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Thalassa said:
1. Probability. There are more women with self esteem, self worth and body issues than not. There are more men who are assholes and jerks than not. Therefore the occurrence of such relationships are greater than positive relationships which means we notice more of those. Sometimes women pick men who are like their dad who parented poorly, because that is what they've seen a relationship as being, that's all they know (if the other relationships surrounding them are such as well).

2. Assholes tend to be overly confident. A reasonable degree of confidence is considered attractive. That's a carryover from cavemen days where men who were successful in feeding their family and procreating were and had to be confident. The "overly confident" trait is however pure arrogance. It isn't always noticeable especially in men who know how to lie and manipulate as they'll balance out that arrogance with false gestures of kindness and caring. That's how some women get entrapped.

3. As I mentioned previously such men typically lie and manipulate, with false stories of their past and present events that aren't within view of those women, thereby creating a "reality" for the woman, who is trusting, and cannot separate lies from truths.

3. Shitty life circumstances. Life's ups and downs can cause women to make wrong decisions thay they otherwise would not make, and go for that wrong kind of guy.

Ergo, it's not all "fascination". There's a lot of predatory manipulation. There are also circumstances.
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Unfortunately there are a frighteningly lot of narcissists out there.
 
PoliteandNaughty said:
Is it important for you to orgasm when you play/have sex with your partner? Why or why not?
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If neither of us come to orgasm, then it is no biggie. I think satisfaction was reached in other ways.

But if there is a mismatch in number of orgasms enjoyed (with the balance tipping not in my favour ;) ) and not that I'm counting (I have an app for that)...it is easy to be left feeling used, undesirable, unworthy and a whole heap of other negative emotions. Like Thalassa so beautifully put it, those moments leave you feeling cared for.

As for solo-play, orgasms are a delightful gift to give oneself. While it isn't really necessary at all for me to orgasm while masturbating, there are days that are made all the brighter for a great self induced orgasm.
 
duncanh1n3z said:
Interestingly (and disappointingly) it does happen the other way round as well - I myself have been the victim of women manipulators in more than one occasion. They made use of my trust and compromised emotional strength (due to this thing I think we all call 'love'). Lesson learnt the hard way.
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Some of us are destined to learn the hard way ...But at least we learn lol :)
 
Ladies! Question! How many of you have tried a waist trainer? I'm debating on getting one :rolleyes:.. well not debating, totally getting one! But who has tried or heard good or bad things about them?
 
xDawnBBW said:
Ladies! Question! How many of you have tried a waist trainer? I'm debating on getting one :rolleyes:.. well not debating, totally getting one! But who has tried or heard good or bad things about them?
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*asks google what is a "waist trainer"*
Can't say I have used one. But I am excited to see your before/afters!:rolleyes: Maybe a new "spring into shape" thread is called for. I'm curious though, what is so appealing about the waist trainer for you?
 
xDawnBBW said:
Ladies! Question! How many of you have tried a waist trainer? I'm debating on getting one :rolleyes:.. well not debating, totally getting one! But who has tried or heard good or bad things about them?
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I had to google what it was. From what I read it isn’t something I would ever do. It sounds as if it could do more damage then good, so I would just say if you do decide to get one please be careful.
 
FireflyEyes said:
*asks google what is a "waist trainer"*
Can't say I have used one. But I am excited to see your before/afters!:rolleyes: Maybe a new "spring into shape" thread is called for. I'm curious though, what is so appealing about the waist trainer for you?
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1) I am not enthusiastic with what I have read about it. Here is one good link:
https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/do-waist-trainers-work#are-they-safe

2) People use waste trainers to look like you - so...no relevance to you definitely lol

3) Nothing beats healthy eating and regular exercise (typing this while I binge on ice cream lol...:p)
Jinxy said:
I had to google what it was. From what I read it isn’t something I would ever do. It sounds as if it could do more damage then good, so I would just say if you do decide to get one please be careful.
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What @Jinxy said :D
 
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xDawnBBW said:
Ladies! Question! How many of you have tried a waist trainer? I'm debating on getting one :rolleyes:.. well not debating, totally getting one! But who has tried or heard good or bad things about them?
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I would generally stay away from waist trainers because they are kinda sketchy however, I am a corset trainer and participate in waist training and I find it to be safer and better for you. It also depends generally on your goals. Corset training will never replace diet and exercise it will only give you definition and shape. Also if you're trying to look like Jessica Rabbit, with significant dramatic definition results like those are very rare and often are the results of surgery, not waist training.
 
Busty_Nerd said:
I would generally stay away from waist trainers because they are kinda sketchy however, I am a corset trainer and participate in waist training and I find it to be safer and better for you. It also depends generally on your goals. Corset training will never replace diet and exercise it will only give you definition and shape. Also if you're trying to look like Jessica Rabbit, with significant dramatic definition results like those are very rare and often are the results of surgery, not waist training.
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Physical perfection is way too overrated.
In a lady, nothing is more beautiful then natural curves, a good heart and kindness.
A good heart and kindness is damn sexy as hell :)
 
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duncanh1n3z said:
Physical perfection is way too overrated.
In a lady, nothing is more beautiful then natural curves, a good heart and kindness.
A good heart and kindness is damn sexy as hell :)
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Really it has nothing to do with physical perfection, some people are unhappy with how they look and want to change it and that isn't a bad thing. Corset training can change the definition of your body shape if you do it properly, but it will never replace dieting if you're hoping it will make you slimmer. That's a nice sentiment, but there's nothing wrong with wanting to change your appearance because you're unhappy with it.
 
Busty_Nerd said:
Really it has nothing to do with physical perfection, some people are unhappy with how they look and want to change it and that isn't a bad thing. Corset training can change the definition of your body shape if you do it properly, but it will never replace dieting if you're hoping it will make you slimmer. That's a nice sentiment, but there's nothing wrong with wanting to change your appearance because you're unhappy with it.
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Totally agree! I think people just need to remember there are no quick fixes. Everything takes time and dedication. What ever people chose to do they should just go into it with a proper understanding of what they are doing. Also with realistic outcomes.

I’ve found that as I’ve gotten older my mind has turned more to fitness and keeping my body healthy. And try to just avoid mirrors hahaha :rolleyes:
 
xDawnBBW said:
Thanks ladies! Yeah. I'm dieting and losing weight.. need to exercise :rolleyes: just thought I'd try some shaping up while I'm at it
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I think waist trainers are not the way to go. I would suggest corset training instead. Waist trainers tend to be fabric based only, made of cheap material, and they lose elasticity easily and I just think it's not a good long term solution if you want to change your shape. Here are some corset training basics. You would want steel boned (not fashion corsets) fashion corsets are dangerous to waist train into (but cute to wear normally) fashion corsets are not steel boned they are plastic boning which can cut into your body and hurt you and cause long term damage to your body. No Amazon, no China for purchase this way you can know for sure if the garment is actually steel boned because amazon and other places will lie about details like this. You need a tape measure to know your actual measurements. There are two types of corsets over bust which go over your boobs and under bust which go directly under your bust. Under bust will push your boobs up so if you have large titties you may have to deal with that. Once you know your actual measurements you don't actually buy what you'd normally wear like if you were buying a dress. You would buy 3-4 inches smaller than your actual waist if you want any definition. If you don't do this and just buy your actual size, you will not get any definition which defeats the purpose of buying a corset. Waist training involves wearing a corset for long hours every day. It takes getting used to.

Anyways it's not for everyone. :) waist trainers can be okay if you're wearing a tight dress and wanna push in your pudge. But it won't change your shape. If you train correctly your shape will change.
 
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