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PoliteandNaughty said:
I don't necessarily believe 'beauty conquers all'. Some men do value beauty more than anything else. Some men will put up with a lot more from a woman if she is exquisitely beautiful. All I can apply is my personal experience. I don't value beauty any more than intelligence, personality, etc. Again there absolutely must be a physical attraction, but even if there was and she was an ice cold you know what I would think she wasn't beautiful at all.

Unfortunately it seems like you had an experience with a guy who just uses women and is way too focused on looks. Those kind of men do exist unfortunately.
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Well, once I realised what he was doing, I stopped our little arrangement. Some women like bad boy behaviour but it turns me off. Once you disrespect me, it leaves me cold. As much as I missed some aspects of being physically with him, I could never go back. Like I said to him, his attitude killed everything. Yes I need to lose a bit of weight. I can’t wait to wiggle past him in my lbd once I achieve my goal as I have a lovely shape. He won’t know what’s hit him!

His attitude made it hard to enjoy the sex and he was only interested in his own pleasure. I may not be little miss perfect but he was a crap lover!
 
I dont know if these question(s) have been asked yet, so my apologies if they have.

Men,

When preforming sexual acts, do you like to "hold off" and let your partner finish first? Or do you like to cum together and feel that type of specific sensation when doing so? Why or why not? Is there a specific preference of how/where you like to cum when those sexual acts take place?

And lastly, I've heard talk of foreplay on here before, so I was wondering if foreplay could be enough to make a man actually cum?
 
SubSoph said:
I dont know if these question(s) have been asked yet, so my apologies if they have.

Men,

When preforming sexual acts, do you like to "hold off" and let your partner finish first? Or do you like to cum together and feel that type of specific sensation when doing so? Why or why not? Is there a specific preference of how/where you like to cum when those sexual acts take place?

And lastly, I've heard talk of foreplay on here before, so I was wondering if foreplay could be enough to make a man actually cum?
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most of the times i hold off to let my parter finish and it really does give great satisfaction if u cum together, why because after this you feel like it was "deseved" idk haha and i usually like to cum on the stomach and definetly foreplay could make us cum
 
PoliteandNaughty said:
You'll always have people who value beauty/looks over everything else. This includes women. I'll keep the topic strictly to men since we are in the 'Ask a Man' thread.

I don't know how many men value beauty extremely high in a relationship. I think for most there definitely has to be a physical attraction. Your body has to react to your partner's body (at least that is the way it is for me). However, I don't value beauty or looks more than I do any of the following: intelligence, personality, how a woman treats other people, how she treats me, how she treats herself, and if she takes care of herself. Those are all just as important (and in some cases more important) than beauty. I've often said a woman could be exquisitely beautiful, but if she is an ice cold person or treats others like dirt, then she is totally unattractive to me.

In answering your question I think some men may take the approach of valuing beauty over everything else because they feel like a woman is just someone to sleep with and show off. In other words they have 'conquered' this exquisite beauty and they feel all powerful. Personally I find this distasteful, but it may help explain why some men (and I don't think it is a lot) value beauty so highly.
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Same. Lol. So well articulated.
 
SubSoph said:
I dont know if these question(s) have been asked yet, so my apologies if they have.

Men,

When preforming sexual acts, do you like to "hold off" and let your partner finish first? Or do you like to cum together and feel that type of specific sensation when doing so? Why or why not? Is there a specific preference of how/where you like to cum when those sexual acts take place?

And lastly, I've heard talk of foreplay on here before, so I was wondering if foreplay could be enough to make a man actually cum?
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Great questions. ❤️

I always make sure she cums first. I'm a giver so I'm always focused on their needs before mine. I will say though, cumming together is great...but making them cum...then cum again...then having her WANT to make YOU cum after is an amazing feeling. Where and how I like to cum usually is guided by my partner and where and how she likes me too. I have a preference of cumming while rubbing my shaft on her clit...and I've wanted to...well I think I'll save the other preference for private eyes/ears ;)

As for foreplay, it has made me cum before because it was very sudden, passionate and visceral...but few minutes later I was ready to go again. I think foreplay is really important though. Great way to figure out what each other likes. ❤️
 
SubSoph said:
I dont know if these question(s) have been asked yet, so my apologies if they have.

Men,

When preforming sexual acts, do you like to "hold off" and let your partner finish first? Or do you like to cum together and feel that type of specific sensation when doing so? Why or why not? Is there a specific preference of how/where you like to cum when those sexual acts take place?

And lastly, I've heard talk of foreplay on here before, so I was wondering if foreplay could be enough to make a man actually cum?
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I think i'd probably let her cum first and then take that as a queue for my time to cum, if we could cum together that would be nice but i'd mostly focus on making sure she feels good rather than worrying about timing our splooges :P
I'll be honest i'd mostly be in favour of just cumming either deep in or on her pussy, but i'd be willing to do face, ass, anywhere on the body really if she asked though.

Unsure if foreplay alone would make me cum but i'll guess i'll fine out eventually.
 
