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You’ve had a huge falling out. You both want no contact. He never even liked you that much. Then he texts six months later asking for pics and a hookup. Why bother?
My orgasms are quite different during sex than when I masturbate. In my personal experience, I have the most intense orgasms during sex with penetration. Especially if I'm doing something else to her (spanking, pulling her hair, some light choking, sucking her neck) while being inside of her. Also the wetter she is, the harder and more I'm going to orgasm. Those orgasms when I'm inside of her, she is so wet, and I'm groping/spanking her ass is what I would call "mind blowing".
Oral orgasms are definitely different than ones I have during masturbation. Being inside of her mouth, watching her mouth move up and down, my eyes intently watching everything she does... Damn, what a sight. Throw in a little hair pulling and well, yeah, it is quite amazing. Definitely better and more intense than ones I have during masturbation.
Now orgasms while masturbating can be quite intense as well. It has to be an orgasm which is drawn out over time while masturbating. Maybe where I have teased myself and edged for a bit. Still not quite as good and intense as ones during sex, but still damn good.
Honestly to me it is being with another person and doing certain/different things during sex which make the orgasms better for me than ones during masturbation.
The older I have gotten, the less I watch porn. It is to the point now I hardly ever watch it unless I am in a very specific mood. Generally I find it too fake/showy and just not a turn on to me. Every so often I can find some amateur or home made porn which is decent.
Back to your specific question. I have watched porn with my partner before. It's been quite a while since I've done it. The way I did it was I just asked her if she was interested in watching porn. She said sure, but she wanted something which wasn't hardcore... More soft core porn I suppose. I looked around and found something I thought we would both enjoy. I put it on, we sat on the couch, and we watched it. Was quite a wonderful evening. We only did it a few times, but it was always a pleasure experience. She was the only one I've ever watched porn with and it has been a while ago.
I wouldn't be opposed to watching porn with a partner again, but it would really have to be a particular kind we both enjoyed and felt comfortable with.
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Flirtinghubby
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Doesn't bother me in the least. Typically there's some adrenaline going on, some exhilaration already. Why not utilize it. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Funny question but its true tho
Why do guys have to get naked, when using the restroom?
I just can't imagine us women strippin down every time
Lol
Why do guys have to get naked, when using the restroom?
I just can't imagine us women strippin down every time
Lol
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lucky_luke
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I guess that you're talking about home and not public right? So... Who does that? Cause personally I don't. I keep my clothes on
I fucking HATE when I go to football games or sporting events and you have that one dude that needs to drop his pants down to his ankles. I have never done it and never will. WTF?!?
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lucky_luke
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Personally speaking, I don't get naked when I got the bathroom. I unbutton/unzip, pull down just ever so slightly in the front, and then take care of business. Not sure what the point of being naked is when going to the bathroom. It doesn't make it any easier and it takes more time to get naked and then put clothes back on. Seems like being naked to go the bathroom is self-defeating.
I'm not saying guys don't do this in general or not - my knowledge is pretty much limited to what I do and what my closest relatives do based on living with them when I was growing up. Now as Alex says when you go to large sporting events you generally almost see a guy (or two or three) who drops his damn pants all the way down to his ankles. Never made sense to me.
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Curvy
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Why do some men value beauty so highly for a relationship?
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Flirtinghubby
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I've heard of a very few that do this. I dunno why. I think its in the vast minority though. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
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Flirtinghubby
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"Some men" is pretty vague. So I would say there's a lot of superficial people out there. Male and female. I think there's also a fair amount of people who really care mostly about themselves and their partners are more sexual companions and spouses than soulmates. So perhaps these self absorbed type personalities rarely get close enough to people to fall in love with some one "less than perfect" per se. I know people whose spouse is more of an accessory than a life partner.
You'll always have people who value beauty/looks over everything else. This includes women. I'll keep the topic strictly to men since we are in the 'Ask a Man' thread.
I don't know how many men value beauty extremely high in a relationship. I think for most there definitely has to be a physical attraction. Your body has to react to your partner's body (at least that is the way it is for me). However, I don't value beauty or looks more than I do any of the following: intelligence, personality, how a woman treats other people, how she treats me, how she treats herself, and if she takes care of herself. Those are all just as important (and in some cases more important) than beauty. I've often said a woman could be exquisitely beautiful, but if she is an ice cold person or treats others like dirt, then she is totally unattractive to me.
In answering your question I think some men may take the approach of valuing beauty over everything else because they feel like a woman is just someone to sleep with and show off. In other words they have 'conquered' this exquisite beauty and they feel all powerful. Personally I find this distasteful, but it may help explain why some men (and I don't think it is a lot) value beauty so highly.
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Well said.
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Curvy
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Thanks I had experience with a guy like this. He was divorced from a real beauty (and a bit of a ‘princess’) and, while I have some nice features, I’m not the body beautiful with olive skin that he wants. He wanted to use me as a booty call which is an insult. He went out with another fairly attractive and very intelligent girl who he said was also not the one, despite taking her virginity. He just dumped her for another beauty a few weeks ago. He has immediately updated his relationship status on fb to ‘in a relationship’ which he failed to do for the other girl he has been seeing for 6 months +. Seems beauty conquers all. It’s a shame he always gets such beautiful women because he is a total wanker.
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Hubby_Home_Alone
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Curvy
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Same. I guess in a new, exciting relationship, sex every day is normal.geez...
I wish I could talk about sex in terms of 24 hour periods...
I don't necessarily believe 'beauty conquers all'. Some men do value beauty more than anything else. Some men will put up with a lot more from a woman if she is exquisitely beautiful. All I can apply is my personal experience. I don't value beauty any more than intelligence, personality, etc. Again there absolutely must be a physical attraction, but even if there was and she was an ice cold you know what I would think she wasn't beautiful at all.
Unfortunately it seems like you had an experience with a guy who just uses women and is way too focused on looks. Those kind of men do exist unfortunately.