratty women or having to tame bratty women.
Because thats the whole buildup with a brat. Creating tension

I was about to reply, but basically @Edie already did:

There’s a big difference between being a strong woman and being a little brat though. Strength shouldn’t be confused with being an asshole surely?

It's also about her choice: I'm not going to force her to anything, I want her to choose to lose herself in me. Maybe strength was a bit too short: I should have added confident, passionate and many other characteristics...

Brattyness is really unsexy. Also girly/baby voices? Immediate turn off...

 

[SHM1969]

I was about to reply, but basically @Edie already did:

It's also about her choice: I'm not going to force her to anything, I want her to choose to lose herself in me. Maybe strength was a bit too short: I should have added confident, passionate and many other characteristics...

Brattyness is really unsexy. Also girly/baby voices? Immediate turn off...

I agree Slopps if you don’t mind me saying. I like confident women as well. I don’t have an issue with women being dominant in the bedroom either or taking the lead. For me it’s about mutual satisfaction and that over rises everything else imo. I don’t particularly enjoy BDSM. The bratty thing? Not for me.

 

[Slopps]

Ok I think theres some confusion about my sexual question and responses.

I originally was curious if majority of the men here had to take the dominant role in sex. Or, if they could keep the pace with a dominant woman.

@Slopps said that he loved strong women, because he enjoyed making them submit.
In response I was saying that some men didn't like bratty women for the fact that, they have to tame them into submission. They don't just willingly take the bottom role.

A brat is someone who creates sexual tension and frustration as a means of buildup and foreplay.

It isn't for everyone. But some enjoy the mental challenge.

Thanks for the precision. Especially about bratty Ness.... But it remains a no go for me.

If you allow, I'll add another precsion: I don't see myself as a Dom. I guess there as many people as interpretations in what is BDSM, but I don't see it as submission from her somehow. It's more about absolute intimacy. Losing inhibitions, awareness of surroundings, the notion of time or even reality ideally...

 

[Someguy1323]

Ok I think theres some confusion about my sexual question and responses.

I originally was curious if majority of the men here had to take the dominant role in sex. Or, if they could keep the pace with a dominant woman.

@Slopps said that he loved strong women, because he enjoyed making them submit.
In response I was saying that some men didn't like bratty women for the fact that, they have to tame them into submission. They don't just willingly take the bottom role.

A brat is someone who creates sexual tension and frustration as a means of buildup and foreplay.

It isn't for everyone. But some enjoy the mental challenge.

I'm lazy...I love a dominant woman to have their way with me, as long as I don't have to do all the work I'm happy!

 

[MissLed]

I'm lazy...I love a dominant woman to have their way with me, as long as I don't have to do all the work I'm happy!

lol Omg lol it;s like making love to a starfish lol ..Must think it's your birthday every day lol

 

[LilithX]

@Slopps said that he loved strong women, because he enjoyed making them submit.

I think one key word here is “making.” What is actually the turn on is having a powerful woman CHOOSE to give herself. And because certain words just make me cringe, I don’t know that it’s even about “submitting.” It’s about letting go of power and just being. Not to put words in @Slopps mouth. But I might put something else in it. lol

 

[LilithX]

I think theres some misconceptions here about what a brat is.
Especially with the girly voices, thing.

You don't have to be into the BDSM world to be a brat. You don't have to be a top or bottom. It's just a matter of attraction, what we desire, the roles we like in our sex life.
Im bisexual. Im also a switch. I enjoy both roles in the bedroom.

And personally, for me, a meek woman doesn't interest me at all. Sensuality with a man doesn't interest me at all.

Being a brat and taming a brat, for me. Is just playing the role of creating sexual teasing, frustration and buildup. Pushing someones passion and desire for you to the upmost. Till they lose inhibition and control..desire takes over.
Maybe someone like @Thalassa gets more of what Im saying here..Idk

People are probably talking about two different types of brats. Semantics. Those titles are stupid tbh.

 

[MissLed]

Thanks for the precision. Especially about bratty Ness.... But it remains a no go for me.

If you allow, I'll add another precsion: I don't see myself as a Dom. I guess there as many people as interpretations in what is BDSM, but I don't see it as submission from her somehow. It's more about absolute intimacy. Losing inhibitions, awareness of surroundings, the notion of time or even reality ideally...

It's give and take It's all about how you both get to that decision through out the day till evening then through out the night till sunlight And....Some situations call for a dominate partner to shine at the time . Him?...Her? Does it really matter because if you enjoy each others company then things fall into place and you find your self on a completely different emotional plain that only you and your partner share and you can only share that with that one person .