SubSoph said:
When preforming sexual acts, do you like to "hold off" and let your partner finish first? Or do you like to cum together and feel that type of specific sensation when doing so? Why or why not? Is there a specific preference of how/where you like to cum when those sexual acts take place?
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I always preferred letting my partner finish first, even if I have to tie them up and go down on them until they're satiated. ;)
All kidding aside, I think it's something that both partners should talk about and decide together. Communication is key in any relationship. Try both and see which way you both prefer. No reason to always do the same thing the same way all the time either. But I do think there's something special about getting a partner to cum from giving them oral.
Now to find a partner...
 
If the sex isn't good you got to say something...
When I first got with Jen even before we hooked up. Her exact words "if the sex isn't good I ain't staying."

Got me thinking.... Which opened my eyes. The way I want to feel good before orgasms... I'm going to give her that to. There was a time there when I got selfish and would go out alot. She told me straight "fuck me first. then go do your thing" and I can imagine someone doing her what I do to her. I took care of my baby.

Then again she to k care of me. And I would take care of her.

It's only right if you cum she cums..
You got to mix it up keep it exciting.

You got to communicate. Let each know. Your couple so you should let it all out.
 
PoliteandNaughty said:
I don't necessarily believe 'beauty conquers all'. Some men do value beauty more than anything else. Some men will put up with a lot more from a woman if she is exquisitely beautiful. All I can apply is my personal experience. I don't value beauty any more than intelligence, personality, etc. Again there absolutely must be a physical attraction, but even if there was and she was an ice cold you know what I would think she wasn't beautiful at all.

Unfortunately it seems like you had an experience with a guy who just uses women and is way too focused on looks. Those kind of men do exist unfortunately.
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Your Beautiful :) xox
 
claudia692 said:
whenever i go to the sauna mostly every men stares at my naked body either in the coed changing room or in the showers
but no one ever approaches me why is that?
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It might be the vibe you are sending off possibly. You might give off the vibe to look and see but not to touch and the men are just respecting that

Another possibility is the groups of men in your area some men, who might I say narcissistic might come up to you.

However some men may feel threatened that they are inferior or less. They might shy away from trying to talk cause they feel that you are out of there league.

Then again they could just like looking and nothing else
 
SubSoph said:
I dont know if these question(s) have been asked yet, so my apologies if they have.

Men,

When preforming sexual acts, do you like to "hold off" and let your partner finish first? Or do you like to cum together and feel that type of specific sensation when doing so? Why or why not? Is there a specific preference of how/where you like to cum when those sexual acts take place?
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Speaking from personal experience whether she cums first, we cum together, or I cum first depends on our moods, desires, and what we want. If we have discussed before having sex about one of us wanting the other to cum, then that is what I'll focus on. If we are in the heat of the moment and decide we are going to try to cum together, then we are going to do our damn best to make sure it happens (though I'll admit sometimes I end up cumming before she does).

However, if we haven't discussed it beforehand and we are in a passionate moment or having sex, I'm going to do everything in my power to help her cum first. It's a huge turn on to me to help her cum before I do. There are times when I want to hell her cum multiple times before I do if at all possible. Not saying I always have the stamina to do this, but in those occasions I can it is absolutely an incredibly feeling to help her cum multiple times while I hold out.

It really gets down to what you and your partner want together. I've seen communication mentioned as being a key and I agree, for the most part. You definitely want to know what each other want and desire. Sometimes though it is just so fun to let desire, lust, and your sexual drive take over in the hear of the moment.

SubSoph said:
And lastly, I've heard talk of foreplay on here before, so I was wondering if foreplay could be enough to make a man actually cum?
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I can certainly cum just from foreplay. Happened a few times before. Foreplay isn't always necessary for me and sometimes (again depending on the mood and what we both want) I skip it all together. However, I've been involved in some fairly intense foreplay sessions and yes, I have came during some of those.
 
WomenRfromVenus said:
Funny question but its true tho

Why do guys have to get naked, when using the restroom?

I just can't imagine us women strippin down every time
Lol
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Be rest assured this does not happen in a public lavatory. Men that enter a cubical for a sit down wee should also be ashamed. Stand up and piss on the urinal cake like a pro. Do not fear the splash back!
 
With reference to earlier comments about beauty first for men, that's bollocks. In an ideal fantasy maybe. But not in reality.

Beauty is only skin deep. Most women with "super good looks" tend to be gold digging, shallow, vain, high maintenance drama queens. Most men dislike all that kinda nonsense.

Actions always speak louder. Appearances are always fleeting. So someone who is fun is worth more personal investment than someone who is just a stunner.

If you get both in one package without the BS drama. You're a lucky bastard.
 
Have you considered what civilization would be like if women we're dominant or became the dominant force? Would things still be the same as they are now and or would things change?
 
YadaYada said:
Have you considered what civilization would be like if women we're dominant or became the dominant force? Would things still be the same as they are now and or would things change?
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I'm not a man, but this is one hell of a stupid question. Men and women should be equal, none more "dominant" than the other. I don't understand why the civilization would change, if both are equal. At least in my eyes, men are not superior. Neither are women. I didnt know men were considered a "dominant force," but damn, I lost brain cells reading that.:rolleyes:
 
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