 

[AlexWS]

It's give and take It's all about how you both get to that decision through out the day till evening then through out the night till sunlight And....Some situations call for a dominate partner to shine at the time . Him?...Her? Does it really matter because if you enjoy each others company then things fall into place and you find your self on a completely different emotional plain that only you and your partner share and you can only share that with that one person .

Couldn't have said it better myself if I tried

 

[Edie]

LOL
A brat is an asshole?

you don’t think a brat is an asshole? I personally find that kind of behaviour really annoying and shows a serious personality flaw. Lol

I think the term brat clearly means different things in different countries. Here it conjures up images of spoilt little madams, who do what the want and have a tantrum when things don’t go there way.

 

[WomenRfromVenus]

I can't be bothered by those unaware and ill informed having the need to get moist by running around being brash.
Total mood killer

Shit like this makes forums a fricken downer

 

[MissLed]

I can't be bothered by those unaware and ill informed having the need to get moist by running around being brash.
Total mood killer

Shit like this makes forums a fricken downer

ooo There There xox

 

[Edie]

Not unaware and ill informed. Just pointing out that labels have different meanings to different people and cultures. Far from being brash, only having a conversation.

 

[WomenRfromVenus]

Lol tis fine
Going forward I will just refrain from such discussions and threads.

It's seriously not worth the hassle..nor fun

1 question and 1 response led to 30 minutes of wasted debate

 

[PoliteandNaughty]

What's a decision you made with a woman that you regret?

The biggest regret on a decision I made with a woman was the decision not to ask a certain one out. I met a remarkable lady while I was in college at work. We ended up working together for a couple of years. She was beautiful, highly intelligent, funny, and you get the idea. We hung out a bit as friends, but she had a boyfriend at the time. She was a couple of years older than me and finished college before I did. She got a job in a different state and told me, before she moved, she had broken up with her boyfriend. She asked me to help her move. All the signs were there, but I made an excuse I couldn't help her because I was working and in college. I didn't ask her out and I didn't help her move. Every so often I wonder what would have happened if I would have asked her out/helped her move.

 

[SHM1969]

What's a decision you made with a woman that you regret?

I’d probably say getting married in hindsight. Was a difficult last four or five years together and we did split up twice only to get back together again. Should have stayed apart. Made me a stronger person so some positives have come from it

 

[LilithX]

Not unaware and ill informed. Just pointing out that labels have different meanings to different people and cultures. Far from being brash, only having a conversation.

Lol tis fine
Going forward I will just refrain from such discussions and threads.

It's seriously not worth the hassle..nor fun

1 question and 1 response led to 30 minutes of wasted debate

Because I love the two of you sexy, smart, strong willed women, I’m gonna give my two cents. I think Edie took Brat to mean the general term... an asshole. Venus was referring to a specific title, which is more of a tease. So, because tone is hard to read/convey, it sounded like maybe Edie was putting down that type by calling them an asshole. But I don’t think that’s what she meant it to be. Now, let’s three way kiss and make up.

 

[Edie]

Because I love the two of you sexy, smart, strong willed women, I’m gonna give my two cents. I think Edie took Brat to mean the general term... an asshole. Venus was referring to a specific title, which is more of a tease. So, because tone is hard to read/convey, it sounded like maybe Edie was putting down that type by calling them an asshole. But I don’t think that’s what she meant it to be. Now, let’s three way kiss and make up.

...maybe we should start a thread dedicated solely to the wonders and ambiguity of words /phrases. Lol

 

[PoliteandNaughty]

Do you have a preference as to who should go down first or do you not mind the order and just let go and let it happen depending on heat of moment, mood or who's lips end up at who's bits first?

Honestly have no preference whatsoever! With me it's generally a heat of the moment/mood thing. For example... I'm kissing her neck, breasts, and stomach. Her hands begin my head down to her pussy rather deliberately. If that is the case then I'm going to dive deep inside of her with my tongue. Alternatively if we are kissing deeply and she breaks the kiss, moving her head down to my arousal, then I'm all for it.

I'm also totally fine if she asks me straight up to perform oral on her before she does it on me.

Do you prefer it to be reciprocated by both of you at some stage during your romp or that only one of you should take Centre stage and get all the attention within one full round?

For me it absolutely does not have to be reciprocated by either party. If that is something we both want to do, then it will happen. Otherwise if she only wants me to give her all the attention (or I'm in the mood to give her all the attention), then I'm extremely pleased to perform oral on her only. Likewise, if she just wants me inside of her mouth and nothing else, I'm very much onboard with it. Sometimes it is just very exciting to only focus on her or totally having her focused on me. Then there are those times we are both so sexually starved I want my tongue inside of her and she is aching for my hardness in her mouth.

Oh I've probably gone on long enough! Short answer, it definitely doesn't have to be reciporacted, but if it is I'm generally quite fine with it!